A few years ago, there was a woman here who 'tricked' her xH into giving her full custody....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tricked, as in, she was able to document that he regularly relinquished his custody time, and therefore she was entitled to full custody because he was not interested in parenting? Or just persuaded her husband to just formalize the fact that he hardly ever had the kids?

OP. The former. Going through this with my xH, he keeps giving up his custody time. He took off for 3 weeks a few months back with little notice, and this weekend he decided he didn’t want the kids because he didn’t feel like doing Easter.

I’m trying to be agreeable and am offering to keep the kids for most of the summer because he hasn’t been able to line up childcare for when he works. Rather than taking him to court, I’m hoping in the next year or two I can propose that I get custody of the kids. If I try to fight him he’ll resist, but if I play nice I think he’ll give in to it.

Ultimately it’s because I want to move back to my hometown, where I’ll have family support.

Also, he doesn’t pay child support. I’m willing to forgo that.

I don’t see any “tricking” here. He may be in denial about what is actions are going to end up doing to him but that’s his issue. As long as you are not actively blocking the kids from seeing him and are willing to make an effort to ensure they keep a relationship after you move, you aren’t doing anything wrong.

You don’t have to take him to court and you don’t have to even have an official parenting plan.

You are allowed to be a responsible and capable adult without the help of lawyers or court.

[Anonymous]

Y'all aren't tricking anyone. All the male divorce advice is to demand 50/50 custody or suffer financial devastation. Any man being "tricked" into losing custody is either incredibly rich or doesn't like kids.