AITA? Coworker meal train

[Anonymous]

If they are staunch Catholics they probably have a community already doing something like this for them...not sure why they would need to do it at work.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so over the meal trains in the age of available food at a moment's notice. It used to be that people would bring you a meal because it was hard to shop for and prepare dinners. Now it's like meal trains where people order you Uber Eats. I am with you--get on Uber Eats yourself. Why am I paying for this?

Because it's a nice thing to do? Why have baby showers? Or give gifts at a wedding reception? Or give a birthday present?

I am more than happy to get the baby a gift. Buying someone dinner because they apparently are too overwhelmed to use the Uber Eats app seems a little silly.

I think there are a lot of factors that determine how much a meal is appreciated. Some people have a stable marriage with a helpful partner, financial security, support from extended relatives, an uncomplicated birth, and a healthy, full term baby who eats and sleeps like a champ. They don’t need a meal, but it’s a nice gesture that shows them that you care.

Then there are people whose marriages are strained or there’s no partner in the picture or who are struggling financially or who have no local family to help out or or they already have several other children or they have serious complications during the pregnancy or birth or they have multiple babies or the baby is very premature or is medically fragile or has colic or never sleeps or some combination of these stress factors.

Ordering from Uber Eats is expensive, especially for a large family, and it’s not easy to limit your salt and fat intake with restaurant food. When you experience a major life event and you’re sleep deprived and in survival mode, a homemade meal isn’t just fuel for your body; knowing that someone cared about you enough to put to time and effort into nourishing your body also nourishes your soul. Having a brief interaction with someone when they drop off the meal makes you feel a little bit less alone in those early chaotic days when you’re outside your normal routine and stuck at home.

Having said all that, no one should ever be compelled to participate in a meal train if they don’t want to. There’s nothing wrong with OP skipping it.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not visit the sins of the parents unto the children. If the kids can eat better with a meal train, do the meal train. Regardless of their parents' beliefs (which I heartily disapprove of).

suffering will make them stronger. These 7 kids are also going to get horrible parenting. Somebody should call CPS on them.

What was the names of the CPS workers called on you?

can't remember. I was 12.

Haven’t grown since.

Interesting that you are defending a horrid lifestyle choice while not recognizing the poor downstream implications for children. I would comment on your growth but that would be wasted.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t give them shit! Also, I wouldn’t hesitate to tell my colleagues why I wasn’t participating if asked.

I'm sure your colleagues will be very impressed with you.

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^^In my experience, many of these meal trains involve ordering Uber Eats for the family--they do not require home cooked meals and often the family even provides restaurant preferences.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not visit the sins of the parents unto the children. If the kids can eat better with a meal train, do the meal train. Regardless of their parents' beliefs (which I heartily disapprove of).

suffering will make them stronger. These 7 kids are also going to get horrible parenting. Somebody should call CPS on them.

What was the names of the CPS workers called on you?

can't remember. I was 12.

Haven’t grown since.

Interesting that you are defending a horrid lifestyle choice while not recognizing the poor downstream implications for children. I would comment on your growth but that would be wasted.

Suggesting that one should call CPS based on one’s politics is asinine beyond belief. You’re a damn fool and a waste.

[Anonymous]

Take the money with would spend on the meal train and donate it to the Center for Reproductive Rights!

If the office chipped to get a baby gift or a shower gift, I don’t get doing a meal train. Is it nice? Sure. But meal trains where people are just giving DoorDash cards are ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not visit the sins of the parents unto the children. If the kids can eat better with a meal train, do the meal train. Regardless of their parents' beliefs (which I heartily disapprove of).

suffering will make them stronger. These 7 kids are also going to get horrible parenting. Somebody should call CPS on them.

What was the names of the CPS workers called on you?

can't remember. I was 12.

Haven’t grown since.

Interesting that you are defending a horrid lifestyle choice while not recognizing the poor downstream implications for children. I would comment on your growth but that would be wasted.

What substances are you abusing?

[Anonymous]

I would contribute. I believe in putting positive energy into the world. This is the office doing something nice, and I support nice.

I have too many of my own concerns to spend time judging others.

[Anonymous]

OP is a massive ahole but that's your legal right.

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Anonymous wrote:Coworker and wife recently welcomed twins they have 5 children at home. They are pretty staunch Catholics and Trump supporters based on his " pro life" stance. They don't believe in birth control and don't think non married women should have access to it. Judge people who have kids before marriage.

Any the office now wants to organize a meal train.
AITA for thinking hmm you made your bed figure out how to manage all those kids you wanted to be blessed with alone and not contributing to the meal train

NTA for not participating in a meal train. YTA for being pro-choice and judging how many kids they have.

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Donate to CASA or Planned Parenthood and send a card noting it is in the family's honor.

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OP is simply a spiteful person. Participate or not, their politics or religious beliefs have nothing to do with it.

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Anonymous wrote:Donate to CASA or Planned Parenthood and send a card noting it is in the family's honor.

How unbelievably tacky, like donating to anti gay associations to congratulate coworker on their gay wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:Donate to CASA or Planned Parenthood and send a card noting it is in the family's honor.

How unbelievably tacky, like donating to anti gay associations to congratulate coworker on their gay wedding.

To each there own. (not PP)

I'd donate a full meal to the women and children's shelter in my area. I already participate in a monthly lunch, but they are always appreciative of more.