Married women - have you had a happy ending massage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You Americans are so puritanical about something the rest of the world considers so normal.

And it’s the worlds oldest profession and it isn’t going away.

No one here is puritanical, OP is just being a bit delusional about what they're doing. This is sex work and paid for as such. And without informed consent from a partner, it's cheating.

And like, I'm part Dutch there's literally a brothel a couple blocks from my great aunt's house. It's still cheating to see a sex worker there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't fully understand why this is so taboo. Their hands are already all over you. What's a little more?

This is offensive to trained massage therapists everywhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do I engage in sex trafficking as a consumer who creates a demand for sex trafficking? No. No I do not.

I think you have a different perspective than what people are saying.

These are typically done by hirgj end masseuses, or people who specialize in this type of massage.

You mean by sex workers?

My perspective - I don’t want to hire a sex worker to do it.

What makes it fun is the idea that a sexy guy also finds me sexy and does it of his own free will. Not that I paid him to.

Also the anticipation and build up - will he? Is his hand going up higher or am I imagining it? The build up of tension. So really more like on a first date where the chemistry is there but you don’t know what’s going to happen and put out your own signals while looking for his.

I mean you sound like a guy who thinks the strippers are really into him. It comes across as a bit delusional.

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No one finds that PP "sexy," they are grossed out by them and what they are suggesting, but hope for a $100 tip.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do I engage in sex trafficking as a consumer who creates a demand for sex trafficking? No. No I do not.

I think you have a different perspective than what people are saying.

These are typically done by hirgj end masseuses, or people who specialize in this type of massage.

Where?

Most of Northern Europe, for one.

No.

Stop making things up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, once when I was single at a high end Mexican resort. The massage was over the top good and his hands got closer I could have resisted but I didn’t. It was at the end of the hour massage and my body was ready for a big O. Now as a married woman that will not happen.

What the actual hell? Is this the standard? Because with what you described, I see a sex crime (and I'm a lawyer).

[Anonymous]

I get a traditional massage every 2 weeks from the same man. I would be shocked, horrified, and a zillion other adj if this happened to me. If I want an O, I'll talk to DH. This would be crossing the boundaries for me. Once, a massage therapist asked me out on a date before the session began. I really wanted just to cancel the session; it made me very uncomfortable. 25 yr old me said no politely and did not enjoy the session I was paying for. 55 yr old me today would tell him to get out of the room so I could get dressed and I would walk out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, once when I was single at a high end Mexican resort. The massage was over the top good and his hands got closer I could have resisted but I didn’t. It was at the end of the hour massage and my body was ready for a big O. Now as a married woman that will not happen.

What the actual hell? Is this the standard? Because with what you described, I see a sex crime (and I'm a lawyer).

A lot of men think women have r*pe fantasies. That was likely written by one of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't fully understand why this is so taboo. Their hands are already all over you. What's a little more?

This is offensive to trained massage therapists everywhere.

LOL! and a lot of them would do it for a good tip and secrecy.

[Anonymous]

Nope. The vast majority of women don't want a strangers fingers inside her body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get a traditional massage every 2 weeks from the same man. I would be shocked, horrified, and a zillion other adj if this happened to me. If I want an O, I'll talk to DH. This would be crossing the boundaries for me. Once, a massage therapist asked me out on a date before the session began. I really wanted just to cancel the session; it made me very uncomfortable. 25 yr old me said no politely and did not enjoy the session I was paying for. 55 yr old me today would tell him to get out of the room so I could get dressed and I would walk out.

I was a licensed massage therapist years ago and just because you equate being undressed with sex does not mean everyone does. Massage is no different than physical therapy or a doctor seeing you without clothes in terms of professionalism. A happy ending crosses boundaries into sex work and I personally would not want someone who has touched a lot of people that way touching me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get a traditional massage every 2 weeks from the same man. I would be shocked, horrified, and a zillion other adj if this happened to me. If I want an O, I'll talk to DH. This would be crossing the boundaries for me. Once, a massage therapist asked me out on a date before the session began. I really wanted just to cancel the session; it made me very uncomfortable. 25 yr old me said no politely and did not enjoy the session I was paying for. 55 yr old me today would tell him to get out of the room so I could get dressed and I would walk out.

I was a licensed massage therapist years ago and just because you equate being undressed with sex does not mean everyone does. Massage is no different than physical therapy or a doctor seeing you without clothes in terms of professionalism. A happy ending crosses boundaries into sex work and I personally would not want someone who has touched a lot of people that way touching me.

I mean, if your doctor or physical therapist asked you out that would also be extremely problematic. Are you sure you're responding to the correct poster?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get a traditional massage every 2 weeks from the same man. I would be shocked, horrified, and a zillion other adj if this happened to me. If I want an O, I'll talk to DH. This would be crossing the boundaries for me. Once, a massage therapist asked me out on a date before the session began. I really wanted just to cancel the session; it made me very uncomfortable. 25 yr old me said no politely and did not enjoy the session I was paying for. 55 yr old me today would tell him to get out of the room so I could get dressed and I would walk out.

I was a licensed massage therapist years ago and just because you equate being undressed with sex does not mean everyone does. Massage is no different than physical therapy or a doctor seeing you without clothes in terms of professionalism. A happy ending crosses boundaries into sex work and I personally would not want someone who has touched a lot of people that way touching me.

Sounds like you agree with the pp you quoted? She said "This would be crossing the boundaries for me."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't fully understand why this is so taboo. Their hands are already all over you. What's a little more?

This is offensive to trained massage therapists everywhere.

LOL! and a lot of them would do it for a good tip and secrecy.

And this is offensive to trained massage therapists everywhere as well. Not funny.

[Anonymous]

I have never been remotely close to this with a professional. With a sexual partner, sure.

[Anonymous]

Are these the same women who also expect happy endings during their gyn appointments?