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Anonymous wrote:OP, at one time or another we all do things with or for our families that we truly didn't want to. That being said, I understand where you are coming from you just had your daughter and it's a weekend where you would like to just enjoy your new family, we all get that. Go go along with it and try to make the best of it and enjoy as much as you can.
This year my parents celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary in Europe where they currently live. Just to fly a family of 4 there is over $5k, this does not include car rental, and other expenses while we are there, this trip will easily cost $8k. My parents are retired and they could easily come here where they lived for 30 years and have a party. But they are choosing to have a ceremony at the church were they were married back in the '60s and then a reception afterwards. We are all going, because I know how much this means to them and we will have a good time, and this allows my kids an opportunity to experience the culture in which I was raised. Would I rather spend $8k on other things, you betcha! I've been in my house for almost 8 years and still don't have proper drapes in my living room and dining room..... etc. [/quote
OP Here - I am in no way complaining about the cost of traveling home. My issue is them "requiring" the attendee's to spend $$$ on the activities at a party we are invited to. I'm sure Nemacolin is beautiful and we'll have a fine time, it's just frustrating that they want us to shell out that kind of money. I would much rather them ask everyone what activities they want to do, and pay for that in lieu of the hotel room (and let us figure out our accommodations, which makes FAR more sense).
I realize I may sound a bit entitled, but I am a new mom, and am completely enamored in my new little family. I also realize it would take me far too long to list out the many "interactions" I've had with my inlaws to give you more background, and sadly we've already set some boundaries (after 10 years I finally got my FIL to stop kissing me on the lips...), but they are very set in their ways and there will be many a battles down the road, and MIL's 60's birthday isn't a battle I'm willing to pick. We'll go, I'm sure DH, DD, and I will have fun (whatever we end up doing), and I'll just hope we don't end up spending $1,000!
I agree with you about not shelling out $$$ you can't afford for anything, 60th bday or not, but you lost me with that statement. Sounds like you are well on your way to turning into a few of my now, former friends....women who have kids and become gaga obsessed over "their new little family."
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