How early into dating do men expect sex?

[Anonymous]

I would not be having sex until exclusivity is established and I have developed feelings for him. That may mean waiting a few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should not be having sex while dating. Have sex only after you are married

No freaking way. Gotta take the car for a test drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be having sex while dating. Have sex only after you are married

No freaking way. Gotta take the car for a test drive.

But you'll make Baby Jesus cry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be having sex while dating. Have sex only after you are married

No freaking way. Gotta take the car for a test drive.

That will add up sins in your account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check please

Got a chuckle out of that!

Isn't 1-5 dates the norm?

[Anonymous]

Very interesting to see how many people still cling to traditional gender roles when it comes to sex.

Men "expect" sex and woman "put out" I guess?

Could we ask "How early into dating do women expect sex?" Every man would presumably jump when it's offered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not be having sex while dating. Have sex only after you are married

No freaking way. Gotta take the car for a test drive.

That will add up sins in your account.

I don’t believe in the concept of sin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting to see how many people still cling to traditional gender roles when it comes to sex.

Men "expect" sex and woman "put out" I guess?

Could we ask "How early into dating do women expect sex?" Every man would presumably jump when it's offered?

Women are more exposed to STDs, pregnancy , and emotional risks if he crosses boundaries. I had men try to insert D in my mouth by pushing my head down; try to insert fingers in my butt; stealth me (without any prior discussion. ). These were not trashy men - all so called “high value”. Since women are the party carrying here most risks, genders truly are not equal in attitudes and risks engaging in sex.
Women can mitigate these risks by only engaging with known partners who care for them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting to see how many people still cling to traditional gender roles when it comes to sex.

Men "expect" sex and woman "put out" I guess?

Could we ask "How early into dating do women expect sex?" Every man would presumably jump when it's offered?

Women are more exposed to STDs, pregnancy , and emotional risks if he crosses boundaries. I had men try to insert D in my mouth by pushing my head down; try to insert fingers in my butt; stealth me (without any prior discussion. ). These were not trashy men - all so called “high value”. Since women are the party carrying here most risks, genders truly are not equal in attitudes and risks engaging in sex.
Women can mitigate these risks by only engaging with known partners who care for them

Your experience doesn't negate pps point which is the sexist idea that sex isn't something women enjoy it's something they provide men with. That sort of thinking leads to the disgusting behavior by the trashy men you describe - a woman's body is something he's entitled to after x amount of time, effort money etc. Unfortunately waiting doesn't remove the risk .Also a man's value his actual value not his bank account, job title or style is determined by his character.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting to see how many people still cling to traditional gender roles when it comes to sex.

Men "expect" sex and woman "put out" I guess?

Could we ask "How early into dating do women expect sex?" Every man would presumably jump when it's offered?

Women are more exposed to STDs, pregnancy , and emotional risks if he crosses boundaries. I had men try to insert D in my mouth by pushing my head down; try to insert fingers in my butt; stealth me (without any prior discussion. ). These were not trashy men - all so called “high value”. Since women are the party carrying here most risks, genders truly are not equal in attitudes and risks engaging in sex.
Women can mitigate these risks by only engaging with known partners who care for them

Your experience doesn't negate pps point which is the sexist idea that sex isn't something women enjoy it's something they provide men with. That sort of thinking leads to the disgusting behavior by the trashy men you describe - a woman's body is something he's entitled to after x amount of time, effort money etc. Unfortunately waiting doesn't remove the risk .Also a man's value his actual value not his bank account, job title or style is determined by his character.

I personally agree that waiting doesn’t remove the risk. In fact, most s...t like that hits the fan during and after sex. If I waited for 2-3 months to discover they were arrogant asshats it would be a huge time waste for me. But allowing for a few dates at least to figure out if the person is safe, checking STD tests, using protection are the absolute musts.

Unfortunately a lot of seemingly decent men are jerks after closer look. Their wives divorced them all for a reason (and women are the party initiating divorces so future GFs of these men should refer to that as a starting point).

[Anonymous]

As a man, I have no expected timeline other than that we are enjoying each others company, are progressing, and it's not unreasonably off the table in the future. However if you're still having one night stands, or express how you 'normally' have sex earlier in relationships than you want to with me, I'm out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very interesting to see how many people still cling to traditional gender roles when it comes to sex.

Men "expect" sex and woman "put out" I guess?

Could we ask "How early into dating do women expect sex?" Every man would presumably jump when it's offered?

Women are more exposed to STDs, pregnancy , and emotional risks if he crosses boundaries. I had men try to insert D in my mouth by pushing my head down; try to insert fingers in my butt; stealth me (without any prior discussion. ). These were not trashy men - all so called “high value”. Since women are the party carrying here most risks, genders truly are not equal in attitudes and risks engaging in sex.
Women can mitigate these risks by only engaging with known partners who care for them

Umm they were trashy men who assaulted you. I’m sorry that happened to you.

That said there is no number of dates that allows you to mitigate the risk of abusive (or just bad) sex. There are ways to tell by testing the waters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting STDs should be the least of your worries. Answering to our creator on the day of judgement should scare you more than anything else.

I think you are probably joking. But unmarried sex is like the LAST thing I worry about on judgment day. I worry a lot more about the fact that I don’t volunteer or donate enough, not visiting elderly relatives enough, wasting time on the Internet instead of feeding my soul. Heck, having some good sex instead of posting on DCUM would probably be much more likely to get me into heaven.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:guy here - i've been willing to wait for a month+ but the best relationships i've ever had were when the woman either slept with me on date 1 or wanted to (and i turned it down and then we slept with each other on date 2)...

...the last two people i went on dates with that I wanted to see more of....one was hesitant to kiss after date 2 when i went in, the other was kinda hesitant to kiss after a four-hour date 1...

...I still wanted to see both of them and would've been willing to take it slow but they weren't interested.

So, while in theory i'd be down to wait, my lived experience seems to indicate that if a woman isn't wanting to be handsy/kiss on at the end of a long first date or atleast date 2, i'm cooked.

^^woman here and yep!! If I like you I want to touch you. Maybe not have sex or even take clothes off, but I definitely know how I feel by the end of a good date.

That's not the question! OP is asking SEX, not about intimacy outside of sex. I will do everything but sex pretty quickly. Sex is a whole other ball game. It brings risks - emotional, STDs, pregnancy, etc.

Most people consider sex to be much more than PIV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think? Think it varies.

Of course it varies. Also who cares? If I want to have sex I will and if I don't I won't.