Brother and SIL situation

[Anonymous]

Some people decide they don't like their in-laws. Then actual in-laws appear.

[Anonymous]

I recently cut my own parents out of my life and my children's life, so maybe I can provide a possibility.

My parents were extremely abusive. My mother has a personality disorder and is unable to empathize. She has, throughout my life, cast me as the scape goat in our family dynamic. Nothing I can do is right. Now, it was all well and good and I could live with them being who they are UNTIL I became a parent. She continued to verbally abuse (subtle) me and whispered manipulations to my children, "You're prettier than your sister." There's a ton more, but you don't need the details.
I went into a limited contact mode with them for several years, and then finally cut the cord completely when it was obvious that my concerns wouldn't be addressed and I wasn't being heard.
The thing is, my brother, who is much younger, thinks my family of origin is fantastic. He is oblivious to what I have experienced all my life and thinks I'm off my rocker to just stop talking to my parents. But, I have my own children to worry about now, and I've decided to break the cycle, so to speak.
My advice is to ask your brother what he's feeling and to listen without judgment, if he'll talk to you.