AITA? Coworker meal train

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so over the meal trains in the age of available food at a moment's notice. It used to be that people would bring you a meal because it was hard to shop for and prepare dinners. Now it's like meal trains where people order you Uber Eats. I am with you--get on Uber Eats yourself. Why am I paying for this?

Because it's a nice thing to do? Why have baby showers? Or give gifts at a wedding reception? Or give a birthday present?

I am more than happy to get the baby a gift. Buying someone dinner because they apparently are too overwhelmed to use the Uber Eats app seems a little silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not.

You can congratulate them to be civil and that's enough.

I will congratulate them because I do think children are a blessing I also think people should get to choose when and how many they are blessed with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so over the meal trains in the age of available food at a moment's notice. It used to be that people would bring you a meal because it was hard to shop for and prepare dinners. Now it's like meal trains where people order you Uber Eats. I am with you--get on Uber Eats yourself. Why am I paying for this?

This is how I feel too. I contribute to meal trains when there is a financial need for meals (which its easy to pick those cases out, lets be honest) but ANYONE can door dash anything now so logistically its just not necessary.

[Anonymous]

The fact you are judging their politics and size of their family not to contribute, makes you the A.

[Anonymous]

I hate meal trains. People make gross food then don’t pick up their containers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not visit the sins of the parents unto the children. If the kids can eat better with a meal train, do the meal train. Regardless of their parents' beliefs (which I heartily disapprove of).

The kids won't starve.. which is the other thing bothering me no meal train was organized when staff on the lower income spectrum welcomed new babies and in two cases they were first children.
They can definitely afford to hire help and order from Uber eats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so over the meal trains in the age of available food at a moment's notice. It used to be that people would bring you a meal because it was hard to shop for and prepare dinners. Now it's like meal trains where people order you Uber Eats. I am with you--get on Uber Eats yourself. Why am I paying for this?

Because it's a nice thing to do? Why have baby showers? Or give gifts at a wedding reception? Or give a birthday present?

And this is why we have no sense of community anymore. Goodness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact you are judging their politics and size of their family not to contribute, makes you the A.

I prefer to think of it as giving them an opportunity to practice what they preach.
I actually don't care how many kids they have but they care about how many kids other people have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact you are judging their politics and size of their family not to contribute, makes you the A.

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not.

You can congratulate them to be civil and that's enough.

I will congratulate them because I do think children are a blessing I also think people should get to choose when and how many they are blessed with.

I mean, they are choosing. Every time they have unprotected sex is a choice. Wouldn’t be my choice but I have several friends with enormous families who want it that way. Good on them, not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Their politics are irrelevant to me. I would contribute if that is something I usually did for coworkers for births and illnesses. Children are a blessing.

Then let the MAGA parents take care of their blessings.

I mean, they are? They aren’t the ones asking/setting up the meal train.

I participate in these because it’s easy to do and it’s one of those “team player” things people notice. I’d do it for my career as much as for the coworker’s benefit. I go to all the boring Happy Hours too…I’d pay $100 not to have to go to those so I prefer the meal train.

[Anonymous]

Very dumb take OP. This is your coworkers doing something nice for them, it's not like they had these children and literally can't feed them without your help, get over yourself. If you don't like the coworker then don't do it. This is like if you were ranting "why should I buy a gift for my 43 year old coworker's IVF baby when she's been a DINK for 10 years and votes for politicians who raise my taxes, can't she afford her own bottle warmer?" It's a gift, participate or don't, it doesn't give you moral high ground.

[Anonymous]

Let their church supply them with meals. He's a coworker not your friend.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not contribute unless there is a significant medical issue of some sort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not.

You can congratulate them to be civil and that's enough.

I will congratulate them because I do think children are a blessing I also think people should get to choose when and how many they are blessed with.

I mean, they are choosing. Every time they have unprotected sex is a choice. Wouldn’t be my choice but I have several friends with enormous families who want it that way. Good on them, not for me.

Exactly they chose. Wonderful for them they should get on with it without handouts