What is the best response I can make to this massive setback?

[Anonymous]

“The more you live in someone’s shadow, the longer it takes to cast your own”

You’ve already accomplished so much OP, but your jealousy of your sister is holding you back. Time to let it go and be free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get out of the mindset that these things just happened to you. You need to take accountability for the red flags you missed and for not having the self-esteem to make better choices. I say that as someone who married someone aflame with red flags who ended up in an abusive marriage. I got divorced and could feel myself falling down the hole of self-despair and why do this happen to me.

DP.

But don’t you have any sympathy for the OP? Can’t you see this is not her fault?

Different DP, I don't think fault is a useful framework. We all make choices we regret. Sometimes those are still the best choice in difficult circumstances, or sometimes we can see in hindsight that we could have done something different. It's worth acknowledging that you made the choice, and why.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry you’ve been going through all this, but don’t despair. I have several friends who became single moms by choice around your age, and they’re so happy! It absolutely can be done.

Also, it’s easy to look at someone’s life as an outsider and it seems perfect. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. I’m sure people thought my life looked perfect, while I was falling apart on the inside.

In the meantime, do some things by yourself that will make you feel happy and empowered. Travel, exercise, whatever. I’m rooting for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry you’ve been going through all this, but don’t despair. I have several friends who became single moms by choice around your age, and they’re so happy! It absolutely can be done.

Also, it’s easy to look at someone’s life as an outsider and it seems perfect. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. I’m sure people thought my life looked perfect, while I was falling apart on the inside.

In the meantime, do some things by yourself that will make you feel happy and empowered. Travel, exercise, whatever. I’m rooting for you, OP!

Thank you for your kind words!