What would you do?
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Anonymous
| We are going to an event (not a fun one, an obligation) this weekend about 2.5 hours away from ds's college (who is 6 + hours away from us), so are going to drive the day after and meet him for lunch on Sunday. Ds texted me to ask if we wanted to go to the football game the weekend after. It is so much driving and we have to find a pet sitter again and we don't have a burning desire to go to the game (if it were close, we'd go of course). How guilty would you feel and would you just suck it up and go? It's not a case of him being lonely. He has lots of friends and has adjusted well. He also wouldn't sit with us at the game as he'd be in the student section...But I feel so bad! Help me out. Other games later in the season are not an option as they are very expensive. |
Anonymous
| Unless he is playing in the football game, I would not give it a 2nd thought if you don't want to go. |
Anonymous
I just feel terrible bc it's like he wants to spend time with us and we are saying no, but it is so much driving two weekends in a row and this weekend (aside from seeing ds) is not going to be a fun one already and I was looking forward to doing nothing next weekend. |
Anonymous
I would say no. I hate driving and football. Maybe you can offer another upcoming window to spend time together? |
Anonymous
| Just channel your inner Nancy Regan and just say no. You'll see him this weekend and then at THanksgiving. That's enough. |
Anonymous
| When your kid wants to spend time with you -you do it. It's not like you have anything else planned. |
Anonymous
| I would go and I hate driving and football. |
Anonymous
Ugh, it is so hard for me to do! I actually like football and would like to see a game as well but we had a lot going on (sad family stuff) this fall and we never were able to make it up aside from move-in weekend. We just saw ds a couple weeks ago for another family event. But it feels so sweet that he even cared to ask and like my heart is melting and feels bad saying no. |
Anonymous
| I would go if he was sitting with us. If he's in the student section, then no. |
Anonymous
| Ask him to clarify why he's asking--like gingerly find out if he wants to hang out or if he's asking bc he thinks you all want to go to that game and he can get tickets. |
Anonymous
| Don’t say no - these visits/years are fleeting. Soon he’ll be working full time and you’ll miss these easy visits |
Anonymous
I think it's a mix. I just feel terrible because I truly do not want to go due to the long drive and stress but at the same time of course I want to be there for him. I now wish I could just cancel this week's event to just go see him but it would be pretty awful to do. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t drive up again but I would stay longer than just the weekend for the first weekend. And spend the time with him Friday or Monday. |
Anonymous
It's not really easy though, it's at least 12 hours of driving. Of course to be clear if it were closer I would not care. He is a freshman. |
Anonymous
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Can he/would he sit with you? Or is that not an option?
Would he tell you why he's asking? That would form my answer. And I'm not one to generally say no to going anytime my kids ask. |