Do you think being a daddy’s girl helps or hurts a woman in relationships?

[Anonymous]

Is a JAP a Daddy's Girl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s a Daddy’s Girl mean?
Held on a pedestal?

No. It's a girl with a great relationship with her father.

No, a "daddy's girl" has a dysfunctional relationship with her dad. It's often enmeshed and/or codependent.

[Anonymous]

It’s an insult ,

But yes, a dependent, spoilt, ultra feminine Daddy’s Girl will absolutely need a husband to treat her the same way.

[Anonymous]

Hm, I'm a daddy's girl, and here's how it played out for me:

Spent my teens thru mid-20s assuming all men were like my dad, and that even when they sucked, they would eventually turn around and be a better man. Very short relationships, most under a year, because I would dump them when they didn't turn things around.

Mid 20s-late 30s, lowered my standards because I realized most men aren't like my dad. Had multi-year relationships, including a marriage, but still ended all of them because I realized I won't be happy with someone who doesn't treat me the way I want to be treated.

Late 30s, realized I am much happier single than with a guy who doesn't meet the standard my dad set. VERY happy time being single during this period.

Now at 40, I've kept extremely high standards for men and did find one who is of the same caliber as my dad. He treats me like an absolute princess. I'm extremely happy in this relationship, and it was well worth waiting until age 40 and going through all those breakups.

People seem to think being single is the worst thing a woman can go through, but it's not. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who can't meet your standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH adores our daughter. She is truly loved by her dad (and mom). I sometimes worry that her standards will be too high and her expectations won’t be met.

You sound envious of your own daughter. My mother was similarly toxic. Get help before she catches on to you and your relationship is permanently damaged. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

I am not a Daddy's girl necessarily, but my dad is the most responsible and mature man I have EVER known. He set the bar high. I have yet to find a man with his sense of duty and responsibility and the actual discipline to carry it out. He also instilled in my sisters and I the importance of being independent and not relying on anyone else.

I think all of the above has helped me so much personally, but probably didn't help my relationships. And I don't really care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak to how "daddy's girls" fare in romantic relationships, not being one.

I will say that the ones I've encountered as a woman, at work and in social settings, actually are kind of entitled and annoying. More likely to expect plans to revolve around them, more demanding of attention, more sensitive to criticism and less likely (if at all) to apologize.

A lot of women think that the high opinion of a man is ALWAYS worth more than any opinion of a woman. So if their dads thought the sun shined out of their butts, they think that means they are better than other people. And it also means they don't care what you think of them, which certainly could be useful in some situations, but also means they don't make great friends because they will never view you as equals.

My two cents.

This has been my experience with “daddy’s girl”

[Anonymous]

I am a daddy’s girl. I have other siblings.

I had a very good relationship with my Dad We were close

But, he did not spoil or overindulge me.

He didn’t buy me everything or give me tons of money.

He taught me responsibility, honor and respect. He also taught me to be financially independent and fiscally responsible I do not rely on a man.

My Dad is a very special man in my life. I am daddy’s girl and proud of it.

[Anonymous]

I’m a daddy’s girl and my father was the love of my life. I will have never known another man to even come 1% to the incredible sense of decency, responsibility and honor that my father held himself to throughout his life. He adored and loved me and showed me what it means to be a good father and a good husband and a good man.

My problem is when I was younger I didn’t realize other men were not like my father. It never ever occurred to me that men could be deceitful and low character and sleazy. So when I encountered that I assumed they would grow out of it or that it was temporary; surely no man would truly believe that or behave that way.

That’s how I fell in love with and married my psychotic narcissist soon to be ex husband. I had just never met a bad man so I didn’t see the red flags.

Now… I’m much more cautious and careful and discerning. I have incredibly high standards as I know good men are out there.

[Anonymous]

It can go both ways.

I have seen women who are daddy's girls find a man who is amazing and kind.

And I have seen them be too sheltered and pick a horrible guy who doesn't even come close and be miserable. My cousin is an example of this, her dad spoiled her rotten and then he died and she married a guy who was awful, divorced quickly and now raises two kids without any support from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak to how "daddy's girls" fare in romantic relationships, not being one.

I will say that the ones I've encountered as a woman, at work and in social settings, actually are kind of entitled and annoying. More likely to expect plans to revolve around them, more demanding of attention, more sensitive to criticism and less likely (if at all) to apologize.

A lot of women think that the high opinion of a man is ALWAYS worth more than any opinion of a woman. So if their dads thought the sun shined out of their butts, they think that means they are better than other people. And it also means they don't care what you think of them, which certainly could be useful in some situations, but also means they don't make great friends because they will never view you as equals.

My two cents.

This has been my experience with “daddy’s girl”

+1

Just the verbiage Daddy beyond age 4 is gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A college friend was frank about the fact that she would never find a man who loved her as much as her daddy did. She was right. Still, she's in a solid relationship now and seems content enough.

I was super close to my dad before he died a few years ago. My husband adores me and we have an amazing marriage but he could never love me like my dad did. Husbands and fathers are not the same.

I did have high standards for men due to my dad, but I've never expected my husband to have the same kind of unconditional love for me like my dad did.

Same here.

I think the best part of having a supportive and loving dad is that women don't tolerate trash men and toxic behavior. We don't normalize abuse & misogyny and we are quick to remove ourselves from a bad relationship situation.

Absolutely. And I think you can tell from a lot of the posts on DCUM questioning behavior of boyfriends or husbands who had good dads and who didn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a daddy’s girl. I have other siblings.

I had a very good relationship with my Dad We were close

But, he did not spoil or overindulge me.

He didn’t buy me everything or give me tons of money.

He taught me responsibility, honor and respect. He also taught me to be financially independent and fiscally responsible I do not rely on a man.

My Dad is a very special man in my life. I am daddy’s girl and proud of it.

You’re not using the term Daddy's Girl correctly.

You had a great, functional parent/child relationship with your father, based on respect and teaching and love.
But unless the English language is losing and changing an dumbing down all its words, don’t call yourself a Daddy’s Girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is a JAP a Daddy's Girl?

Yes applies to a Jewish American Princess mins and daughters. The dads are a pushover and dole out the shopping money. That is it. The reward is everyone calls him Daddy and they call themselves Daddy’s Girl. They absolutely need to marry into a family with the same dynamics- made up women, dad is for money, JAPs buy and do whatever they want, rarely have careers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you had a protective, supportive and involved father it probably wouldn't occur to you to ask anyone whether you're over reacting to cut contact with someone after two dates when they send you a vulgar meme and that's not your thing. You assume you'll be treated as you want to be treated. If not, you're done. No big deal . There are other men. You assume you have better options out there. And probably you're pretty comfortable being on your own anyway.

Exactly. Or when your boyfriend curses at you you don't need to crowd source whether or not you should stay with him.

Honestly, I think it also impacted my friendships. Those threads about toxic moms groups are insane. The women I know could spot that from a mile away and wouldn't engage.