DD hit DH, apologized - DH still won’t engage

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP. Obviously, your daughter is troubled if she is hitting your husband at age 16. That is not normal or okay. That must be difficult for you.

Your DH is an adult. He needs to use his words and say "I love you, AND it is not okay for you to hit me. I still feel sad and hurt that you did that". I agree that acting cold and distant is wrong. That is passive aggressive.

You and DH need to work together to address your kid's behavior.

[Anonymous]

LOL @ no tuck in. TF 16 yo needs to be tucked in? 2 thumbs down!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. Obviously, your daughter is troubled if she is hitting your husband at age 16. That is not normal or okay. That must be difficult for you.

Your DH is an adult. He needs to use his words and say "I love you, AND it is not okay for you to hit me. I still feel sad and hurt that you did that". I agree that acting cold and distant is wrong. That is passive aggressive.

You and DH need to work together to address your kid's behavior.

No, she needs consequence and serious help.

[Anonymous]

Second marriage or?

[Anonymous]

Op, I saw your previous post and I said that your dd is out of control, she has mental issues and I’ll say it again.
She needs help with learning how to control her emotion and behavior. She is 16 for god sake! She is not 6.

The fact that you still denied it and keep posting this on internet to get approval I think you need help too.

[Anonymous]

Hitting is not okay. Not normal behavior for a teen at all. I am a little concerned you may have gotten so used to her behavior that you are normalizing this as though an apology is enough for everyone to just move on.

Imagine a husband got angry and hit his wife. How would you feel about whether the wife should just brush it off because he apologized and was acting nice again? Hitting should have long consequences on a relationship. I don't think your husband is in the wrong for his reaction, and I don't think your daughter should learn that people will just accept violence and get back to normal if you apologize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is OP able to continue to post variations of this fake story.

What did I miss? How do we know this is a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:how old is she?

She’s 16.

There’s no way anyone on earth tucks in a 16 year old.

[Anonymous]

OP, My husband acted the same yesterday until dinner, when they finally sat down and talked things through. He made it clear that hitting is never okay, and they had a long conversation about expectations, respect, and how to behave in public. I’ve already wrote out the consequences she’ll face. She does have a watch she can use to call in an emergency.

I also think it’s important to remember that teens can have tough moments—she was having a bad day. It doesn’t signal always signal bigger issues. That said, she knows this behavior isn’t acceptable, and we’re addressing it seriously.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s important to learn the lesson that people will not always immediately forgive just because you say “sorry”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, My husband acted the same yesterday until dinner, when they finally sat down and talked things through. He made it clear that hitting is never okay, and they had a long conversation about expectations, respect, and how to behave in public. I’ve already wrote out the consequences she’ll face. She does have a watch she can use to call in an emergency.

I also think it’s important to remember that teens can have tough moments—she was having a bad day. It doesn’t signal always signal bigger issues. That said, she knows this behavior isn’t acceptable, and we’re addressing it seriously.

No phone for two months? She’s okay with that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, My husband acted the same yesterday until dinner, when they finally sat down and talked things through. He made it clear that hitting is never okay, and they had a long conversation about expectations, respect, and how to behave in public. I’ve already wrote out the consequences she’ll face. She does have a watch she can use to call in an emergency.

I also think it’s important to remember that teens can have tough moments—she was having a bad day. It doesn’t signal always signal bigger issues. That said, she knows this behavior isn’t acceptable, and we’re addressing it seriously.

No phone for two months? She’s okay with that?

No, she’s not. She cried, but she’ll survive. She’s had her phone taken for one or two months a few times before.

[Anonymous]

. Kids should not hit their parents. i would of knocked her to the other side of the room.

[Anonymous]

It's not 1980. You don't just ground and take away a phone and think it will fix anything. Get her to a psychiatrist soon and figure out what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not 1980. You don't just ground and take away a phone and think it will fix anything. Get her to a psychiatrist soon and figure out what is going on.

She has no history of mental health problems, no symptoms —this was a one-time incident where she hit him. She responds well to consequences.