SIL will never host another family Christmas Eve party.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you say that your or your MIL always host. So what if she "demanded" to host for a year? Why should she have to "demand" it if you and your MIL have already taken your turns doing it our way in your own homes? I'm surprised that anyone would be so rude as to not offer other relatives the opportunity to host holiday meals. That's especially true if they're happy about a new house they bought. My DH and I were very excited when we bought our current house, and we wanted to start making family memories here as soon as we could.

Also, is it possible that your brother wanted to have a holiday meal with his family at his new house? Perhaps his wife agreed to do it even though she really doesn't like the family and wasn't all that into it? I could see my DH wanting us to host even if we weren't prepared or if I had a lot going on at the time and simply didn't want to take the time. Are you sure you're not blaming her for something that was your brother's responsibility or idea?

From your description, your SIL sounds wacky, but frankly so do you a bit. Maybe you just don't like each other, which is fine. But to rag on someone's holiday party to this extent and to decree that "SIL will never host another family Christmas Even party" seems really extreme and silly.

This! It's funny that OP assumes its the SIL. There have been a few parties where DH insisted we host his family (that I don't particularly care for) and usually when there was a crap-load of things I needed to get done. I told him "Fine, but you do the party planning - I can't do any of it" and I meant it. I left it up to him and let me tell you - a bag of salad sounds WAY more classy than what my DH did to prepare for these parties. I'm sure his mother and sister both talked about ME planning a horrible party - but I don't care - DH insisted and would always say "it's no big deal, let's have them over" so I'd just let him do everything. I definitely saw some eyerolls those evenings.

OP how do you know the same thing didn't happen this time (and BTW, if I decided to have a party for our friends, or it was a joint decision - those parties would be way more fabulous because I'd be doing the prepping)

So you passive agressively passed it off on your husband, knowing he'd screw it up, and wonder why your MIL and SIL talked about how bad it was? Serves you right.