I accidentally donated DD's collection to Goodwill and she's furious. How to make amends?

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Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

I don't throw away other people's things without asking.

If I didn't my kids would still be hanging on to dried out play doh

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Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

My sister did this when her last child went away to college. It was cathartic for her and she got rid of a bunch of stuff. Unfortunately for the kids, she decided to give away their beloved Lego collection, including one creation that her son had hidden his cash savings inside. By the time they found out, it was too late. The kids still bring it up to this day, a decade later. So, parents, please ask your family members before tossing out their "junk." I find it hard to believe that OP did not know these books belonged to her DD.

Lesson learned... don't keep cash in legos.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

My sister did this when her last child went away to college. It was cathartic for her and she got rid of a bunch of stuff. Unfortunately for the kids, she decided to give away their beloved Lego collection, including one creation that her son had hidden his cash savings inside. By the time they found out, it was too late. The kids still bring it up to this day, a decade later. So, parents, please ask your family members before tossing out their "junk." I find it hard to believe that OP did not know these books belonged to her DD.

Lesson learned... don't keep cash in legos.

I think everyone in our lives now knows this cautionary tale. 😉

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Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

+1 every Christmas the family board is full of posts asking how to stop grandma from buying so much stuff. The replies are always declutter while your kids are sleeping/at school/out with friends.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a funny one, 7/10 troll.
But really my father SOLD my collections when I was a teen on eBay. Everything I left in my room when I went to college was sold and he kept the money. “As payment for raising you.” Even though I spent my own money on that stuff. What a guy!

That is mean if he didn't give you the heads-up.

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Crazy thread and replies, even if OP is a troll (unclear to me). And yet we have people who wonder why their adult children want little to do with them?

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Anonymous wrote:NP
Why are teen girls so into gay male romance Manga? My dd likes that too. They are not obscene but way too flowery.

Romantic yet nonthreatening?

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I gave away my son‘s Pokémon cards that were worth about $2000.

Ouch!

Give them time to be upset and then figure out what’s a good resolution.

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Our rule is if it's not in their room or maker station, we put in a certain table and when it gets filled up, we're allowed to dispose as we please

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

I don't throw away other people's things without asking.

If I didn't my kids would still be hanging on to dried out play doh

Then you can decide not to buy them new things or you work with them to figure out how to let go of dried out Play-Doh, but throwing away things that aren't yours without permission is wrong. That applies even to kids. I'm sure it's easier for you, but sometimes good parenting is hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

I don't throw away other people's things without asking.

If I didn't my kids would still be hanging on to dried out play doh

Then you can decide not to buy them new things or you work with them to figure out how to let go of dried out Play-Doh, but throwing away things that aren't yours without permission is wrong. That applies even to kids. I'm sure it's easier for you, but sometimes good parenting is hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

I don't throw away other people's things without asking.

If I didn't my kids would still be hanging on to dried out play doh

Then you can decide not to buy them new things or you work with them to figure out how to let go of dried out Play-Doh, but throwing away things that aren't yours without permission is wrong. That applies even to kids. I'm sure it's easier for you, but sometimes good parenting is hard.

Let me guess...you practice gentle parenting

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Lots of hoarders in here I see

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought all parents tossed stuff in the basement as part of regular decluttering. Isn't that what is done to make way for new holiday/birthday presents.

I don't throw away other people's things without asking.

If I didn't my kids would still be hanging on to dried out play doh

Can you not tell the difference between that and a stack of books?

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Anonymous wrote:So you found this collection of Japanese manga anime books, thought you'd be a giving person and got rid of them at Goodwill instead of asking your family about them? Don't believe this piece of fiction for a minute.

OP here. I should clarify that we are a family that loves art, and we have many art books from different formats and cultures around our house — including, yes, some manga. But as I mentioned, I didn’t give the book a close look before donating it because my assumption that it was one of my own was so immediate. Stupid, I know.

(Side note, I am fairly new to this website, do they have a trolling problem? I’ve been accused of being a troll so many times on this thread already, and scrolling through other threads a LOT of them seem to be people accusing other people of being trolls.)