Party etiquette

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a thought. Could the invitation somehow have not made it to you? Was it made by email or paper or text? We are casual friends with a neighborhood couple who throws a big annual party. When we didn’t receive an invite last year I was surprised but assumed they didn’t have it. I ran into the couple recently and they expressed disappointment that we had missed the party. I was speechless. I didn’t know if they were just covering (which I doubt since I hadn’t mentioned it at all) or if they had actually invited us and thought we hadn’t responded. I’ll never know because it felt like an awkward conversation to have since we are friendly but not close. Either way, if we were to have a large gathering, I would have 100% invited them because they’re nice people and why not?

It's an email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how are you so certain they are having this party - the one you're not invited to?

+1

[Anonymous]

I think it would be worth politely inquiring honestly. This sounds like a typo situation. Just keep it very polite and say you understand their may be capa

[Anonymous]

...city constraints

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how are you so certain they are having this party - the one you're not invited to?

+1

because everyone is talking about it with us - they are all attending and they assume we are as well.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t invite them and continue a potentially one-sided petty feud, your resentment and dislike of them will increasingly grow. If you are the bigger person and invite them, even if they don’t come, you’ll know you did the right thing. You get back what you’ve had out there typically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The more people invited to your party, the better. Summer house means outside mostly? Damn, I’d invite EVERYONE to my beach house. Now is not the time to be petty but to have a good time! Be magnanimous and inclusive. Invite your hair dresser. The cleaning people. The lawn guys. Your kids teachers. This could be the best party of the year! Have fun and show your kids what it means to be a good hostess.

Are you going to pay for the party?

Not OP

[Anonymous]

If you don’t invite them, how are you going to answer the question of why they aren't invited next year to yours? Imagine the scenario where you were inadvertently left off of the email list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how are you so certain they are having this party - the one you're not invited to?

Yes, they are. Other friends are attending and assuming we will be there as they are asking us about it. We know pretty much everyone invited - all our kids are friends/friendly from when they attended school together.

I wouldn't invite them then OP.

But then again I am okay with being petty and at an age where I am past the point of caring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t invite them, how are you going to answer the question of why they aren't invited next year to yours? Imagine the scenario where you were inadvertently left off of the email list.

“I’m so sorry - I must’ve mistyped your name when sending out the list.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t invite them, how are you going to answer the question of why they aren't invited next year to yours? Imagine the scenario where you were inadvertently left off of the email list.

“I’m so sorry - I must’ve mistyped your name when sending out the list.”

Sure, Jan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t invite them, how are you going to answer the question of why they aren't invited next year to yours? Imagine the scenario where you were inadvertently left off of the email list.

“I’m so sorry - I must’ve mistyped your name when sending out the list.”

Sure, Jan.

You've never done that?

[Anonymous]

Why is it petty to not invite someone to a party if they do not include you in their party?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you don’t invite them, how are you going to answer the question of why they aren't invited next year to yours? Imagine the scenario where you were inadvertently left off of the email list.

“I’m so sorry - I must’ve mistyped your name when sending out the list.”

Sure, Jan.

You've never done that?

They have been invited before, they have the correct address in the address book. People aren't generally typing every address by hand every time. So, they have the address just didn't use it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t invite them, how are you going to answer the question of why they aren't invited next year to yours? Imagine the scenario where you were inadvertently left off of the email list.

“I’m so sorry - I must’ve mistyped your name when sending out the list.”

Sure, Jan.

You've never done that?

They have been invited before, they have the correct address in the address book. People aren't generally typing every address by hand every time. So, they have the address just didn't use it.

so if they chose not to use it, why should the other party be obligated to include?