Single dad by choice

[Anonymous]

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/alysa-liu-dad-became-single-204408791.html

I wish more men considered this route. As of now, women are mostly the ones going this route. I think men should seriously consider doing so as well.

[Anonymous]

He is a very wealthy man from San Francisco. It takes a lot of money to do this.

[Anonymous]

I wonder why more men don't consider it.

[Anonymous]

He shared he spent $500k - $1mil on her skating too.

He’s got the means. Good for him and them.

[Anonymous]

You need to be very well off financially, for starters. We met a gay man at the clinic where we were doing IVF and we became friends. He shared that it had cost him over $150k for the whole process so far and this was 10 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Why do you wish more men considered this route? I, for one, am glad that it will always be fringe because it is simply too expensive for most people to even consider. Commercial surrogacy is inherently exploitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to be very well off financially, for starters. We met a gay man at the clinic where we were doing IVF and we became friends. He shared that it had cost him over $150k for the whole process so far and this was 10 years ago.

My colleague went the surrogacy route and shared a similar price tag.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, it's wrong to bring a child into the world without intending for it to have a mother. A child losing their mother is a tragedy, so to plan it that way is just monstrous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, it's wrong to bring a child into the world without intending for it to have a mother. A child losing their mother is a tragedy, so to plan it that way is just monstrous.

I agree. But I agree the same is true of women who bring a child into the world via surrogacy without intending for it to have a father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/alysa-liu-dad-became-single-204408791.html

I wish more men considered this route. As of now, women are mostly the ones going this route. I think men should seriously consider doing so as well.

I don't. Women should not do it either.

Plenty of research finds that kids in single parent households on average have worse outcomes in life, controlling for income.

The only group which does OK is girls who are raised by single parent mothers.

Children deserve both a mother and a father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/alysa-liu-dad-became-single-204408791.html

I wish more men considered this route. As of now, women are mostly the ones going this route. I think men should seriously consider doing so as well.

I don't. Women should not do it either.

Plenty of research finds that kids in single parent households on average have worse outcomes in life, controlling for income.

The only group which does OK is girls who are raised by single parent mothers.

Children deserve both a mother and a father.

Actually, this isn't true. Studies have shown that children raised in single mother by choice households do just as well as children from 2 parent households. The issue is single parent by circumstance. Most issues there come from financial stress, relocation, and parental conflict.

Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32940489/

Personally, if I could do it over again, I would have been a SMBC. I'm a divorced mom, and I already find it easier parenting without a man than with one.

[Anonymous]

OP is posting rage bait. Why would anyone wish that more children don't have mothers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/alysa-liu-dad-became-single-204408791.html

I wish more men considered this route. As of now, women are mostly the ones going this route. I think men should seriously consider doing so as well.

I don't. Women should not do it either.

Plenty of research finds that kids in single parent households on average have worse outcomes in life, controlling for income.

The only group which does OK is girls who are raised by single parent mothers.

Children deserve both a mother and a father.

Actually, this isn't true. Studies have shown that children raised in single mother by choice households do just as well as children from 2 parent households. The issue is single parent by circumstance. Most issues there come from financial stress, relocation, and parental conflict.

Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32940489/

Personally, if I could do it over again, I would have been a SMBC. I'm a divorced mom, and I already find it easier parenting without a man than with one.

This ...especially if you look at bad parents or abusive parents. It's not better to have 2.

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of so-so on surrogacy in general, but IMO, the best parents are the ones who WANT to be parents. This guy WANTED to be a parent, and made it happen. And he's a really wonderful parent.

I was raised with a single mom, so I'm not all precious about only having one parent. I prefer people who want to have children able to, vs forcing people who don't want children to have them (ie limiting abortion/plan b). Some people look at children as a punishment for having sex, which is detrimental to the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/alysa-liu-dad-became-single-204408791.html

I wish more men considered this route. As of now, women are mostly the ones going this route. I think men should seriously consider doing so as well.

I don't. Women should not do it either.

Plenty of research finds that kids in single parent households on average have worse outcomes in life, controlling for income.

The only group which does OK is girls who are raised by single parent mothers.

Children deserve both a mother and a father.

Actually, this isn't true. Studies have shown that children raised in single mother by choice households do just as well as children from 2 parent households. The issue is single parent by circumstance. Most issues there come from financial stress, relocation, and parental conflict.

Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32940489/

Personally, if I could do it over again, I would have been a SMBC. I'm a divorced mom, and I already find it easier parenting without a man than with one.

SMBC here. My kids are now 18 and 15. We have had a wonderful time.