Do you think being a daddy’s girl helps or hurts a woman in relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It can go both ways.

I have seen women who are daddy's girls find a man who is amazing and kind.

And I have seen them be too sheltered and pick a horrible guy who doesn't even come close and be miserable. My cousin is an example of this, her dad spoiled her rotten and then he died and she married a guy who was awful, divorced quickly and now raises two kids without any support from him.

Amazing how a true daddy’s girl could suddenly independently two kids solo.

Maybe she was actually just sheltered- shaver that means above, which is not Daddy’s girl, and naively thought most men are good people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s an insult ,

But yes, a dependent, spoilt, ultra feminine Daddy’s Girl will absolutely need a husband to treat her the same way.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a daddy’s girl. I have other siblings.

I had a very good relationship with my Dad We were close

But, he did not spoil or overindulge me.

He didn’t buy me everything or give me tons of money.

He taught me responsibility, honor and respect. He also taught me to be financially independent and fiscally responsible I do not rely on a man.

My Dad is a very special man in my life. I am daddy’s girl and proud of it.

Me too, and proud of it.
But I am not a “daddy’s girl” nor would I call myself one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak to how "daddy's girls" fare in romantic relationships, not being one.

I will say that the ones I've encountered as a woman, at work and in social settings, actually are kind of entitled and annoying. More likely to expect plans to revolve around them, more demanding of attention, more sensitive to criticism and less likely (if at all) to apologize.

A lot of women think that the high opinion of a man is ALWAYS worth more than any opinion of a woman. So if their dads thought the sun shined out of their butts, they think that means they are better than other people. And it also means they don't care what you think of them, which certainly could be useful in some situations, but also means they don't make great friends because they will never view you as equals.

My two cents.

This has been my experience with “daddy’s girl”

+1

Just the verbiage Daddy beyond age 4 is gross.

I dated a guy who would make me call him Daddy in bed. It was so hot.

[Anonymous]

I can speak to this from the Husbands side of things. My wife has a very close relationship with her father/my FIL. I'll say this off the bat, my FIL is a great man. He's welcomed me into the family from day 1, and is a fantastic grandfather to our children. However, I feel like my FIL has set the bar so high with regards to parenting (espicially parenting a girl) that I'll never be able to come close to him. For example, FIL has avery big, outgoing personality, which endears him to a lot of people. I’ve always been more introverted, but I show affection in my own ways. He was/is the quintessential “girl dad”; he would dress up and play dolls with them, etc. I’m not quite as comfortable doing all of the “girl” stuff, but I’ve gotten considerably better at stepping outside my comfort zone since our daughter was born. While I know that my wife thinks I'm a good dad and husband, it always feels like to me, FIL is the perfect example of what a husband and father should be, and if I'm not exactly like him, then she'll be disappointed.

[Anonymous]

You should treat her like crap so she's guaranteed to find someone who meets her standards.

[Anonymous]

Let's keep arguing of the implications of behaving in ways we give labels that we won't even define

[Anonymous]

Since people are just inventing their own definitions of "daddy's girl" that mean totally different things, I'll answer without using the phrase.

I think it's important to teach all kids, including girls, that they are loved and they have intrinsic value as people. Beyond housing/feeding/clothing kids, I think this is one of the most important things you can do for a child, is make sure they know they are loved so that they develop a sense of self worth. And I think that self worth is probably the biggest guard against bad relationships of any kind, because it will help a person recognize when they are being treated poorly and also empower them to believe they can speak up or leave.

However, I think giving kids a sense that they are better and more important than other people, that they are special and deserving of special, deferential treatment, is really damaging. For them, and for everyone who will deal with them in the future (roommates, teachers, romantic partners, friends, colleagues, kids). Because (1) it's a lie, they are't actually special or better than other people, and (2) this is the seed of a dysfunctional or abusive relationship where this person feels they must be served by others but that they have no obligation to reciprocate. People like this make bad friends, bad partners, and (importantly!) bad parents. They lack perspective and self awareness and can easily become narcissists or worse. Even if someone like this succeeds in finding a spouse who will give them what they believe they "deserve", that relationship will be dysfunctional and potentially even abusive for their partner.

So regardless what you call it, I think the key is to love your kids and make sure they know you think they matter, but don't aggrandize your kids and lead them to believe they matter more than anyone else, in the grand scheme of things. They should have self respect but also have the capacity to recognize that everyone else deserves self respect as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s a Daddy’s Girl mean?
Held on a pedestal?

No. It's a girl with a great relationship with her father.

No, a "daddy's girl" has a dysfunctional relationship with her dad. It's often enmeshed and/or codependent.

You're wrong. That's not what a daddy's girl is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a daddy’s girl. I have other siblings.

I had a very good relationship with my Dad We were close

But, he did not spoil or overindulge me.

He didn’t buy me everything or give me tons of money.

He taught me responsibility, honor and respect. He also taught me to be financially independent and fiscally responsible I do not rely on a man.

My Dad is a very special man in my life. I am daddy’s girl and proud of it.

You’re not using the term Daddy's Girl correctly.

You had a great, functional parent/child relationship with your father, based on respect and teaching and love.
But unless the English language is losing and changing an dumbing down all its words, don’t call yourself a Daddy’s Girl.

You are using the term incorrectly. Looks like maybe English isn't your first language?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's good for girls (and boys) to see a positive example in how their parents treat each other. I think it prepares them to recognize how it feels when they find a potential life partners, as well as to notice red flags. I think a bigger issue than high expectations is when people prioritize their career at the expense of finding a relationship. The pool of good partners, the ability to attract one, and the flexibility to compromise and grow with another person is highest when you are young. If you wait too long, the dating pool can shrink and people get set in their ways.

I agree with some, but certainly not all of your post, but what does any of it have to do with OP's question about a Daddy's Girl?

[Anonymous]

lol

It’s also not too difficult to look up:

https://www.google.com/search?q=define+daddys+girl&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-us&client=safari

[Anonymous]

A "daddy's girl" describes a girl or woman with a particularly strong, close bond with her father, often seen as his favorite, who might be indulged, feel cherished, or even become overly reliant, carrying both affectionate (spoiled princess) and sometimes negative connotations (entitled, seeking male validation) depending on the context and extent of the relationship.

Common characteristics:
Close relationship: Prefers her father's company and approval, sometimes over her mother's.
Affectionate: Often spoiled, doted on, or treated like a princess, enjoying preferential treatment.
Indulged: May get anything she asks for from her dad, leading to entitlement.
Seeking validation: In some cases, it can mean she constantly seeks her father's approval or struggles to please him.
Strong bond: Can indicate a healthy, warm, and secure attachment, fostering maturity and independence.

Nuances & connotations:
Endearing: Used fondly to describe a girl's special connection with her dad.
Critical: Can imply spoiled behavior or a lack of independence, sometimes leading to unhealthy relationship patterns later in life.
Context matters: Can refer to a young child's innocent bond or an adult's dynamic with her father, with meanings ranging from sweet to problematic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak to how "daddy's girls" fare in romantic relationships, not being one.

I will say that the ones I've encountered as a woman, at work and in social settings, actually are kind of entitled and annoying. More likely to expect plans to revolve around them, more demanding of attention, more sensitive to criticism and less likely (if at all) to apologize.

A lot of women think that the high opinion of a man is ALWAYS worth more than any opinion of a woman. So if their dads thought the sun shined out of their butts, they think that means they are better than other people. And it also means they don't care what you think of them, which certainly could be useful in some situations, but also means they don't make great friends because they will never view you as equals.

My two cents.

This has been my experience with “daddy’s girl”

+1

Just the verbiage Daddy beyond age 4 is gross.

I dated a guy who would make me call him Daddy in bed. It was so hot.

So hot. That whole little child/big daddy thing.

I love it when grown women call their own fathers Daddy. It’s so cutesy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can speak to this from the Husbands side of things. My wife has a very close relationship with her father/my FIL. I'll say this off the bat, my FIL is a great man. He's welcomed me into the family from day 1, and is a fantastic grandfather to our children. However, I feel like my FIL has set the bar so high with regards to parenting (espicially parenting a girl) that I'll never be able to come close to him. For example, FIL has avery big, outgoing personality, which endears him to a lot of people. I’ve always been more introverted, but I show affection in my own ways. He was/is the quintessential “girl dad”; he would dress up and play dolls with them, etc. I’m not quite as comfortable doing all of the “girl” stuff, but I’ve gotten considerably better at stepping outside my comfort zone since our daughter was born. While I know that my wife thinks I'm a good dad and husband, it always feels like to me, FIL is the perfect example of what a husband and father should be, and if I'm not exactly like him, then she'll be disappointed.

My friend, there are many ways for a man to parent a girl that do not involve the things your FIL did. Have confidence in yourself. Your relationship with your daughters is your own, and your girls are not the same person your wife was as a child.

Be yourself because your children are part You.