My adult children said they will never meet my SO

[Anonymous]

Well I hope all this is fiction, OP. You've reached middle age without any sensitivity to other people's feelings, and without much in the way of filter, emotional control or sense of propriety.

I hope your children find happiness and success in life without you.

[Anonymous]

If you have any assets you intend to leave in inheritance, step 1 is to give 80% of them away to wherever you would have sent them if you'd never met your GF. (Children, charity, whatever.) Protect your relationship by taking money out of the the equation.

[Anonymous]

Dating is supposed to be fun. Fighting on the phone (or anywhere else) is not fun.

[Anonymous]

Sir you’re a chump for love and too old.

[Anonymous]

50 something women are only willing to marry 70 something men because she’s hoping you’ll croak soon and she’ll get all your money. If it’s true love, she will be fine not marrying. You should not remarry.

But you sound like a typical old fool…so at least give your kids all the sentimental things (photos, your wife’s jewelry, family heirlooms, your wife’s personal items and collectibles) before you marry this witch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have any assets you intend to leave in inheritance, step 1 is to give 80% of them away to wherever you would have sent them if you'd never met your GF. (Children, charity, whatever.) Protect your relationship by taking money out of the the equation.

Try this experiment. Tell your girlfriend that you were thinking about the trauma after your wife died and decided to spare your children some of that. Therefore you put all your assets in trust for them and sny grand children. Suggest she might want to think about that too.

Then see if she hangs around.

[Anonymous]

This can't possibly be true. I think you are watching too much trash TV. Or AI is hallucinating on your behalf. Adult women do not normally get into physical fights.

[Anonymous]

I agree this sounds familiar - in the prior post, the op acknowledged not having many assets (so the kids weren’t concerned about inheritance). But he seemed awfully fixated on remarrying asap. He also seemed clueless as to how his kids feel about losing their mom.

Why couldn’t you just tell your kids you want to date? And discuss marriage when you are ready to get married.

Finally, huge red flag to say anything negative about your late wife. My father’s second wife wouldn’t let my late mom be discussed in her presence (even when my kids were asking my dad questions about the grandma they never met). Run and keep meeting new people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Well I hope all this is fiction, OP. You've reached middle age without any sensitivity to other people's feelings, and without much in the way of filter, emotional control or sense of propriety.

I hope your children find happiness and success in life without you.

😂

[Anonymous]

This entire post (and the other one) are nothing but troll bait.

There is no way in hell a 72 year old man is on DCUM and is using phrases like, "I told my girlfriend to extend grace..."

Clearly this is an upset adult daughter who does not like that her father is dating again and she has created this fictional story to get others' sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife used to frequent this site, so I’m hoping you all can give me some insight.

I was with my wife for over 45 years, and she unexpectedly passed in August of 2024. I started casually dating around February 2025. I told my daughter (35) then that I was dating and I planned on remarrying. She told me then it was my business, but she thought it was too soon for me to date but it was definitely too soon for her to hear about it. She said that I could do what I want but asked that I don’t speak to her about my dating life.

Fast forward to August and I met someone, and we’ve been dating since. I met her children back in early October so we thought it would be a good time for her to meet my children. I brought it up to my daughter and she told me she wasn’t ready to meet her yet, especially since we’d only been dating for a couple of months. I told her that was rude and that this would hurt my girlfriend’s feelings. She said if she’s a decent person she’ll understand. After this, admittedly, I says some things I regret (I tried to make her feel guilty). My son also said he wasn’t ready to meet her either.

Last week I brought up them meeting again. Before I brought this up I told her I was still seeing her but let her know I was unsure if we’d go the distance because we fight so much. I also told my daughter that my girlfriend was upset about she had her brother not wanting to meet her. She asked if she was upset or disappointed, because according to her she can understand disappointment but not hurt. I told her both, and that I told my girlfriend to extend grace to she and brother because of their grief. She said given my age (72), is this how I want to spend my time, fighting with someone all the time? She said that if we’re fighting this much and it’s only been a few months it’s only going to get worse. I told her I’d think about that.

After this is when I asked her if she’d consider an introduction between the two of them, not to spend time, but simply an introduction. She hesitated and told me she doesn’t know. I told her that at some point in the future if I’m still around, I’m going to have another wife. She said, “I know” and brought up her aunt and her mother. Her aunt, my wife’s sister, who was like a mother to her also unexpectedly passed 4 months before my wife. She said, “Mary passing is still fresh. So can you imagine how fresh mom passing is? Plus, now that I’m pregnant (first time), I miss her even more and it’s even harder for me. This is a very sensitive time for me.”. I told her that I understood and let her know that my girlfriend could help with that. My daughter said no, and that she didn’t want her to help. That this would’ve been a time reserved for her mom, and no one else. I asked her to just think about it when she was ready.

My daughter stayed the night last night because she’s helping me go through the attic. My girlfriend and I got into a pretty loud, nasty argument over the phone. We both said some nasty things. My girlfriend said some mean things about my wife, although she denies it. This morning, my daughter came downstairs and asked , “You guys fighting again, huh?” I told her yes. She said, “I’m not trying to be in your business but I heard you tell her that she said some mean things about mom.”. I told her I thought she did but that she denied it. My daughter said that if that’s the case she will never meet her, and that she knows her brother never will either.

I’m meeting my girlfriend tonight for dinner to patch things up.

So now what?

Just in case people are wondering:

Me, 72
Girlfriend, 56
Son, 39
Daughter, 35

You are actually so disgusting, I can't even!

You tried to guilt your own child into meeting your f*** buddy? You don't even get along with this person, she says nasty sh*t about your kids' mom, but you want her to be giving your daughter motherly advice less like 18 months after her mom died? Are men actually this f***ing dumb?

Did you even love your wife? Like, I don't understand losing the person you've loved for 50 years, immediately moving on (to someone you don't even get along with or appear to like) and trying to force her into your family. Bizarre. Inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

^Blatant sockpuppeting.

This whole thread is nothing more than rage bait. Probably by an adult daughter who cannot accept her father's interest in dating. The dialog and some of the sock-puppeting responses are so contrived it's laughable.

Someone needs professional mental health help, STAT.

[Anonymous]

Dude you moved on way too soon. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are too old for this woman anyway. What's in it for her? Hope she loves elder care!

You can get a new wife and move on, but your kids can never get a new mom, and seeing another woman in their mother's place will be very hard for them. Forever. Doesn't mean you can't date and marry but your kids are unlikely to want to play Happy Family with this woman and her random kids.

This.

You posted before.

The woman you picked is too young for you and too close in age in to your kids.

She also shouldn't pressure you or your kids to have a meeting. If she's really in to you and emotionally mature, she could wait a long time without complaint.

If you thought she was making bad remarks about your wife, odds are she was at least hinting. That kind of person is likely to talk trash about your kids someday if you get married. How will you feel about a wife that hints at your kids being jerks.

I'm your girlfriend's age. I can't imagine dating a 72-year-old. Even a virile charismatic 72 year old. My friend with a husband that age just lost him to cancer.

I don't think this will end nicely. And I suggest you leave your daughter alone until her baby's at least 1 year old.

[Anonymous]

You don’t have to marry the very first woman you date.

This is true when you’re young and it’s especially true when you’re a widower.

My father in law became a widower in his 60’s and he was incredibly lonely after his wife died. He started dating very quickly and his kids tried to stay neutral. The very first woman he dated was a train wreck. She was bankrupt from her divorce and she had 10 kids. Of course he married her. And of course his two children are pushed to the side while he was in the honeymoon phase and they were mourning. 10 years later he barely talks to his children and rarely sees his children. Her family is full of MAGA idiots who have only gotten more vocal over the years. He’s a retired professional with a PhD.

Now he’s back to being depressed and lonely after blowing his life for the first woman he went on a date with.

Seriously.

Go on dates with at least a 3 different women before you settle for the train wreck. You’re in your 70’s it’s just embarrassing to be screaming at your girlfriend like drunk teenagers.