Men and women who are 40+; what’s your dating experience like?

[Anonymous]

What is it like for you?

[Anonymous]

40F here. I’ve found there’s no shortage of decent men who want to settle down. Attractive, successful, kind, etc.

The main issue I run into is that our lives just don’t align. I’m still in the thick of raising kids and building a career. Older men have slowed down and want someone who can travel a bunch with them; younger men want someone who can prioritize their career; men in my same situation are so busy we never really have time to meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40F here. I’ve found there’s no shortage of decent men who want to settle down. Attractive, successful, kind, etc.

The main issue I run into is that our lives just don’t align. I’m still in the thick of raising kids and building a career. Older men have slowed down and want someone who can travel a bunch with them; younger men want someone who can prioritize their career; men in my same situation are so busy we never really have time to meet.

Good observation. I am 46 divorced male. I briefly tried dating went to a couple of dates but gave up. Between child support payments, driving kids to activities, saving for college, sending money to retired elderly parents, saving for my own retirement etc it's tough. I make a descent 300k, but I have a lot of expenses. Dating requires you to be mentally PRESENT and I am not. Kudos to hose who make it work.

Thank God I don't drink but exercise regularly and follow a good diet else I'll look like I am 70 with all the stress.

[Anonymous]

Bad, but it's because I hang out with the illiterate and illegals.They all come with baggage and problems: several baby mamas, bankruptcies, in debt, overweight, tantrums, rigid, on cuckoo bills, zero emotional regulation, unemployed, married, missing the motherland...
Interestingly, no drugs or alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Nearly nonexistent. I don’t have one. I am 49 and haven’t been on a date in over 20 years.

[Anonymous]

I’m 39. Great! Amazing well to do men who are ready and wanting to commit. Some with kids some without.

[Anonymous]

Way more popular in fifties than twenties. Still capable of having heart broken but rebounds are kinda fun.

I'm a man with a good job, I'm height weight proportional, I have a full head of hair, and I can have a conversation and listen. Divorced for a while. I prefer exclusive relationships but don't want to get married again, and I have to say that non-exclusive relationships can be pretty good in many ways, not just sex.

Women my own age usually say they struggle. They can get sex but many can't get long term commitment from a man they respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:40F here. I’ve found there’s no shortage of decent men who want to settle down. Attractive, successful, kind, etc.

The main issue I run into is that our lives just don’t align. I’m still in the thick of raising kids and building a career. Older men have slowed down and want someone who can travel a bunch with them; younger men want someone who can prioritize their career; men in my same situation are so busy we never really have time to meet.

Good observation. I am 46 divorced male. I briefly tried dating went to a couple of dates but gave up. Between child support payments, driving kids to activities, saving for college, sending money to retired elderly parents, saving for my own retirement etc it's tough. I make a descent 300k, but I have a lot of expenses. Dating requires you to be mentally PRESENT and I am not. Kudos to hose who make it work.

Thank God I don't drink but exercise regularly and follow a good diet else I'll look like I am 70 with all the stress.

hey PP, what culture you are from? Not a lot of American actually send money to their elderly parents so I am curious.

[Anonymous]

45M here and I don't see any problem in finding good women. I have 50/50 custody of my kids and a good job with a lot of income from a few side hustles but have time to date and go on trips. I have seen most of the women want consistency, attention and someone who would hear them out. Good sex is cherry on the cake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Way more popular in fifties than twenties. Still capable of having heart broken but rebounds are kinda fun.

I'm a man with a good job, I'm height weight proportional, I have a full head of hair, and I can have a conversation and listen. Divorced for a while. I prefer exclusive relationships but don't want to get married again, and I have to say that non-exclusive relationships can be pretty good in many ways, not just sex.

Women my own age usually say they struggle. They can get sex but many can't get long term commitment from a man they respect.

Commitment to what ? That you won’t put your D into other P? That’s very easy to find. But if you don’t want to remarry you won’t ever be truly committed to anyone. Therefore, your other commitments are not worth time of LTR. I would only date someone like that non-exclusively with religious protection for all sex acts

[Anonymous]

I’m 46F and a one year empty nester. I try to date other empty nesters so that we have time for each other. I’m attractive, fit and financially very independent so meeting men hasn’t been a problem. I enjoy coed sports and that’s where I meet men. Having sports in common is a real ice breaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 46F and a one year empty nester. I try to date other empty nesters so that we have time for each other. I’m attractive, fit and financially very independent so meeting men hasn’t been a problem. I enjoy coed sports and that’s where I meet men. Having sports in common is a real ice breaker.

What’s the average age of these men ? I’m 48F and found that most empty nesters M in my area are late 50s which is beyond my age difference comfort level. I date men with kids in HS who tend to be under 55 yo or men with no kids

[Anonymous]

47M here - It's been adult Disneyland for me.

[Anonymous]

I'm finding there are just too many single liberal women in the DMV at this age. Some good-looking ones but their politics are a non-starter for me for anything long-term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm finding there are just too many single liberal women in the DMV at this age. Some good-looking ones but their politics are a non-starter for me for anything long-term.

Sounds like maybe you should move to a more conservative area.