What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Is there bus service? If he's lonely he can come home by bus.

[Anonymous]

I would go. It sounds like he is at a D1 college and football games are a lot of fun.

Autumn...football...nothing better.

[Anonymous]

I would go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When your kid wants to spend time with you -you do it. It's not like you have anything else planned.

I think you are very fortunate that your college kid WANTS to hang out w/her parents two wknd days.

There are so many that do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When your kid wants to spend time with you -you do it. It's not like you have anything else planned.

Absolutely this, OP. If my kid was asking for a visit I would do it in a heartbeat, and I also have one 6 hours away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you feel bad for declining something you wouldn't even share in a meaningful way and which would add unwanted effort and expense to your life?

I don't quite understand the "feeling bad" premise here. I would just say no.

Same! It’s nice that he asked but it’s just not realistic for that weekend. He put the offer out, and it happens to not work for you. What is the big deal here?

I agree. It’s nice that he asked you but I don’t get all the guilt for saying no. He probably asked because he thought you would enjoy it. Not sure why you even need to outsource the answer. Just say you can’t make it but would love to come another time.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine not to go. Your kid may feel like they have to invite you. So many parents these days act like they are the ones going to colleges- having to go to the football games and constantly following what is going on at the school.

[Anonymous]

did you go?

[Anonymous]

As long as you’re happy with this being precedent. Meaning, years from now, if he decides not to come home for a holiday because the drive is over an hour and he’s “tired” or because he decides he seen you recently enough, you’re not on here complaining about your daughter-in-law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as you’re happy with this being precedent. Meaning, years from now, if he decides not to come home for a holiday because the drive is over an hour and he’s “tired” or because he decides he seen you recently enough, you’re not on here complaining about your daughter-in-law.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUwjNBjqR-c