My adult children said they will never meet my SO

[Anonymous]

Your post is too long. You sound like my widowed father.

Your wife passed in August and you had a girlfriend already in February? Sounds very fast to me. Why can’t you just date and keep your kids out of it? I am so tired of hearing about how lonely my Dad is and what’s the latest with his newest girlfriend, blah blah. Be their Dad and keep your dating private. Why would you want them to meet her if you do not even think it will last?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are this woman's kids and does she have or expect grandkids?

I honestly think in a second marriage with adult children, the wife tries to monopolize the husband's time away from his own kids and grandkids, because she's trying to reconstruct an intact family and doesn't want his kids around at all. And the man on some level knows this, and starts behaving like OP is behaving to get rid of his kids. Because he understands that is the price of the marriage and wants a wife young enough to care for him.

Yes she does, 34 and 22. She has two grandkids. Her daughters don’t get along - she had separate them from a physical fight recently.

Oh FFS. It's no mystery why your kids are against this. The only mystery is why you are dating this awful woman at all.

Are you that desperate? You're only 72, you can do better..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember OP’s previous post- no, he will not recognize that he is the problem. I hope this is someone’s creative writing project.

Link!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are this woman's kids and does she have or expect grandkids?

I honestly think in a second marriage with adult children, the wife tries to monopolize the husband's time away from his own kids and grandkids, because she's trying to reconstruct an intact family and doesn't want his kids around at all. And the man on some level knows this, and starts behaving like OP is behaving to get rid of his kids. Because he understands that is the price of the marriage and wants a wife young enough to care for him.

Yes she does, 34 and 22. She has two grandkids. Her daughters don’t get along - she had separate them from a physical fight recently.

Wow the woman who gets into frequent ugly fights with her new boyfriend that involve saying nasty things about his dead former wife who she never even met also raised kids who get into fisticuffs as adults? What a shocker! And she's "hurt" that another adult woman she's never met doesn't want to meet her yet?

OP there's no fool like an old fool.

Is this a viagra thing? Because my grandfather and my husband's grandfather lost their wives around this age in the 90s and the last thing they were thinking about was finding a new lady to sex up. They focused on their kids and grandkids as one SHOULD in their golden years.
OP, no one wants your girlfriend around. If you need sex that badly meet up on weekends. Do not marry her and do not expect your poor daughter to treat her like her new mom.

[Anonymous]

Your desire for companionship is understandable, but this particular woman sounds awful. Seriously, what do you like about her? That she's significantly younger than you and still attractive? Otherwise she's volatile and jealous and would be a trial to deal with for the rest of your life. I think if you were seeing someone who is not so obviously terrible your kids would come around over time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember OP’s previous post- no, he will not recognize that he is the problem. I hope this is someone’s creative writing project.

Yes, I remember it, too. OP is absolutely the problem and an insensitive jerk. I hope it's fake, but I've seen this play out IRL and the adult kids got the shaft in the name of dad's newfound "true love."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember OP’s previous post- no, he will not recognize that he is the problem. I hope this is someone’s creative writing project.

I agree. I think I've read this guy's story before.

[Anonymous]

You were married for almost 40 years, and in just over 4 months you found yourself a girlfriend and decided you want to remarry.

You are the fool here, not your children.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter said that because she's pregnant she's missing her mom and aunt extra hard and your solution was to try to push your girlfriend that your daughter has said she doesn't want to meet, on your daughter to help her through missing her mom and aunt?

Do you HEAR yourself? You are an ass.

[Anonymous]

It was too fast.
It's foolish to have adult children meet someone after you dated less than a year.

If you marry and you don't get a prenup I would probably never help care for you in your old age.

Your money -> new wife -> her kids.

Is that what you want... all the money to go to some women's kids? Is that what your wife would have wanted for her children to not receive any of the money she spent all her life earning and saving to go to some stranger's kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are this woman's kids and does she have or expect grandkids?

I honestly think in a second marriage with adult children, the wife tries to monopolize the husband's time away from his own kids and grandkids, because she's trying to reconstruct an intact family and doesn't want his kids around at all. And the man on some level knows this, and starts behaving like OP is behaving to get rid of his kids. Because he understands that is the price of the marriage and wants a wife young enough to care for him.

Yes she does, 34 and 22. She has two grandkids. Her daughters don’t get along - she had separate them from a physical fight recently.

Wow the woman who gets into frequent ugly fights with her new boyfriend that involve saying nasty things about his dead former wife who she never even met also raised kids who get into fisticuffs as adults? What a shocker! And she's "hurt" that another adult woman she's never met doesn't want to meet her yet?

OP there's no fool like an old fool.

Is this a viagra thing? Because my grandfather and my husband's grandfather lost their wives around this age in the 90s and the last thing they were thinking about was finding a new lady to sex up. They focused on their kids and grandkids as one SHOULD in their golden years.
OP, no one wants your girlfriend around. If you need sex that badly meet up on weekends. Do not marry her and do not expect your poor daughter to treat her like her new mom.

it a I can't be alone and care for myself thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were married for almost 40 years, and in just over 4 months you found yourself a girlfriend and decided you want to remarry.

You are the fool here, not your children.

+1

The only time I have seen that kind of scenario work was with two couples, in their early 80’s, who had been friends for a long time. One of each couple lost their spouse around the same time. They first were together in grief and then decided to live together after about a year. They did not remarry and both had pictures of their first spouse up in the house. They needed someone to putter around with and be together with. It was actually sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your post is too long. You sound like my widowed father.

Your wife passed in August and you had a girlfriend already in February? Sounds very fast to me. Why can’t you just date and keep your kids out of it? I am so tired of hearing about how lonely my Dad is and what’s the latest with his newest girlfriend, blah blah. Be their Dad and keep your dating private. Why would you want them to meet her if you do not even think it will last?

He started dating casually in February. He didn’t start dating his current girlfriend until the following August, a year after his wife passed. He didn’t ask his kids to me meet the girlfriend until a couple months later.

Older men who have enjoyed long, happy marriages are usually the most eager to enter into marriage again. This isn’t unusual at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is too long. You sound like my widowed father.

Your wife passed in August and you had a girlfriend already in February? Sounds very fast to me. Why can’t you just date and keep your kids out of it? I am so tired of hearing about how lonely my Dad is and what’s the latest with his newest girlfriend, blah blah. Be their Dad and keep your dating private. Why would you want them to meet her if you do not even think it will last?

He started dating casually in February. He didn’t start dating his current girlfriend until the following August, a year after his wife passed. He didn’t ask his kids to me meet the girlfriend until a couple months later.

Older men who have enjoyed long, happy marriages are usually the most eager to enter into marriage again. This isn’t unusual at all.

Are they also eager to enter into marriage with someone pretty awful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are this woman's kids and does she have or expect grandkids?

I honestly think in a second marriage with adult children, the wife tries to monopolize the husband's time away from his own kids and grandkids, because she's trying to reconstruct an intact family and doesn't want his kids around at all. And the man on some level knows this, and starts behaving like OP is behaving to get rid of his kids. Because he understands that is the price of the marriage and wants a wife young enough to care for him.

Yes she does, 34 and 22. She has two grandkids. Her daughters don’t get along - she had separate them from a physical fight recently.

Wow the woman who gets into frequent ugly fights with her new boyfriend that involve saying nasty things about his dead former wife who she never even met also raised kids who get into fisticuffs as adults? What a shocker! And she's "hurt" that another adult woman she's never met doesn't want to meet her yet?

OP there's no fool like an old fool.

Is this a viagra thing? Because my grandfather and my husband's grandfather lost their wives around this age in the 90s and the last thing they were thinking about was finding a new lady to sex up. They focused on their kids and grandkids as one SHOULD in their golden years.
OP, no one wants your girlfriend around. If you need sex that badly meet up on weekends. Do not marry her and do not expect your poor daughter to treat her like her new mom.

it a I can't be alone and care for myself thing.

Seriously? Our families cared for our grandfathers. But if, for example, my grandpa had brought a much younger trophy wife into the picture I know my mom and her siblings wouldn't have done what they did for him. He was able to spend his last two years between his kids' homes. I guess it would have been more fun for him to die under the care of a 50 something bombshell but I'm glad he didn't choose that. He would have lost our respect.