SAHM moms do you put on makeup everyday? Drop kids off in pajamas at preschool?

[Anonymous]

I am a WAH mom and putting a nice outfit on and some very simple makeup makes me feel human and good about myself. When I run into a friend at school I don't feel like a schlump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious, what does your mother think of how you dress? I am ultra casual tee shirt and jeans. I don't go out in jogging pants unless I go to the gym and wear minimal makeup. My mom when visiting always reprimands me to dress up, take more pride in my appearance. I also wonder why I can't get my DD to wear a dress, all she wants to wear is... jeans and a tee shirt.

I think a lot of people on this thread are channeling lessons learned from their moms growing up. "You should be ashamed of yourself wearing that. Have some standards! A lady doesn't leave the house without her makeup and earrings...." Etc.

If you want your daughter to dress a certain way, that is what you have to hammer in over and over again. "We just don't do that. Jeans are NOT appropriate wear. Have some respect for yourself by dressing appropriately" and so on.

My mom never did that to me so I feel fine wearing schlumpy clothes, personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious, what does your mother think of how you dress? I am ultra casual tee shirt and jeans. I don't go out in jogging pants unless I go to the gym and wear minimal makeup. My mom when visiting always reprimands me to dress up, take more pride in my appearance. I also wonder why I can't get my DD to wear a dress, all she wants to wear is... jeans and a tee shirt.

I think a lot of people on this thread are channeling lessons learned from their moms growing up. "You should be ashamed of yourself wearing that. Have some standards! A lady doesn't leave the house without her makeup and earrings...." Etc.

If you want your daughter to dress a certain way, that is what you have to hammer in over and over again. "We just don't do that. Jeans are NOT appropriate wear. Have some respect for yourself by dressing appropriately" and so on.

My mom never did that to me so I feel fine wearing schlumpy clothes, personally.

My mom did that to me and I actually feel much better being frumpy than dressing up.

[Anonymous]

My mom always dressed to the nines when she left the house. She was always the best dressed mom dropping kids off at school. One morning we woke up late and mom had to rush around getting us ready. She dropped us off at school while she was in her bathrobe, with curlers in her hair. We just made it before the bell. I ran into the school, and thought my mom left. About 20 minutes later I had to go to the office to pay my lunch money, and there was mom in her bathrobe and curlers, waiting for my dad. The car broke down!! This was of course before cell phones. But, to this day, I always make sure I am dressed before I leave the house.

[Anonymous]

I would never go anywhere in pajamas and no makeup. If I was deathly ill and had to drop my DC off like that, I wouldn't go in the building. Maybe it's vanity, maybe it's because I'm from the south and we're all raised this way, but I don't go a day without fixing my hair and makeup and wearing a decent outfit.

This is me as well. I won't even check the mail without being dressed, including hair and make-up. I'm from the south as well. Maybe it's a southern thing. During any of my many teenage drama moments, my mother's advise was always "Sweetie, put a little lipstick on. You'll feel better". And you know what? She was right.

So to answer the question, I am a stay-at-home mother. Unless my house was on fire, I wouldn't leave in pajamas with messy hair and no make-up.

One more thing...for all you SAHMs...you do realize that your husband goes to work every day and sees many women who do take the time to get dressed, do their hair, and fix their make-up. Just sayin'. Take some pride in your appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I would never go anywhere in pajamas and no makeup. If I was deathly ill and had to drop my DC off like that, I wouldn't go in the building. Maybe it's vanity, maybe it's because I'm from the south and we're all raised this way, but I don't go a day without fixing my hair and makeup and wearing a decent outfit.

This is me as well. I won't even check the mail without being dressed, including hair and make-up. I'm from the south as well. Maybe it's a southern thing. During any of my many teenage drama moments, my mother's advise was always "Sweetie, put a little lipstick on. You'll feel better". And you know what? She was right.

So to answer the question, I am a stay-at-home mother. Unless my house was on fire, I wouldn't leave in pajamas with messy hair and no make-up.

One more thing...for all you SAHMs...you do realize that your husband goes to work every day and sees many women who do take the time to get dressed, do their hair, and fix their make-up. Just sayin'. Take some pride in your appearance.

He can look all he wants. He still comes home to me, tells me that he still loves me, thinks I'm beautiful and doing a wonderful job taking care of our children. When we go out together I wear something nice. When we're at home, I'm not putting on a fashion show and he wouldn't care even if I did.

[Anonymous]

I'm the person you described, OP....except I'm in dropping off at an elem school in Loudoun County. I pride myself in wearing crocks with flamboyant socks to compliment my pajamas and my hair scrunched up in a bun....oh and the topper...NO BRA!! Frankly, I don't care.

[Anonymous]

I drop of my son 2 to 3 days a week in yoga pants and a sweatshirt (and no bra....gasp!). I work part time and go in at 10am. I don't want to waste our morning time with the kids watching TV while I take a shower, dress, etc. I would rather shower when I get home (by myself) and enjoy some quiet. I don't give a rats ass what other people think...seriously. But then again, I never have. I grew up in the south, but spent a good portion of my childhood in sports and went around in sweats/warm-ups and hats....which I still do. My husband doesn't seem to care, and if he did, I would wonder if he had a stroke.

[Anonymous]

Seriously people you take pride in being a slob? Going out like that gives SAHM momS a bad rap!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't wear makeup unless I'm attending a wedding or something. I WOH. I have worn yoga pants, but not flannel PJs, in public.

I was at the playground recently and there was a woman there who had clearly spent a long time doing her hair and makeup, but she was wearing ratty old pajama pants and a worn out t-shirt. I thought it was odd you'd take the time to do up your face but not bother to change your clothes.

". . . . at the playground. . ." Maybe she's one of those Moms who likes to get down and dirty at the playground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously people you take pride in being a slob? Going out like that gives SAHM momS a bad rap!

Honey, I WAH full-time making big bucks. I also don't waste time working on my appearance to walk my kindergartener and preschooler into school. I am going to the gym after before I start my work day anyways.

Some of us WAH moms may be the culprits. If I didn't work I'd have a lot more time to worry about what I looked like and be hanging onto my husbands paycheck for fear he'd leave me. Things I don't worry about since I can support myself and kids if need be.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in the south and absolutely hate that half of the time I don't go places because it's been ingrained in me that DD and I should look a certain way, and I just don't feel like getting it all together.

From now on I'm adopting a very relaxed look for both of us on the weekends, and as relaxed as I can get it during the week. We'll be having fun during the time the rest of the world is trying to look fabulous!

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, the world is cruel, and some women can wear no makeup and pajamas and look 10x sexier than I do even freshly showered, made up, and dressed nicely.

So making the argument that we should doll up so our husbands don't look at other women is silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never would I show up in pajamas. I don't generally wear makeup, lucky enough still not to need it really, maybe just a little blush and mascara. I am usually on the way to the gym when I drop off at preschool so I have on workout clothes.

really? I'd take Pajama Mom over you any old day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously people you take pride in being a slob? Going out like that gives SAHM momS a bad rap!

Honey, I WAH full-time making big bucks. I also don't waste time working on my appearance to walk my kindergartener and preschooler into school. I am going to the gym after before I start my work day anyways.

Some of us WAH moms may be the culprits. If I didn't work I'd have a lot more time to worry about what I looked like and be hanging onto my husbands paycheck for fear he'd leave me. Things I don't worry about since I can support myself and kids if need be.

You reek of insecurity.