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How would you react to a stranger shooshing your child at a restaurant?
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Anonymous
| Wow, this is shocking that everyone is coming down so hard on OP. This is a child we're talking about here, in a family-friendly restaurant, having a nice time and being happy about pancakes. How in the world has this degenerated into their lack of parenting skills because some old farts were mean to their son? To all of you PPs, have your children never made a peep in a restaurant?! What is the matter with you people to be so obnoxiously judgmental? Do me a favor and wear a sign around your neck so when I encounter you in a restaurant I know that it's perfectly acceptable to talk to your kid in whatever way I deem appropriate. |
Anonymous
When is saying hi misbehaving? Have we come to that? |
Anonymous
Oh, get over yourself. The child is 3. They were in IHOP. It was noisy anyway. The child said a cheery HI. The lack of manners came from the couple who shooshed the kid and made him cry. I weep for your children (if you even have any). |
Anonymous
It's not that the child said "hi". It's that the child was acting up multiple times (per the OP) and the last straw was when this monkey, i mean child, interrupted this couple's breakfast. was the couple engaging with the child? were they saying "hi" back? no. they showed no interest, which is their right. so, again, stop blaming others because you cannot control your child(ren). |
Anonymous
Yes, apparently we have come to that. That a 3 year old saying hi is rude and misbehaving and has parents who don't teach him manners. These posts honestly break my heart. I wish we lived in a kinder society. Honestly. With all of the suffering in this world...a 3 year old saying hi? REALLY? |
Anonymous
so everyone is supposed to be subjected to your child's lack of manners, because you do not teach them any? good luck when that brat hits his teen years. |
Anonymous
No, you're beyond pathetic. Sorry. But someone has to say it. You are mean and ridiculous and have no sense of common decency. You are what is wrong with our world. |
Anonymous
If you think saying "hi" is a lack of manners and means a child is a brat who will be a hellian in his teen years...you are beyond hope or help. Do you have kids? |
Anonymous
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WOW! Only in DC and only on DCUM would you find people who would call the OP a bad parent for a 3 year old (in IHOP, people, IHOP!!!!!) saying "hi" to people. Remind me never, ever to have dinner at your homes. I can imagine your children straped to chairs afraid to say anything more than "may I pleased be excused mommy deariest?"
NO MORE WIRE HANGERS!!!!! |
Anonymous
| OP here: my "monkey" (which I know you meant to be nasty, which just shows me who I'm talking to) didn't even look at these people until the end of the meal when he said "hi". Yes, his "hi" was loud. Maybe I should have muzzled him (which is probably how you beat the spirit and joy out of your three year old). Stop mischaracterizing this incident to suit your own agenda (I get it, you think I suck as a parent) |
Anonymous
"I admit, my kid wasn't sitting perfectly quiet, but this was a very noisy place and he would occassionally get loud. Each time, we told him to be quiet and he would be good for a while, but he's three and so we have typical toddler issues (in addition to my 15 months old stealing some attention). Anyway, this was 9 am, busy IHOP type place on a Friday, tons of other kids and noise, etc. My DS turned around and loudly yelled "hi" to the older couple behind him and they "shooshed" him in such an exaggerated way that he started crying. " |
Anonymous
OP, try and ignore the crazy freakazoids on this thread, and join me in my hope that they have no children of their own. And never encounter anyone else's. And move to some remote island where they don't have to encounter other humans. Your child sounds like a very normal, friendly 3 year old and the fault lies with the crabby people who shushed him. You did everything right. Some people will just always be unhappy. Hope your little one wasn't upset for too long. |
Anonymous
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I don't think you handled it correctly. It's fine to take loud toddlers to IHOP at busy times and they are going to push limits (like speak too loudly to others, which is disrespectful to many people). So up to that point I'm with you. However, from your description, I get the feeling you just think it's awful that someone made your poor dear baby cry. You and DH felt that you absolutely had to show that you as parents were in his corner. And DH "got into it" with these other people. These things disturb me about your situation. So your DS got "shushed". Get over it--he was being rude and he got put into his place. You didn't like how and that's fair enough but these other people were not over the line. I don't love how they did it from your description but it's not a big deal. You and DH made it into a big deal. Does your son not ever hear "Sh" such that he freaks if he hears it? To be fair, maybe it was just coming from strangers that made it scary for him. Fine. So hug him and tell him they weren't trying to scare him, they just didn't appreciate being YELLED AT when they come into a restaurant and next time he needs to speak in an inside voice and people will respond better. Make it a lesson. The only lesson you've taught him here is that he can misbehave and if he cries if he gets corrected, you swoop in to make it all better.
Furthermore, DH went a step further to reinforce bad manners by even responding to these people. I can see where your DS gets his poor manners. |
Anonymous
Again, not OP, but the child is 3. The child said "hi." He didn't dump a plate of spaghetti over their heads. He didn't jump in their laps and poke a fork in their eyes. He wasn't running around tripping wait staff. Get some perspective, and then try it again. The rudeness was from the ADULTS who responded inappropriately to a 3 year old saying hi. They should know better. Maybe OP's husband was trying to provide them with a teachable moment. Because Lord knows they needed one. |
Anonymous
| The crying at age 3 over "Sh" is odd. Is there something wrong with the kid? |