S/o: is it “trashy” of parents to have their infant daughter’s ears pierced?

[Anonymous]

It is body modification. Kind of like circumcision. Cultural or not, I am not a fan.

I don't think any piercings should be done until mid teens. Any body modification should wait unitl the individual decides they want to permanently alter their bodies in that way.

[Anonymous]

It’s NMS. Same with shoes on babies that are not walking age or otherwise dressing them like mini-adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not think it is "trashy" but I do believe it is child abuse. I am not sure why putting holes in a baby/child is not considered abuse. Is it a matter of where the hole is? I feel the same for circumcision. How is putting holes in a baby/child and/or cutting off pieces of them okay?

But you probably think a seven-year-old should be able to change their gender

[Anonymous]

I’m not a fan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think for white people, yes. In other cultures, it's the norm and I can't see labeling an entire culture of people trashy.

This is my view as well, even though in my white euro country there used to be small kids wearing earrings (not sure if it’s still done now)

In Spain it is very common and indeed it would be unusual for a Spanish girl not to have pierced ears from infancy.

[Anonymous]

I am so thankful my mom never pierced my ears. I don't like the look of earrings and love my plain "virgin" ears.

When I had a daughter, I didn't pierce her ears. She decided at 13 or 14 she wanted pierced ears, so I took her to get them. I felt it was important to wait until she was old enough to decide what she wanted for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone here on DCUM apparently believes it’s (as she put it) “trashy” of parents to pierce an infant or toddler girls’ ears.

I expressed my view in the original thread (I am deeply offended by this).

But what does the rest of DCUM feel?

It's not just obscene but dumb. As a piercing professional explained to me, ears change so much in the early years that once the the child is ten the holes may be in bad spots, uneven, uncentered, too low, too high, etc. If you pierce around age ten or so, you can place the hole in the right spot that won't change much over the years.

Why do babies even need piercings w/o their consent? Would you also tattoo a baby w/o consent?

[Anonymous]

It’s cultural. Often done around baptism. It’s a better idea than waiting until they’re 9. Active and refusing help with hygiene. The number of infections in that age group is shocking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think it is "trashy" but I do believe it is child abuse. I am not sure why putting holes in a baby/child is not considered abuse. Is it a matter of where the hole is? I feel the same for circumcision. How is putting holes in a baby/child and/or cutting off pieces of them okay?

But you probably think a seven-year-old should be able to change their gender

PP--not at all. How are these two things even related?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB OP and shut up.

Exactly THIS

[Anonymous]

I did not pierce my daughter’s ears or circumcise my son when they were babies. One of my close friends chose differently. She is one of the classiest people I know. Respect for other people and their choices is classy.

[Anonymous]

I cannot for the life of me understand why a parent would put a child through something painful for aesthetic reasons. I remember being at the mall once while a young child was forced to get their ears pierced, you could hear the screaming halfway across the mall.

I wouldn’t necessarily label them “trashy”, I would assume they are bad parents who put their own desires above their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone here on DCUM apparently believes it’s (as she put it) “trashy” of parents to pierce an infant or toddler girls’ ears.

I expressed my view in the original thread (I am deeply offended by this).

But what does the rest of DCUM feel?

It’s our culture to have ears pierced as an infant. IDGAF what randoms on DCUM think.

+1 - so weird that this is even a question. So opinionated about everyone's business but their own dry white business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so thankful my mom never pierced my ears. I don't like the look of earrings and love my plain "virgin" ears.

When I had a daughter, I didn't pierce her ears. She decided at 13 or 14 she wanted pierced ears, so I took her to get them. I felt it was important to wait until she was old enough to decide what she wanted for herself.

Virgin ears now I’ve heard everything. Pp are you so cool and “not like other girls”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird TBH. The baby is not interested in having earrings. I’d worry that at 2 or 3 it would be a choking hazard. I wouldn’t want to deal with the hassle of earring when they are young.

To be fair, we also dressed our kids in comfortable clothes. No frilly dresses until they were old enough to want one.

How are they going to choke on tiny studs in their earlobes?