is sleeping in bed with son wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Father bear should be in charge, not baby bear.

"Father bear should be in charge"????? I think this thread has degenerated sufficiently to call it dead.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's not wrong or weird. Just not exactly fair to a child who is already sleeping on his own. I agree with the poster who said you shouldn't use your child to solve your problems or interrupt his routine for your convenience.

Can you send your husband to the doctor to figure out why he's snoring so much? (Also, is this a new thing, or are you suddenly more aware of it for some reason?)

Good luck! Hope you solve DH's snoring, which sounds like the real problem here!

[Anonymous]

bottom line (to me anyway) is what kind of message are you sending to your five year old that mommy would rather sleep with him than with daddy? I've always believed that one of the most important things parents can do for their children is to illustrate what a good marriage should be; and to me, that includes sleeping together sans children (over a certain age, anyway).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:bottom line (to me anyway) is what kind of message are you sending to your five year old that mommy would rather sleep with him than with daddy? I've always believed that one of the most important things parents can do for their children is to illustrate what a good marriage should be; and to me, that includes sleeping together sans children (over a certain age, anyway).

Very well said!

[Anonymous]

op here... thanks for the replies! as i said previously we don't have another room for me to move in so i can't move to the guest room. if i could, believe me i would! thanks for the support. now i am not so worried that i can get in trouble or something for this.

[Anonymous]

OP. This is a rhetorical question.
How would you have felt if your father came to sleep with you at age 5, when your mother snored too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. This is a rhetorical question.
How would you have felt if your father came to sleep with you at age 5, when your mother snored too much?

first of all, my son doesn't even know i am sleeping in his bed 95% of the time b/c i go in the middle of the night and am up with our baby before my son even awakens. i'm in and out of there without him even knowing. he has a king size bed. believe me, i'd rather sleep in a guest bed if we had one, but we don't! our couch is small and really uncomfortable and more importantly as i said before my husband leaves really early for work so he would wake me if i slept there as well, as it is by the front door! this is merely so i can get some sleep people. i'm obviously not that comfortable with it or i wouldn't be asking on here right? hopefully we'll get a bigger house soon and this will be a non issue. in the meantime, i was just curious if this was legally wrong or could be looked at as wrong by the law as i get very paranoid in this society we live in.