Co-worker's plan for her 18 year old is crazy to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a good career and I assume they are doing this because she didn't do well in school. Sounds like the parents are trying to give her a taste of real life so she starts self launching soon.

Yeah. I think it’s safe to assume her daughter wasn’t a 4.0 student with tons of prospects. You don’t know the details of their lives. She likely floundered in school, parents told her to pick a vocation, she either wouldn’t make a choice or picked cosmetology, but didn’t really want anything. Now she doesn’t love it and would rather go to college. Who knows. But she is 18 and they can’t force her to my hair stylist. She can drop out and wait tables if she wants and save for community college.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the mother is trying to help her daughter find a job to help pay the bills while the daughter is in college, heavy weekend hours, tips, no nights, low stress, ability to study during down time. Much better than working the counter at a McDonald’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the mother is trying to help her daughter find a job to help pay the bills while the daughter is in college, heavy weekend hours, tips, no nights, low stress, ability to study during down time. Much better than working the counter at a McDonald’s.

Where did you get the idea that working in salons means no nights? Hair stylists have to work when other are not working to get them in for appts. And no stress? My sister is a hair stylist. It is stressful. If Larala doesn't get her hair perfect, she is gonna be pissed. And to the poster who claimed someone makes 300k they probably own the salon. A regular hair stylist does no make that much and it takes 2-3 years to build a clientele. You make NOTHING when you start out.
Up in the thread the OP stated the daughter graduated with academic honors and has an AP course.

[Anonymous]

You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

OP doesn’t really have a clue what the plan is because she isn’t involved in it at all. Even if that is the tentative plan, parents are supporting her fully for the first 7 months of working. Surely there will be some discussion around how much things are costing and how much she is making in those 7 months and what a realistic plan will look like moving forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

OP doesn’t really have a clue what the plan is because she isn’t involved in it at all. Even if that is the tentative plan, parents are supporting her fully for the first 7 months of working. Surely there will be some discussion around how much things are costing and how much she is making in those 7 months and what a realistic plan will look like moving forward.

I know the plan because I sit next to the mom of this kid all day 5 days a week. She talks nonstop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

OP doesn’t really have a clue what the plan is because she isn’t involved in it at all. Even if that is the tentative plan, parents are supporting her fully for the first 7 months of working. Surely there will be some discussion around how much things are costing and how much she is making in those 7 months and what a realistic plan will look like moving forward.

I know the plan because I sit next to the mom of this kid all day 5 days a week. She talks nonstop.

So? You have no idea what they will end up actually doing 7-14 months from now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

We didn’t miss that. We see that this isn’t OP’s kid and not even OP’s friend. It’s a coworker and OP needs to stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

We didn’t miss that. We see that this isn’t OP’s kid and not even OP’s friend. It’s a coworker and OP needs to stay out of it.

NP. I think the following things are true:

1) Being a hairstylist is a fine job
2) Forcing your adult child to become a hairstylist is not a choice I'd make
3) I spend zero time worrying about the bad parenting decisions of my coworkers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

We didn’t miss that. We see that this isn’t OP’s kid and not even OP’s friend. It’s a coworker and OP needs to stay out of it.

NP. I think the following things are true:

1) Being a hairstylist is a fine job
2) Forcing your adult child to become a hairstylist is not a choice I'd make
3) I spend zero time worrying about the bad parenting decisions of my coworkers

So you agree that this is bad parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

We didn’t miss that. We see that this isn’t OP’s kid and not even OP’s friend. It’s a coworker and OP needs to stay out of it.

NP. I think the following things are true:

1) Being a hairstylist is a fine job
2) Forcing your adult child to become a hairstylist is not a choice I'd make
3) I spend zero time worrying about the bad parenting decisions of my coworkers

So you agree that this is bad parenting?

DP and yes, if it’s true. But I think it’s equally likely that OP doesn’t have the full story and is a busy body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the mother is trying to help her daughter find a job to help pay the bills while the daughter is in college, heavy weekend hours, tips, no nights, low stress, ability to study during down time. Much better than working the counter at a McDonald’s.

Where did you get the idea that working in salons means no nights? Hair stylists have to work when other are not working to get them in for appts. And no stress? My sister is a hair stylist. It is stressful. If Larala doesn't get her hair perfect, she is gonna be pissed. And to the poster who claimed someone makes 300k they probably own the salon. A regular hair stylist does no make that much and it takes 2-3 years to build a clientele. You make NOTHING when you start out.
Up in the thread the OP stated the daughter graduated with academic honors and has an AP course.

Why are you so aggressive in response to the PP? Can you identify a salon open beyond 9pm? Evening shifts are not night shifts. This girl isn’t going to be ending her shift at 11pm or later. It’s highly unlikely this girl is going to be doing hair straight out of school too. She will ikely be an assistant, receptionist, shampoo girl for a long while before taking clients of her own. She will have a marketable skill to help pay her bills during college and beyond if needed.

[Anonymous]

Setting your kid up with a trade isn’t a bad plan but forcing your kid who has scoliosis to do hair is….a choice for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point that the teen has to live off and pay her bills on a meager hair stylist apprentice pay after 7 months of working there. The parents are setting her up for failure. She also does not want to be a hair stylist. Do you all want someone doing your hair who doesn't want to be doing it? Probably not.

OP doesn’t really have a clue what the plan is because she isn’t involved in it at all. Even if that is the tentative plan, parents are supporting her fully for the first 7 months of working. Surely there will be some discussion around how much things are costing and how much she is making in those 7 months and what a realistic plan will look like moving forward.

I know the plan because I sit next to the mom of this kid all day 5 days a week. She talks nonstop.

Myob 🤡

[Anonymous]

Parents ruining their kid's life. Very sad. Narcissism, mental illness, who knows what their problem might be.

I don't have an answer, except the kid will have to strike out on her own if she wants to attend college. Now she knows she can't count on her parents to have her back.

She's better off figuring out what she can accomplish without her parent's support. Perhaps she can talk to a community college counselor, explain the situation, and ask them to help her map out a game plan. BTW, some employers will pay college tuition. That's a tough road, but one way to accomplish her goal without burdening herself with student loans.