Single dad by choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy was married to a Chinese wife but decided to buy white eggs each time and have a white woman carry the child. His Chinese wife helped raise his kids.
So I dont think he was truly a single father except in a name.

Follow up to above - the whole setup is somehow gross. From the eugenics behind the choice to the exploitation of the parties involved. Then there is the question of marital status and seeking biological parenting outside of your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy was married to a Chinese wife but decided to buy white eggs each time and have a white woman carry the child. His Chinese wife helped raise his kids.
So I dont think he was truly a single father except in a name.

Divorced people will raise 5 healthy kids together in a “happy co-parenting relationship”. GMAB! They could have just stayed married for all that. In reality, they still are married, divorced only in name.

[Anonymous]

Isn't he gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm kind of so-so on surrogacy in general, but IMO, the best parents are the ones who WANT to be parents. This guy WANTED to be a parent, and made it happen. And he's a really wonderful parent.

I was raised with a single mom, so I'm not all precious about only having one parent. I prefer people who want to have children able to, vs forcing people who don't want children to have them (ie limiting abortion/plan b). Some people look at children as a punishment for having sex, which is detrimental to the child.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

As a single Asian male, I am very grateful to have a beautiful son and daughter through surrogacy. They are both Division I athletes at well-known universities, and it cost me $150,000 per year to raise them from the age of ten until they went to college. It required a significant financial investment for tennis, golf, piano, violin, and guitar lessons. It also cost a lot for private tutoring, boot camps, travel, and other expenses.

I truly enjoy my single life and do not want to get married, but I do want to have children. Fortunately, I have the financial resources to make that possible. Others may not be as fortunate.

[Anonymous]

I have deep concerns about commercial surrogacy. And I understand many commercial surrogates are unwilling to support single-father by choice arrangements because of the risk of exploitation to the child.

However, if a single man can find a relative or a friend who is willing to be a surrogate, I am sure many would make splendid fathers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to be very well off financially, for starters. We met a gay man at the clinic where we were doing IVF and we became friends. He shared that it had cost him over $150k for the whole process so far and this was 10 years ago.

My colleague went the surrogacy route and shared a similar price tag.

I spent about that much adopting as a single woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a single Asian male, I am very grateful to have a beautiful son and daughter through surrogacy. They are both Division I athletes at well-known universities, and it cost me $150,000 per year to raise them from the age of ten until they went to college. It required a significant financial investment for tennis, golf, piano, violin, and guitar lessons. It also cost a lot for private tutoring, boot camps, travel, and other expenses.

I truly enjoy my single life and do not want to get married, but I do want to have children. Fortunately, I have the financial resources to make that possible. Others may not be as fortunate.

A man is not allowed to say he enjoys being single. The minute he says that it's negative comments after negative comments.

You just showed that single dads can be great parent as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why more men don't consider it.

Because society does not support Male fathers. They judge you and shun you for prioritizing family over career and there is almost zero social support from mothers since you are a man and they are sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why more men don't consider it.

Because society does not support Male fathers. They judge you and shun you for prioritizing family over career and there is almost zero social support from mothers since you are a man and they are sexist.

This

But also, the men who can successfully do this are wealthy and wealthy men have partner(s)

[Anonymous]

How many of these wealthy single men manage to raise the kids without paying a woman to take care of their children or household?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many of these wealthy single men manage to raise the kids without paying a woman to take care of their children or household?

As a wealthy single guy, why would I NOT pay many women to take care of my children and household? It is not like I can take money with me when I am gone from this earth. I give them the very best chance to succeed in life.

[Anonymous]

When my younger son was around 5, he told me that he would be a dad even if he did t get married. He asked “you think I’ll be a good dad?” It was the sweetest thing ever. At almost 18, I’m not sure he even remembers that.

Alyssa Liu’s dad did it 5 times.

I am a big advocate of not pressuring kids to get married, have kids, etc. Let them live their own lives.

[Anonymous]

I know one. An ex bf of mine. He’s filthy rich and didn’t ever get married. He’s a great dad.

[Anonymous]

Interesting

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