My mother is so embarrassing to me

[Anonymous]

Agree w/ 11:21.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

Please - of course you were judging. You tried to couch it in the most passive-aggressive way possible, but you certainly were telling the OP that she had no business griping because she was lucky to have her mother around. What other purpose was there of your comment? (And here I am giving you the attention you crave. Aargh!)

Did the OP write anything that would remotely make you think she didn't love her mother, that she lacked perspective, or that she didn't feel lucky that her mother is around? Of course not. She was complaining that her mother embarassed her on Facebook. Who hasn't been embarassed by their parents at some point? But anyone who feels that way apparently needs some perspective. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

You should really get therapy. You're the only one who has repeatedly "taken it there." You sound (more than) a bit crazed.

[Anonymous]

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

Wow. That's not very nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

We all knew this is what you really meant when you posted about wishing your mom was still around to annoy you on FB but instead of being direct, you couched in martyr language (poor me, my mother's not here to annoy me on FB) which many people find incredibly annoying and unhelpful. You obviously are finding our 'perspective' to be very uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

Guess what -- I lost my mom (and dad), too, but I laughed at the original post. Some of my fondest memories of my mom were how she would embarass us. I could imagine her totally screwing up in using Facebook. I agree with other posters that you are being selfish and passive aggressive, and you fail to consider that others would respond differently to this post. That last comment was really nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

Guess what -- I lost my mom (and dad), too, but I laughed at the original post. Some of my fondest memories of my mom were how she would embarass us. I could imagine her totally screwing up in using Facebook. I agree with other posters that you are being selfish and passive aggressive, and you fail to consider that others would respond differently to this post. That last comment was really nasty.

I agree. I lost both of my parents as well but that doesn't mean that my friends can't discuss their problems or even their silly complaints with the parents with me. It in no way means that they don't appreciate having parents. I also laughed at the original post because I can totally see that happening with my mother. When I studied abroad, told me that we had to stop emailing because she was afraid of what her long distance bill was going to be like!

It's sad, even tragic, that we've lost a parent, but it's ok for others to vent about their parental issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but let's keep it in perspective. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I would do anything to have her embarrassing me on Facebook.

GOD I hate posts like yours. "You can't be mad about your kids jumping on the bed because MY kid doesn't have LEGS!"

I totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

I can't believe you posted that. My mom DID die in a car crash. How do you think your post made me feel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

I can't believe you posted that. My mom DID die in a car accident. How do you think your post made me feel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree w/ 11:21.

You both are unbelievable. I said that I wish she was around to embarrass me. I didn't judge anyone and my post indicated that mine would certainly embarrass me too.

Anyways, what is wrong with perspective? It's easy to lose sight and I know you both would feel the same way if you were me. If not, God help you. I hope that when you find yourself in my shoes you are not subjected to this kind of ugliness.

No you don't know they would feel the same way as you - that's just more of your inability to see that not everyone thinks or feels the way you do. Why do you feel the need to provide YOUR perspective? It's not ugliness, it's trying to get you to stop projecting your issues on someone else. I know what it's like to have a friend like you - no matter what I might complain about, you feel the need to provide some 'perspective'. You're so annoying and not really a friend.

So you've decided to take it there...okay....let's do this then.

I bet your friend is tired of hearing you whine about completely irrevelant and ridiculous crap and is thinking that you need to get some real problems or shut up.

Understanding and appreciating different perspectives is how we grow as people. It brings wisdom. It's not always comfortable to hear but if I was complaining about my 3 year talking too much and another mom shared that her child can't speak I would appreciate their perspective because it is grounding. It teaches me to appreciate what I have and try to let the small things go.

Well, hopefully your mom will die in a car accident today. That way you can get your own perspective and stop being embarrassed on facebook. How's that for perspective??? Idiot.....

You are Too FUNNY! Lecturing about wisdom and understanding and.... "I hope your mom will die in a car accident today". What are you 12 years old? Best distillation of how some on dcum suck EVER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but let's keep it in perspective. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I would do anything to have her embarrassing me on Facebook.

I agree with others who say posts like these are annoying, dismissive of how others feel, and selfish.

How 'bout we up the ante and say YOU need to keep things in perspective, because some people are born to mothers who die in childbirth?

So I'm annoying and selfish because I said I wish mom was around to embarrass me on Facebook? Nice.....

I didn't judge any of you so don't judge me.

And about this being a competition....if that is what this is then I would gladly lose.

But that's not what you said, is it? You told the OP she needed to keep things in perspective, and implied that she shouldn't complain about her mother at all.
I'm very sorry for your loss, but to suggest that people can't grumble, gripe or complain about their mothers because yours passed away is pretty ridiculous, and yes, selfish. It's a very "look at me, my issue/pain/complaint is more pronounced than yours" attitude.

It's interesting how her simple comment about her mom has elicited so much negativity. I didn't take her comment as judgmental, but clearly she hit some nerves!