Bath at sleepover involving another parent

[Anonymous]

Why was she even bathing her OWN 3rd grader? Weird, weird, weird.

[Anonymous]

Trolls troll

[Anonymous]

She’s a pedo it’s very simple

[Anonymous]

My 8yo can't shower independently due to some delays and I still wouldn't wash another person's child like that. It is not age appropriate for a typically developing child and the risk of it being perceived wrong or being embarrassing to the child is too high. If they said they need help I would verbally coach them through it through a closed door. If they go home a little muddy and have to take another bath there, then oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have debated whether to post this but im curious how you would feel or react to a situation that occurred with my 8 year old son who is in 3rd grade.

He was at a sleepover with another boy from his school who he has been friends with for a couple years, we have become friends with the parents as well. The boys were playing outside and got muddy and the mom had them take off there cloths outside and run take a bath, together. She then came into the bathroom and washed both her son and then my son herself by hand head to toe as my son explained. Now my son did say they had mud from head to toe including their hair. So in a way I understand why she did it. But I think I would have called her first if the situation had been reversed and it happened at my house.

So im curious on a few things.

1. Do your kids take baths at sleepovers?
2. Has another parent helped, and if so did they ask first?
3. Should I say something?

You’ve got to be joking or fishing. How in the hell can this even be a question. If you are serious you really need help and I’m stunned.

[Anonymous]

The other mom wanted to make sure mud would not be streaked on her 1000 thread count sheets.
NBD but she probably has very nice sheets.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t bathe my kid’s friends but I also wouldn’t assume something untoward if a mother did it.

We were very overprotective and knew all my kid’s friends’ families very well. I envision a scenario where they were absolutely disgusting (mud in their hair? Eww) and she wanted to make sure there wasn’t mud in their ear canals, etc. and they got fully clean. I would be embarrassed to send a kid home filthy from a playdate. She may have been embarrassed that they got so dirty as it looks like poor supervision on her part.

[Anonymous]

I would've expected her to call you and ask what you should do. I would call her and tell her that if something like that happens again, you prefer your son to shower alone; that he does this independently at home.

[Anonymous]

Wow pedo alert!

[Anonymous]

I don't think there was anything nefarious going on but....it's weird.

[Anonymous]

So weird you are friends with these sick people?

[Anonymous]

Americans are very uptight about bodies and nudity. It was no big deal to this woman, no different than washing the kids face, although they are a bit on the older side. I would have put them in underwear and turned on the shower.

We were at a NYC playground that had a water thing to play on. A group of tourists from Northern Europe came to play and the girls around 5 or 6 took their shirts off to go in water. I had been hesitant to take my 5 year olds shirt off but then I followed their lead. At this age there’s no reason a boy can take his shirt off to go play in water but a girl has to get her shirt soaking wet.

[Anonymous]

I would have called the other parent and asked what they wanted to do - pick up for shower, or let them shower alone in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Americans are very uptight about bodies and nudity. It was no big deal to this woman, no different than washing the kids face, although they are a bit on the older side. I would have put them in underwear and turned on the shower.

We were at a NYC playground that had a water thing to play on. A group of tourists from Northern Europe came to play and the girls around 5 or 6 took their shirts off to go in water. I had been hesitant to take my 5 year olds shirt off but then I followed their lead. At this age there’s no reason a boy can take his shirt off to go play in water but a girl has to get her shirt soaking wet.

Don't you see why we are uptight? There are all.these pedos walking around not being prosecuted.

This mom probably wanted to make sure those two boys got clean, but she should watch out before doing this with anyone else.

[Anonymous]

What if the genders were reversed would everyone still be ok with this scenario? I doubt it. This situation as described crossed a red line.