Being Objectified- no emotional connection

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have been married for 20 years. DH has no ability to interact with me like I am a person. I walk in a room trying to grab stuff for the kids in a hurry and he says stuff like "how about you help me while your on your knees" ; or if I say we have to pay for something like a house repair he will ask me what I am going to do to earn the money. It's stuff like that non-stop. While are son's are close by, while I am cooking. It is so old. I have told him to stop a million times and he says that I am the problem. I just don't want to be treated like a piece of meat all the time. We have so much tension between us that we barely speak, but when we do he launches right back into these comments. We both work, but he makes way more than me and seems to think that means he is more important.

I wish my husband was as dominant and yours and treated me like that.
My DH is too soft and gentle. It’s not fun.

Gross.

What is gross about previous post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He wants to feel loved but doesn't know how to go about it.

Wow. Hilarious response.

Maybe hilarious but probably true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's emotionally immature. I live with similar. Good luck

there are a lot of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He wants to feel loved but doesn't know how to go about it.

+1.

It's pretty pathetic, but it sounds like this is what is going on. I'd do counseling and see if the marriage can be salvaged.

[Anonymous]

Op sounds petty. There are a lot of women including me that would die to be talked like that.

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds like a common jerk to me.

Have you had a serious ➕ direct discussion w/him about how being talked to in such a manner really HURTS you??
If not - - I highly recommend that you do so.
Try to do it at a time when you are both alone & he is in a regular, normal mood.

If this doesn’t work the next obvious option would be for you two to seek out marital therapy together.

Good luck to you both❣️

[Anonymous]

You sound like someone with no sense of humor or the desire to be playful in your marriage, no matter how dumb it may be.

There will come a day when you will miss those times when a man showed such lustful feelings for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a porn addiction. The way men treat you gets worse over time.

Yup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op sounds petty. There are a lot of women including me that would die to be talked like that.

You are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have been married for 20 years. DH has no ability to interact with me like I am a person. I walk in a room trying to grab stuff for the kids in a hurry and he says stuff like "how about you help me while your on your knees" ; or if I say we have to pay for something like a house repair he will ask me what I am going to do to earn the money. It's stuff like that non-stop. While are son's are close by, while I am cooking. It is so old. I have told him to stop a million times and he says that I am the problem. I just don't want to be treated like a piece of meat all the time. We have so much tension between us that we barely speak, but when we do he launches right back into these comments. We both work, but he makes way more than me and seems to think that means he is more important.

Yuck. I don’t want to blame the victim here but if my DH improperly propositioned me in front of a child he would come within an inch of surviving. that is child abuse. that is sexualizing children who shouldn’t be exposed to that language, I’m disgusted. You don’t need to mince words with him about tolerating this behavior. Make sure you know all of the account balances so this ends well for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op sounds petty. There are a lot of women including me that would die to be talked like that.

IN FRONT OF THE KIDS? 💀 then

[Anonymous]

Divorce. No need to even tell him why.

[Anonymous]

Your fault. bet he just wants sex with you; you ignored that for who knows how long.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He doesn't respect you. You've asked him to stop and he minimizes or dismisses your feelings completely. Does he do this with other things in your marriage or is it just when it comes to how he addresses you?

I don’t agree with what he is doing, but he is clearly seeking, the wrong way, physical connection or intimacy. Has he tried other methods and been shot down, have you initiated before he has a chance to ask? It may be a “I have nothing to lose” attitude.

They need to go to couples counseling. He’s embarrassing himself.

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Grab a new plate.