Men and women who are 40+; what’s your dating experience like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

Try women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have the opposite problem. I become wildly attracted to any man who knows how to approach me correctly. Which I don’t think is very hard! It’s making dating difficult because I am very impatient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have the opposite problem. I become wildly attracted to any man who knows how to approach me correctly. Which I don’t think is very hard! It’s making dating difficult because I am very impatient.

Find someone who is very much into you. When I met my boyfriend for the first time, chemistry was so obvious and intense. When I come visit him, we often times end up in the bedroom a minute after I entered the door. If we plan to drive somewhere from his home, he asks me to call/text him when I arrive and wait for him outside - because if I enter the house, we can’t go anywhere for two hours. We are mid to late 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have the opposite problem. I become wildly attracted to any man who knows how to approach me correctly. Which I don’t think is very hard! It’s making dating difficult because I am very impatient.

I just find most men unattractive. I do date women and more attracted to them but haven’t slept with a woman yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have the opposite problem. I become wildly attracted to any man who knows how to approach me correctly. Which I don’t think is very hard! It’s making dating difficult because I am very impatient.

I have a similar problem with women over 40. I’m just not attracted to them no matter how hard I’ve tried.

I just find most men unattractive. I do date women and more attracted to them but haven’t slept with a woman yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have the opposite problem. I become wildly attracted to any man who knows how to approach me correctly. Which I don’t think is very hard! It’s making dating difficult because I am very impatient.

I have a similar problem with women over 40. I’m just not attracted to them no matter how hard I’ve tried.

I just find most men unattractive. I do date women and more attracted to them but haven’t slept with a woman yet

Maybe you should try men.

[Anonymous]

Mid 50s female, financially just fine on my own work, no children. COVID was a hard time to go through this part of my life, but it drew me closer to an old friend a year younger than me. We are both set in our ways but love each other dearly, and we spend time together every day. That is a joy. He is a good man.

I have friends in the 40s-60s that are both male and female, both married and not. Some are playing the field and having a good time, but they are who they are. If I were single, that would not be a romantic draw for me anyway.

I think at this age, and with some resources, the world is more open for a woman. Can you get laid on a fairly regular basis? Sure, and from a wider range of ages than I'd expect. But there are a thousand things the world has to give you. If it's someone worth it, then it is worth it to give up some freedom for investment of your time and energy. (And I do find it so, with mine.)

But who needs a man who isn't interesting, but who will assume you will take care of him if he goes south unexpectedly? There is nothing attractive about that, hair or not.

[Anonymous]

^^PS: I don't begrudge men who are having a spree with many women much younger. They get to be who they are, and that is fine. But I don't envy the younger women, or feel I am in competition with them, either. Why would I be? There's just no appeal there, not for me.

Sometimes it gets presented as if women in my time of life have to compete with younger women for some kind of prize. But we seem not to be looking for the same thing, not in these cases. Would I be in competition with a toddler for McDonald's fries? That would be silly, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
^^PS: I don't begrudge men who are having a spree with many women much younger. They get to be who they are, and that is fine. But I don't envy the younger women, or feel I am in competition with them, either. Why would I be? There's just no appeal there, not for me.

Sometimes it gets presented as if women in my time of life have to compete with younger women for some kind of prize. But we seem not to be looking for the same thing, not in these cases. Would I be in competition with a toddler for McDonald's fries? That would be silly, no?

Trust me you are not in competition with younger women. You’re not even in the game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have a similar problem with women over 40. I’m just not attracted to them no matter how hard I’ve tried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
^^PS: I don't begrudge men who are having a spree with many women much younger. They get to be who they are, and that is fine. But I don't envy the younger women, or feel I am in competition with them, either. Why would I be? There's just no appeal there, not for me.

Sometimes it gets presented as if women in my time of life have to compete with younger women for some kind of prize. But we seem not to be looking for the same thing, not in these cases. Would I be in competition with a toddler for McDonald's fries? That would be silly, no?

Trust me you are not in competition with younger women. You’re not even in the game.

Not interested in McDonald's fries, sorry.

Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have a similar problem with women over 40. I’m just not attracted to them no matter how hard I’ve tried.

And you get to be who you are. Who cares? Go have at it, and be well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
^^PS: I don't begrudge men who are having a spree with many women much younger. They get to be who they are, and that is fine. But I don't envy the younger women, or feel I am in competition with them, either. Why would I be? There's just no appeal there, not for me.

Sometimes it gets presented as if women in my time of life have to compete with younger women for some kind of prize. But we seem not to be looking for the same thing, not in these cases. Would I be in competition with a toddler for McDonald's fries? That would be silly, no?

Trust me you are not in competition with younger women. You’re not even in the game.

Not interested in McDonald's fries, sorry.

Carry on.

And I’m not interested in a Taco Bell Burrito. It just doesn’t feel or taste the same, sorry.

Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have a similar problem with women over 40. I’m just not attracted to them no matter how hard I’ve tried.

And you get to be who you are. Who cares? Go have at it, and be well.

Well just responding to a previous post. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s woman . I’m not attracted to 99% men I meet I always find what’s wrong with them . I tried sleeping with several partners out of hope they will grow on me . But feel nothing .

I have a similar problem with women over 40. I’m just not attracted to them no matter how hard I’ve tried.

And you get to be who you are. Who cares? Go have at it, and be well.

Well just responding to a previous post. Try to keep up.

Go with God, champ.