Bath at sleepover involving another parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Americans are very uptight about bodies and nudity. It was no big deal to this woman, no different than washing the kids face, although they are a bit on the older side. I would have put them in underwear and turned on the shower.

We were at a NYC playground that had a water thing to play on. A group of tourists from Northern Europe came to play and the girls around 5 or 6 took their shirts off to go in water. I had been hesitant to take my 5 year olds shirt off but then I followed their lead. At this age there’s no reason a boy can take his shirt off to go play in water but a girl has to get her shirt soaking wet.

Don't you see why we are uptight? There are all.these pedos walking around not being prosecuted.

This mom probably wanted to make sure those two boys got clean, but she should watch out before doing this with anyone else.

Was at the playground with a friend and her 3rd child. 3rd child was filthy and I really wanted to wash the poor girl down. I was with my first and would never let her run around dirty like that but checked my urge to wipe the grime away from the 3rd child of an exhausted mother of two older boys.

[Anonymous]

If this is real then the host mom sounds like she’s a few fries short of a Happy Meal. I’d avoid sleepovers there in future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Americans are very uptight about bodies and nudity. It was no big deal to this woman, no different than washing the kids face, although they are a bit on the older side. I would have put them in underwear and turned on the shower.

We were at a NYC playground that had a water thing to play on. A group of tourists from Northern Europe came to play and the girls around 5 or 6 took their shirts off to go in water. I had been hesitant to take my 5 year olds shirt off but then I followed their lead. At this age there’s no reason a boy can take his shirt off to go play in water but a girl has to get her shirt soaking wet.

Don't you see why we are uptight? There are all.these pedos walking around not being prosecuted.

This mom probably wanted to make sure those two boys got clean, but she should watch out before doing this with anyone else.

I would have called and asked the mother for the best way for him to get clean. Kids have their own little quirks about things and might be inwardly horrified that the woman is all over him.

As for pedos they are almost either in the family or in a position of power. It took forever for the Catholic Church to fix their pedo problem. There have been a boatload of conservative religious leaders recently arrested for sexual assault on a child.

One Texas megachurch pastor who worked on Trump’s board of “spiritual advisors “ recently pleaded guilty to sexual assault of a 12 year old girl over a period of time. He received a 10 year sentence. He served six months and is now free.

These are the pedos everyone needs to be aware of.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird to do a bath at all if they are truly caked in mud. The kids would be sitting in muddy water and not getting clean at all! Separate showers so the mud runs down the drain and not into the water. By 8, my son would have been uncomfortable bathing with another kid.

I would have sprayed them off with the clothes. Provided towels to wrap up in and then have them shower separately. Check my son’s hair if that’s the norm and not the friend. Tell the parent at pick up what happened.

[Anonymous]

Report this pedo asap

[Anonymous]

I doubt this is real.

Obviously this is inappropriate in our American culture (regardless of anyone’s personal opinion), and most mothers would know this.

That said, extremely unlikely there were any ill intentions- and no, it isn’t the same as reversing the genders (as someone else suggested). It simply isn’t.

I would not say anything, but I also would not let my son sleep over at their house anymore. I’d also coach my son on how to handle things like this when I’m not around “no thank you, I’d rather take a shower on my own”

[Anonymous]

This is a little unusual at 8. At 5 or 6 years old I wouldn't think anything of it, but at 8:00 don't most kids shower themselves? Was your son at least asked if he wanted a shower alone? Kid could have gone home with a little mud still in his hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have debated whether to post this but im curious how you would feel or react to a situation that occurred with my 8 year old son who is in 3rd grade.

He was at a sleepover with another boy from his school who he has been friends with for a couple years, we have become friends with the parents as well. The boys were playing outside and got muddy and the mom had them take off there cloths outside and run take a bath, together. She then came into the bathroom and washed both her son and then my son herself by hand head to toe as my son explained. Now my son did say they had mud from head to toe including their hair. So in a way I understand why she did it. But I think I would have called her first if the situation had been reversed and it happened at my house.

So im curious on a few things.

1. Do your kids take baths at sleepovers?
2. Has another parent helped, and if so did they ask first?
3. Should I say something?

1. Not typically but if they were caked in mud for whatever reason, I wouldn’t have an issue with them showering independently.
2. I’ve never been asked nor has this come up before but if I were the hosting parent, I’d never go straight into washing another child. We also never had sleepovers where this would be an issue. If the kids got dirty during a play date, they could wait to get cleaned up at home when their parent picks them up.
3. Trust your gut.

Anecdotally: I was once on a play date with a friend in elementary school when we went swimming at the local pool. My friends parents had us shower together (they weren’t present and did not assist whatsoever) and nothing bad happened nor did I think it was that weird at the time. It never happened again and as parents, we’d never have our kids do it but if you think it was innocent and reasonable and your son isn’t bothered by it, I wouldn’t bring it up.

[Anonymous]

my son is 7 and i still need to help him if hes very dirty. I can't imagine that stopping by the time he is 8. My daughter became independent with showers at a younger age though, I think 6 or so? But I wouldn't have bathed one of his friends like that. Very odd, but she probably didn't mean harm.

[Anonymous]

I think the weirdest part is that they got so muddy. I am picturing Tough Mudder levels. My kids have spent hours outside at a time and while they have gotten dirty, never to the level that they couldn’t clean themselves at age 8.

It’s weird that a parent who feels the need to help their kid bathe wouldn’t also peek out the window occasionally and see that her kid was wallowing in mud.

That’s why I feel this is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Is the mom an immigrant?
My sister is raising her kids in Japan and kids bathe together all the time. We both have 8 year old boys and mine was kind of shocked at how free and easy his cousin was about nudity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have hosed them down outside with their clothes on and then sent them each in for separate showers.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your kid is 8 in May of 3rd grade?

[Anonymous]

See this is why I do not play with people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is 8 in May of 3rd grade?

Why is this an issue?