Forum Index
»
Infants, Toddlers, & Preschoolers
is sleeping in bed with son wrong?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| we only have a three bedroom house so when my husband snores or gets up really early for work, i sometimes move into my son's room (which is the only other room to move to) and share his bed which is a full size bed. he is 5. i never thought anything of it until someone questioned it so now i am getting paranoid. the couch is uncomfortable and my husband will wake me there as well going in and out in the morning. |
Anonymous
| There is nothing wrong with a Mother sleeping in the same bed with her son if there is nothing making it "wrong". People are jerks so you shouldn't pay too much attention to what they think about things like this. My sister's 5-year-old often sleeps in her bed (her husband sleeps in the basement.....that's a long story and not important). People say things about it and I personally think he should sleep on his own most of the time but it's not my business and it's a self-solving issue because eventually he won't want to sleep with his Mommy. Much harder for her to deal with than for him. When I couldn't sleep growing up, my Dad used to come to my room and lay in the bed with me (a twin) and let me lay in the nook of his arm until I fell asleep. I absolutely love that about my Dad. When I was around 15 or so I realized my friends thought it was weird. Whatever. I didn't really care about what they thought, but I did stop mentioning it in conversation. Maybe you should do the same.....do whatever you do at home and just try to keep it out of conversation. |
Anonymous
| no it's not wrong. my son wishes I would sleep with him more often, and often crawls into my bed in the morning. Treasure sleep-bonding moments while you have them, it won't be long until they outgrow it. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely nothing wrong with it. And contrary to a PP, I don't think that this is something you need to "hide" from others - it feeds into the notion that there is something wrong with co-sleeping or the family bed. While you are doing it for your own convenience (that is how co-sleeping with my (now 3.5 yo) daughter started), I would guess that your son enjoys the closeness to Mommy. Of course, if and when he gives signs that Mommy is no longer welcome, it is time to go - until then, get some good sleep and enjoy the cuddles! |
Anonymous
op here. thanks for posts! my concern is that it is just him and me in his bed, not the whole family in our family. i am just afraid that someday he is going to think back and think it was weird that mommy used to crawl into his bed. so you are saying even though it is just him and me that that is okay? |
Anonymous
| i think it is ok for you to crawl in bed with him, just you two. at some point you could tell him "if you don't want me to come into your bed just tell me and i won't." |
Anonymous
| I personally feel that this is a bit strange. |
Anonymous
| sleeping with son is fine - but will not be in a couple years - get your husband treated for sleep apnea, or send him to the basement to sleep! |
Anonymous
| I crawl into bed with my son sometimes. Especially if DH is snoring and I can't sleep. DS loves to wake up next to mommy! |
Anonymous
| if it works for your family nothing wrong with it ... youll know when its tiem for your family to no longer sleep together your son will say soemthing or you wont be comfortable doing it anymore until GO FOR IT |
Anonymous
| It is fine, but at some point it won't be. The day your son expresses a preference about it is the day to stop. |
Anonymous
|
I am the PP that you quoted...we also do not do the "family bed" - my hubby is a light sleeper so I was sleeping in my daughter's room. I agree with the other PPs - I think it fine until your son thinks that it is not fine. We are actually in the process of "weaning" her from the co-sleeping and now I am spending only the last couple of hours, if any, with her.
One of these days, though, you will have to solve the snoring problem, since you are now co-sleeping for your "convenience"...though I do understand that a good night's sleep is far more important than a convenience (god, do I understand!), but I mean to say that it is not your son asking for it (though he may, if you try to give it up). I am actually the snorer in the family so I use one of those nose strips, which helps some, and my husband uses earplugs, which also helps. All very romantic... |
Anonymous
It is perfectly fine as long as you and your son are okay with it. Enjoy it while it lasts, he won't want to cuddle in a few years 
|
Anonymous
|
Ha! I grew up and the ENTIRE family of 5 slept in one room...it was also our kitchen and living room too.
8:03-What is so strange? Do you think that something sexual goes on? |
Anonymous
|
I'm glad to hear that so many people play musical beds. I thought it was just us.
I will sometimes make a middle-of-the-night move into the guest room when my husband's snoring or sleep apnea kicks in. The only time I sleep with my 4 year old son is if he has a nightmare or is sick and wants me to lie down with him for a few minutes. When that happends in the middle of the night, I'm usually just too tired to move -- or if he's sick, I just feel better being close to him. People who think this is weird or sexual have their minds in the gutter. |