Punishment for report card C?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She said he was in a gifted class. Next year they will put him in an appropriate class. No big deal.

Where is there a "gifted class" in third grade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She said he was in a gifted class. Next year they will put him in an appropriate class. No big deal.

Where is there a "gifted class" in third grade?

Some districts can do this. Not the majority.

[Anonymous]

3rd grade is when they start letter grades MCPS. This is a good reminds for you and your kid to work on things at home. It's a good thing he got the C now and not in 6th grade. There is so much time to work on executive skills, learning how to check work, not rush, understand that things need to be correct and in the right form and format. Work on the homework together. They are probably using Eureka, so get your own work book and see what they are doing in class.
I have a kid in compacted math in 4th and she's finally having to struggle and work through things. Her teachers specifically said they want the kids to get to something that's very hard for them as soon as possible so the kids can figure out how to tackle learning something that doesn't come easily and automatically clicks.
Don't punish. Work on how to learn, it's what ES is for.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t read the whole thread, but since when do they give out letter grades in elementary school? Aren’t they still grading in puppies and rainbows?

And also, OP, it’s third grade. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3rd grade is when they start letter grades MCPS. This is a good reminds for you and your kid to work on things at home. It's a good thing he got the C now and not in 6th grade. There is so much time to work on executive skills, learning how to check work, not rush, understand that things need to be correct and in the right form and format. Work on the homework together. They are probably using Eureka, so get your own work book and see what they are doing in class.
I have a kid in compacted math in 4th and she's finally having to struggle and work through things. Her teachers specifically said they want the kids to get to something that's very hard for them as soon as possible so the kids can figure out how to tackle learning something that doesn't come easily and automatically clicks.
Don't punish. Work on how to learn, it's what ES is for.

Exactly! If he’d gotten a C in SIXTH grade they’d cart him off straight to the workhouse…

[Anonymous]

Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

[Anonymous]

Punishing kids for grades will not solve your problem. Ask him why he’s struggling and then provide needed supports. He may need a neuropsych to rule out ADHD or anxiety. Don’t assume the worst about your child. My DD at that age would do anything to avoid schoolwork and I was very frustrated. I didn’t punish but did offer to sit with her and help. Beyond that it was natural consequences. Years later I learned she had inattentive ADHD and felt badly about not evaluating sooner. We addressed that and she went on to do very well in school. If your son refuses supports and you rule out an underlying issue, then the consequence is he moves down a level next year. It’s not going to ruin his life and he might be happier with less pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

+1

This is what happens in districts that use blunt instruments like the CogAT or NNAT to sort the gifted from the regular kids. Those tests are beatable with coaching, which MANY parents do, openly or in secret. As a result you have "gifted" classes with smart kids who are not gifted, but have insecure anxious parents and a whole stack of prep books in their cabinet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She said he was in a gifted class. Next year they will put him in an appropriate class. No big deal.

Where is there a "gifted class" in third grade?

AAP starts in third grade, it is not gifted but advanced and parents commonly call it gifted. FCPS does not use letter grades though.

Either the child is rushing and not making their best effort so not getting the grade that they should or the child doesn't belong in an advanced class. If it is the first scenario, the parents can correct that at home with additional work to help them learn the material and understand that rushing work or not making your best effort will lead to redoing the work at home. If it is the second then the child should be moved into the regular math class. Not because they got a C but because they are not mastering the material and third grade math is something that should be mastered. The child needs a slower pace and more practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

My kid who is really strong in math learned to write out his work and check it because it was what was expected. It is a skill that kids will need as they get into higher math. It helped that my kid loved math competitions and the math competition teacher required that the kids show all of their work. This reinforced the importance of writing out your work.

[Anonymous]

Third grade is a great time to fail. Does he care about the C? Will he only care if you take something valuable away from him? If he cares, no punishment is needed. Help him find a way to succeed.

If he doesn’t care, punishing him will not make him care about his grades. It will make him resentful about school. I would ask to move him back to regular class. School performance is less attributable to aptitude than effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he needs help, not punishment

100%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

My kid who is really strong in math learned to write out his work and check it because it was what was expected. It is a skill that kids will need as they get into higher math. It helped that my kid loved math competitions and the math competition teacher required that the kids show all of their work. This reinforced the importance of writing out your work.

That’s great, but has absolutely nothing to do with the comment to which you replied.

[Anonymous]

He needs help for his ADHD, OP.

What a terrible parent you are.