Dealing with student who likes to “report” everything.

[Anonymous]

You should sit down with her and make a list of things that should be reported to you and things that should not be reported.

When she comes to you say, "is that on the list of things that you should report to me" and then go over the list again.

Is touching your Chromebook on the list? No.

Let her learn what is reportable and not reportable. This is a simple social skills issue she clearly did not learn at home.

Don't encourage her to never report, kids (especially girls) need to understand what is "unsafe" and what is "just an annoyance".

When she comes to you, you can say was that unsafe or just an annoyance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My child used to report to teachers or staffs on duty if he felt that he got bullied verbally or physically between k and 2nd grade. They caught some kids on school surveillance camera after the report, and he was right that some kids cut his line or pushed him. He was taught by us and teachers that he was right to report. He has anxiety, autism and adhd, and he tries his best to understand & defend and protect himself from others trying to belittle him or bully him or accuse him. He cried a lot at kindergarten & 1st grade school year because he did not understand why some kids are so mean to him. He has no real friends at school, but he actually is a sweet boy who is a bit social awkward. Things have been getting better and he has some random friends to play with now. And, he rarely report anything to teachers or staff now because he is more matured and he knows how to handle more different types of situations at school.

I just want to say that I would rather teachers not to yell at kids that report everything and try to be understanding . For my son, he was really insecure and sensitive, but he tried to be a well behaved student.

Did you ever think about the effects on the other kids? What if it was your sweet boy getting tattled on incessantly? Other kids have their own issues, not just yours.

How much someone is “tattled” on is completely irrelevant if the teacher tells the tattler thank you and moves on. It’s only a problem if you kid is doing things naughty enough that warrant consequences. Otherwise, who cares? She can tell on him for tapping his pencil every day- nothing will happen and he likely won’t even know since the teacher will just ignore the complaint.

No. You can’t demand kindness to the tattler while not giving any to the offender. The teachers more often than not do get involved and separate the kids to get each side and punishments ensue. See pps example about checking video for cutting in line- what the hell? The other kid may also be working on social skills and the constant setbacks and negative feedback suck too. Don’t reinforce this crap at home by telling your kids every inconvenience is bullying.

What are you talking about? I think you got lost..

I really don’t think anything in here needs a teacher intervention at all. The tattling can be ignored by the teacher, and the things being tattled seem insignificant enough that nothing needs to be done. There is nothing to see or do here.

You're saying teachers ignore it when right above it talks about teacher involvement. Read all the posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I teach 1st grade and I’ve encountered a problem I have never had before.

Child likes to “tattle” for everything. Obviously this is normal so we give them the tools to handle small problems on their own. Just today she reported that larlo was touching her chrombook. She let me know that she asked me to stop, and he did in fact stop. She insists on still telling me anyway. Unfortunately mom now is reporting on these little “tattles” to me. After school and email came about different student touched her backpack. Mom acknowledges that none of these things are a major concern and just normal kid stuff but she has promised her DD that she will always tell me anything she feels like needs to be shared with me. I get multiple emails a week about kids tapping pencils, chasing her on the playground, and even one email that said “larla said larlo called her a mean name but she cannot remember what it was.”

Ive talked to mom about helping her handle these problems on her own, and she said she really appreciates that but she wants to always give larla “the benefit of the doubt.”

Reassure the mom that she’s in the mix socially and doing fine (if she is) and emphasize that you work on empowering the kids to advocate for themselves, but that you are also there for support and help.

There are all sorts of daily annoyances and idiosyncrasies that we all have to live with and self advocacy is important as is coming to realize the world does not revolve around us and our desires.

The child is probably going home and complaining constantly to the mom. That can be really overwhelming as a parent and parents should advocate if something is outside of their child’s depth but this is clearly too much.

Maybe reset expectations on what is appropriate to bring to you as the teacher and write it somewhere so that there is visual reinforcement.