Am I horrible for wanting a second version of life?

[Anonymous]

I'm in my late 40s now. All of my friends who went into relationships and ended up at step-mothers REGRET IT INTENSELY. In our 20s and early 30s it was so fun for them to play house with their boyfriend's kids. It had not gone well long term for ANY of them. They all will tell you being a step mother is the absolute worst and they would heavily reconsider doing it.

So. I'd avoid that. Yes it can work out well, of course it can. But for most women it's just a ton more work and heartache.

[Anonymous]

You’re young op, don’t see why you would hold yourself back if you meet the right person.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you enter into a relationship with a man who has kids (no matter their age - child or adult) then you MUST be prepared for the fruitlessly hard emotional work and endless heartache that comes with it.

There is no human being more hated than a stepmother. Period.

Doesn't matter what you do or how many therapists or books you read. And the biggest bias is against women - Kids do not want any other woman in their father's lives or their lives.

Mom reigns supreme and always will, no matter if she is a saint or sinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re young op, don’t see why you would hold yourself back if you meet the right person.

I think if she meets someone in the wild and has chemistry with them, she should be open to a relationship. But I don’t think she should jump on the apps and get on that hamster wheel. Honestly that’s energy she shouldn’t be expending with little kids.