DD not excited about any of her options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's lucky she got into so many good schools. Beggars can't be choosers. If she wanted better she should have worked harder. Every one of them would be fine -- and fun.

Go f yourself.

Take your meds.

Chill man. I think you forgot your meds. This is a forum and everyone has a right to their opinions.

I agree. Mid grades. Test optional. You get what you get and don’t be upset.

Indiana is overrated. Most kids I know who got in are mid students. These are not the 4.0 with 1500 SAT kids.

Indiana is UNDERRATED.

High acceptance school with a few top ranked programs (business, music, journalism, Hamilton Lugar school).

Gorgeous campus that is prettier than any I have seen. Lovely quintessential college town. Steps from campus. Music humming out of bars, beautiful trees and pathways, friendly vibes, noise spilling out…there is something very special about IU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's lucky she got into so many good schools. Beggars can't be choosers. If she wanted better she should have worked harder. Every one of them would be fine -- and fun.

Go f yourself.

Take your meds.

Chill man. I think you forgot your meds. This is a forum and everyone has a right to their opinions.

I agree. Mid grades. Test optional. You get what you get and don’t be upset.

Indiana is overrated. Most kids I know who got in are mid students. These are not the 4.0 with 1500 SAT kids.

Indiana is UNDERRATED.

High acceptance school with a few top ranked programs (business, music, journalism, Hamilton Lugar school).

Gorgeous campus that is prettier than any I have seen. Lovely quintessential college town. Steps from campus. Music humming out of bars, beautiful trees and pathways, friendly vibes, noise spilling out…there is something very special about IU.

+1

[Anonymous]

It’s a stressful time, even with several great options.

[Anonymous]

OP I agree with the posters who suggest attending admitted students days for as many as you can (maybe have her rank visits by her major and which curriculums sound the most interesting? Or visit all if you can) + following the social accounts + joining the “class of 2030” unofficial IG accounts and/or ZeeMee accounts. Start talking to other admitted students. Start catching others excitement.

This is an overwhelming process. It also gets very built up emotionally. Time to start helping her develop warm feelings about a school. Congrats to her on all of her acceptances!

If you think she needs a few more, I keep getting emails from schools so I assume apps are still open: Lawrence, Hofstra, Clark, St. John’s, University of Arizona, Denison, F&M…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's lucky she got into so many good schools. Beggars can't be choosers. If she wanted better she should have worked harder. Every one of them would be fine -- and fun.

Go f yourself.

Take your meds.

Chill man. I think you forgot your meds. This is a forum and everyone has a right to their opinions.

I agree. Mid grades. Test optional. You get what you get and don’t be upset.

Indiana is overrated. Most kids I know who got in are mid students. These are not the 4.0 with 1500 SAT kids.

Indiana is UNDERRATED.

High acceptance school with a few top ranked programs (business, music, journalism, Hamilton Lugar school).

Gorgeous campus that is prettier than any I have seen. Lovely quintessential college town. Steps from campus. Music humming out of bars, beautiful trees and pathways, friendly vibes, noise spilling out…there is something very special about IU.

+1

DP. That’s pretty typical for a many of the Big10 schools. One major drawback to Indiana is that it’s surrounded by corn fields and rural towns. Indy is about an hour away but that’s not really an exciting city either (though much better than it used to be, I’ll admit). Do Indiana students still party in the corn fields? That was definitely a thing.

[Anonymous]

The answer is JMU. There are some kids that go somewhat reluctantly because of an inaccurate “high school 2.0” label that mean kids and parents sometimes use. By Halloween almost everyone loves JMU. If for some reason she doesn’t like it she can transfer. Trust me, this one is easy.

-college counselor

[Anonymous]

Indiana is amazing! She won’t be able to transfer into Kelley, but definitely visit - she might love it!

[Anonymous]

Like many students before her, she will make the best choice out of her options.

If she is mentally well adjusted, she will enjoy where she winds up.

[Anonymous]

At Admittedly Students Day, schools really woo kids, and try to engender school spirit. She will also meet her peers and begin to envision a social life there.

She will get more excited, for sure.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised she has such good options given her low stats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's lucky she got into so many good schools. Beggars can't be choosers. If she wanted better she should have worked harder. Every one of them would be fine -- and fun.

All you know is that her GPA is a respectable 3.5. The majority of students at those schools have similar GPAs so what are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's lucky she got into so many good schools. Beggars can't be choosers. If she wanted better she should have worked harder. Every one of them would be fine -- and fun.

Go f yourself.

Take your meds.

Why are you so worked up? Everything I said is true. And they're all fine schools. It's unreasonable for a 3.5 student applying test optional to be disappointed with these results. They're good schools! Frankly I'm surprised she got into them all.

JMU - Admission - Mostly A and Bs, average GPA 3..5 - 3.7. Transfer students required 3.0.

College of Charleston - Admissions accept A/B students, SAT 1140 - 1300, ACT 25.

Michigan State - average student is about 3.7, test optional.

Indiana- ai. 3.5 GPA is competitive and falls within the typical admitted student range for general admission.


So tell me, why are you surprised she got into them? She is the typical student for these colleges and 80% of the rest of them.

[Anonymous]

My anecdata is that the kids that got into their "dream school" are much more likely to be disappointed with the actual experience than those who didn't feel strongly about their choice. It's not always great to have super high expectations.

It could also be that she's not feeling ready to go and just doesn't want to admit it.

Otherwise, this is a good opportunity to learn that sometimes life gives you limited choices and you just have to make the best of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My anecdata is that the kids that got into their "dream school" are much more likely to be disappointed with the actual experience than those who didn't feel strongly about their choice. It's not always great to have super high expectations.

It could also be that she's not feeling ready to go and just doesn't want to admit it.

Otherwise, this is a good opportunity to learn that sometimes life gives you limited choices and you just have to make the best of them.

Those are hardly “limited choices.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's lucky she got into so many good schools. Beggars can't be choosers. If she wanted better she should have worked harder. Every one of them would be fine -- and fun.

Go f yourself.

Take your meds.

Chill man. I think you forgot your meds. This is a forum and everyone has a right to their opinions.

I agree. Mid grades. Test optional. You get what you get and don’t be upset.

Indiana is overrated. Most kids I know who got in are mid students. These are not the 4.0 with 1500 SAT kids.

Indiana is UNDERRATED.

High acceptance school with a few top ranked programs (business, music, journalism, Hamilton Lugar school).

Gorgeous campus that is prettier than any I have seen. Lovely quintessential college town. Steps from campus. Music humming out of bars, beautiful trees and pathways, friendly vibes, noise spilling out…there is something very special about IU.

+1

DP. That’s pretty typical for a many of the Big10 schools. One major drawback to Indiana is that it’s surrounded by corn fields and rural towns. Indy is about an hour away but that’s not really an exciting city either (though much better than it used to be, I’ll admit). Do Indiana students still party in the corn fields? That was definitely a thing.

That hasn’t been a thing in the 21st century.