Husbands, please be honest. Would you cheat given the chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Under normal circumstances? No. In a sexless marriage, yes I would absolutely pay for regular HJs from hot women.

As another man, past my teenage years, a HJ seems like the ultimate pity encounter.

If a woman has withdrawn from sex, due to non-health related reasons, there should be no expectation of fidelity from the partner's side. I'm not even sure I would consider it cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Under normal circumstances? No. In a sexless marriage, yes I would absolutely pay for regular HJs from hot women.

As another man, past my teenage years, a HJ seems like the ultimate pity encounter.

If a woman has withdrawn from sex, due to non-health related reasons, there should be no expectation of fidelity from the partner's side. I'm not even sure I would consider it cheating.

PP here. It’s cheating 100% if your spouse doesn’t consent to it and you are doing it in secret. The breach of trust is the cheating. The question is what you can live with or not. And the consequences for her finding out.

My partner has already told me she doesn’t want another woman touching me sexually even if we are in a sexless marriage or can no longer have sex for other reasons. I’ve told her that’s untenable. I would be fine with her getting pleasure as long as it’s not emotional or oral/intercourse. We agree to disagree.

If our sex life gets to that point, I can live with lying about getting an occasional HJ, and the consequences if she finds out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there was little to not chance your wife or partner would ever find out and a guarantee the other person is clean.

No. Dealing with one woman is enough work. Why would I invite more into my life?

[Anonymous]

Seeing as 30% of men would rape a woman if they could get away with it, all you men saying no are absolutely lying (maybe to yourselves too). You are giving the answer as your ideal self, not your true self. I think most women would have an affair too, though they’d be more likely to have it as a long-term thing because then the sex is better than a one time thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman. Maybe I just have really bad luck with the men (including relatives) in my life throughout the years, but I do truly believe a majority of men would cheat if given the opportunity to bang a 10 and 0.00% chance the wife finds out.

The chances of that are pretty much nonexistent.

My wife is the only 10 I want.

I also choose this guy's wife.

Is this reddit or dcum

[Anonymous]

Honest? Since I am a standup guy, I say NEVER!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing as 30% of men would rape a woman if they could get away with it, all you men saying no are absolutely lying (maybe to yourselves too). You are giving the answer as your ideal self, not your true self. I think most women would have an affair too, though they’d be more likely to have it as a long-term thing because then the sex is better than a one time thing.

Uh, what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman. Maybe I just have really bad luck with the men (including relatives) in my life throughout the years, but I do truly believe a majority of men would cheat if given the opportunity to bang a 10 and 0.00% chance the wife finds out.

I used to not believe that, but now at 55, I agree with you. Since I turned 50- the sheer number of men I now know have cheated in their marriages—-neighbors, co-workers, friends’ spouses, acquaintances is huge AND some of these guys you just never ever would have suspected for numerous reasons. A few totally shocked me.

How do you find out about this? I am early 40s and have literally never heard of a single couple where cheating has been involved. There’s also been no divorces that I even know of. We all have kids from early elementary to middle school. Am I living under a rock?! Or people just don’t tell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman. Maybe I just have really bad luck with the men (including relatives) in my life throughout the years, but I do truly believe a majority of men would cheat if given the opportunity to bang a 10 and 0.00% chance the wife finds out.

I used to not believe that, but now at 55, I agree with you. Since I turned 50- the sheer number of men I now know have cheated in their marriages—-neighbors, co-workers, friends’ spouses, acquaintances is huge AND some of these guys you just never ever would have suspected for numerous reasons. A few totally shocked me.

How do you find out about this? I am early 40s and have literally never heard of a single couple where cheating has been involved. There’s also been no divorces that I even know of. We all have kids from early elementary to middle school. Am I living under a rock?! Or people just don’t tell?

The divorces will come. I hope not. But you will start to see them over the next 5-10 years. You wouldn’t know about cheating in relationships even if it happens. Most people would never broadcast that stuff, even close friends and family.

As a divorce lawyer, I can tell you a very large percentage of my clients have admitted to infidelity at some point in their marriage.

[Anonymous]

My husband hasn’t slept with me in 6 months, does this mean I’m okay to have sex outside of the marriage? There’s nothing wrong with his health, he just prefers abstaining. Also, I am not fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing as 30% of men would rape a woman if they could get away with it, all you men saying no are absolutely lying (maybe to yourselves too). You are giving the answer as your ideal self, not your true self. I think most women would have an affair too, though they’d be more likely to have it as a long-term thing because then the sex is better than a one time thing.

You must have gotten your stats off of some nutcase website.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If there was little to not chance your wife or partner would ever find out and a guarantee the other person is clean.

never in a million years. but do I think about other women and masturbate to them - every day! and guess what, your husband does too!

Classy!!!

[Anonymous]

I have had chances, didn't and wouldn't.

I have always put our relationship above myself and her. Every decision is made on how it would impact our relationship. Not her, not me just the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I’m not a piece of shit. When you build a life and a marriage u have to protect it at all costs.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had multiple chances and have never cheated. Not even on gf’s.