In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?

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Anonymous wrote:Not all men need help after 40 - is this being written by bots or teens?

Put no stock in anything you read here. This forum is only entertaining the way a trainwreck is.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not attracted to people over 50 maybe 55 if really well kept. So yeah right up until I have to see a man that old. 😖

You will also be that old. You understand that, right?

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I married when we were in our late 50s. Both of us were divorced with no kids in the home when we met. We have an active sex life (at least 3X/week) and that is with each of us having experienced some big health events already. We both use meds (HRT and Viagra). If cancer, weight gain, menopause, and cardiac problems haven't stopped us by now, no reason to expect that anything else will anytime soon. We each experienced dead bedroom marriages and neither one of us has any intention of returning to that sort of cold and distant marriage ever again. You should read the NYT article that came out this week about the older couple that embrace their sexuality together, even if that means expanding their understanding about what counts as sex. Hint: there's more to sex than PIV!

Like what?

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage man-woman, the man is going to need help after 40. Woman-woman, probably sex forever. Man-man? Not sure but probably longer than a hetero male.

Woman-woman? That’s like the biggest guaranteed dead bedroom and highest likelihood of divorce.

What happens with the Subaru?

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Anonymous wrote:Can you comprehend that you will feel differently at 65, 75, 85 than you did at 20, 30 or 40?

Marriages can last 60 years or more. Do you understand that health issues can crop up along the way?

I wish I had realized better that my drive would bounce back quite a bit post menopause, but hormones are a true driver of sex and once those hormones drop, so does desire. And atrophy is a real issue for many women.

But also many men start to have a lot of issues in their 50s. Weight and medications cause ED difficulty, and knees and hips start to break down.

It's not as easy to "just do it" to appease a partner.

Sex is the icing on the cake in a relationship. It's not the main thing.

--- Signed married woman for 45 years

That's nice for you. Sex is the most important part of a marriage. I despise my wife for taking that away.

You sound really trashy

It is spousal abuse to unilaterally decide that someone's sex life is over.

This board is why I will never immediately blame someone for cheating. You never know the whole story.

This board is the reason I will never get married again.

[Anonymous]

Most men get ED in the 40's and women are peri and angry from being dumped on for years. It's not sexy any more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you comprehend that you will feel differently at 65, 75, 85 than you did at 20, 30 or 40?

Marriages can last 60 years or more. Do you understand that health issues can crop up along the way?

I wish I had realized better that my drive would bounce back quite a bit post menopause, but hormones are a true driver of sex and once those hormones drop, so does desire. And atrophy is a real issue for many women.

But also many men start to have a lot of issues in their 50s. Weight and medications cause ED difficulty, and knees and hips start to break down.

It's not as easy to "just do it" to appease a partner.

Sex is the icing on the cake in a relationship. It's not the main thing.

--- Signed married woman for 45 years

That's nice for you. Sex is the most important part of a marriage. I despise my wife for taking that away.

New poster here. I agree that sex is not the main thing in our relationship at all. It’s a plus and that’s it. You have a problem with thinking that sex is the main thing if you despise your wife for any reason, you should leave her and get a divorce. It sounds like you’re only in the marriage for what you thought would be a permanent sex situation on demand; that’s not what marriage is—grow up.

-divorced woman who was in a sexless marriage for most of a decade (it was him); I didn’t leave over the lack of sex because that is the least important thing. I left over more important things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not attracted to people over 50 maybe 55 if really well kept. So yeah right up until I have to see a man that old. 😖

Agree.

I have better things to do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men get ED in the 40's and women are peri and angry from being dumped on for years. It's not sexy any more.

Especially if everyone is out of shape or the new glp-1 fat skinny.

[Anonymous]

20 - 30 years.

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I’m 50, married 26 years. He’s the absolute best man in every way but if he said he was done (or if I felt I could say I’m done) I would be SO RELIEVED. I’ve heard this can change with HRT so maybe I’ll feel differently someday. We’re only 3-4 times/month. But right now I’d be good with never. The thought of still doing it in my 60s in inconceivable.

[Anonymous]

All, barring any serious illness.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 50, married 26 years. He’s the absolute best man in every way but if he said he was done (or if I felt I could say I’m done) I would be SO RELIEVED. I’ve heard this can change with HRT so maybe I’ll feel differently someday. We’re only 3-4 times/month. But right now I’d be good with never. The thought of still doing it in my 60s in inconceivable.

60 year old woman here. What's better than sex, really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Until death.

This is the only answer.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you comprehend that you will feel differently at 65, 75, 85 than you did at 20, 30 or 40?

Marriages can last 60 years or more. Do you understand that health issues can crop up along the way?

I wish I had realized better that my drive would bounce back quite a bit post menopause, but hormones are a true driver of sex and once those hormones drop, so does desire. And atrophy is a real issue for many women.

But also many men start to have a lot of issues in their 50s. Weight and medications cause ED difficulty, and knees and hips start to break down.

It's not as easy to "just do it" to appease a partner.

Sex is the icing on the cake in a relationship. It's not the main thing.

--- Signed married woman for 45 years

That's nice for you. Sex is the most important part of a marriage. I despise my wife for taking that away.

You sound really trashy

It is spousal abuse to unilaterally decide that someone's sex life is over.

This board is why I will never immediately blame someone for cheating. You never know the whole story.

This board is the reason I will never get married again.

No kiddin' huh?! :lol: