Punishment for report card C?

[Anonymous]

3rd grader likely getting a C on report card in math. What should be consequence (if any?) Teacher said mostly due to rushing, not trying, and making careless mistakes. He’s in the gifted classes and hasn’t had to study much before.

Should we take away a privilege? put him in math tutoring? Was previously in mathnasium but hated it. Likes robotics and programming.

How do you handle disappointing grades when student is capable of better?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he needs help, not punishment

[Anonymous]

and then if he can't handle the math, he downgrades to regular classes

[Anonymous]

The consequence should match the "Crime". For a first C, you should sit with him and ask what's going on. Then discuss what the teacher is noticing. Then come up with a plan to raise the grade. If he does not follow through with those actions, then you can start talking about consequences. Please do not be punitive at this point. He is probably already feeling bad about himself.

[Anonymous]

Having you as a parent is punishment enough.

[Anonymous]

OP does it sound like good parenting to punish a kid who is already struggling IN 3rd GRADE?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The consequence should match the "Crime". For a first C, you should sit with him and ask what's going on. Then discuss what the teacher is noticing. Then come up with a plan to raise the grade. If he does not follow through with those actions, then you can start talking about consequences. Please do not be punitive at this point. He is probably already feeling bad about himself.

Yes, this. Sounds like plain old immaturity rather than aptitude. My DS was similar at the age but matured beautifully, got straight As in a HS magnet and now attends an elite college. Focus on praising his best efforts not punishing him.

[Anonymous]

If he's not trying - yes.
If he needs help with learning, habits - no, work with him instead.

For Cs we just didn't $$$ reward, only As and Bs.

[Anonymous]

Tutoring is the consequence - kid needs help

[Anonymous]

You are nuts.
Consequences? Great way to create crazy kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The consequence should match the "Crime". For a first C, you should sit with him and ask what's going on. Then discuss what the teacher is noticing. Then come up with a plan to raise the grade. If he does not follow through with those actions, then you can start talking about consequences. Please do not be punitive at this point. He is probably already feeling bad about himself.

Yes, this. Sounds like plain old immaturity rather than aptitude. My DS was similar at the age but matured beautifully, got straight As in a HS magnet and now attends an elite college. Focus on praising his best efforts not punishing him.

Could also be ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Kids get letter grades in 3rd grade?

Also I’m assuming you would have had some clue that your kid wasn’t working to potential. Or did the teacher just mention this now that grades are due?

Is the rushing on tests, homework, everything? Are mistakes with following and understanding directions, miscalculations, or leaving out details like dollar signs and units?

[Anonymous]

No punishment

Just make him do more problems like the kind he is getting wrong

He will need to do them until he slows down, tries and answers the questions correctly

[Anonymous]

Oh my. This poor kid is barely in school. He’s only 8. It takes time. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Have you been doing anything to help your child? Interesting how your first thought is to punish instead of trying to figure out a solution.