AITA? Coworker meal train

[Anonymous]

You’re preaching to the choir here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the smoked also cause YOU to have cancer? Did the motorcyclist crash into YOU? Because the pro-Trump “pro-life” is all about affecting everyone in the country by their choices.

Ever heard of birth control?

I have
Even so, the birth of a baby is a happy but exhausting event. This family is bringing home twins. A twin baby is smaller than a full born singleton and requires feeding more often and is so much more work
I would contribute. It is important to foster an atmosphere of caring at the workplace.
It is just one meal. They will definitely have use for that, as well as for diapers and someone should gift them condoms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If an unmarried woman in your office was pregnant, would they step up and provide a meal or other assistance?

If yes, then I'd participate.

If no, then it means they use their political beliefs to opt out of helping others, which means you are free to do the same.

I’m Catholic and know people like the OP’s coworker. They probably do have a lot of people supporting them and are perfectly capable of caring for their family and don’t need OP’s help.
But they would almost certainly want to help an unmarried woman who accidentally got pregnant. I guess the question would be, would they still support someone who decided to become a single mom by choice. Or someone who went through IVF and then had a reduction? Are you obligated to support someone who purposefully decides to live their life in a way that you feel is immoral?

How is having a baby immoral?

They used to be called "bastards" and "unwed mothers." Teens went to Florence Crittendon Homes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the smoked also cause YOU to have cancer? Did the motorcyclist crash into YOU? Because the pro-Trump “pro-life” is all about affecting everyone in the country by their choices.

Ever heard of birth control?

I have
Even so, the birth of a baby is a happy but exhausting event. This family is bringing home twins. A twin baby is smaller than a full born singleton and requires feeding more often and is so much more work
I would contribute. It is important to foster an atmosphere of caring at the workplace.
It is just one meal. They will definitely have use for that, as well as for diapers and someone should gift them condoms

No you don’t fool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so over the meal trains in the age of available food at a moment's notice. It used to be that people would bring you a meal because it was hard to shop for and prepare dinners. Now it's like meal trains where people order you Uber Eats. I am with you--get on Uber Eats yourself. Why am I paying for this?

Because it's a nice thing to do? Why have baby showers? Or give gifts at a wedding reception? Or give a birthday present?

I don’t do any of those things for people I don’t like. It’s really that simple.

Send them a box of condoms and his/her blow up dolls and call it a day.
up doll and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

NTA. I wouldn’t participate either.

[Anonymous]

The fact that this person is willing to share these values tells me they are not someone I want to associate with. I probably would not based on differing values and I’d be annoyed they have the gall to preach about it .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so over the meal trains in the age of available food at a moment's notice. It used to be that people would bring you a meal because it was hard to shop for and prepare dinners. Now it's like meal trains where people order you Uber Eats. I am with you--get on Uber Eats yourself. Why am I paying for this?

+1. It’s fine for people you know are struggling — I had a young 20-something relative whose spouse had cancer. They clearly did not have enough money with him off work so uber eats cards made some sense. Same with an elderly relative whose spouse passed and would not otherwise feel they could afford uber eats. But for people making good income….it just seems dumb.

I would guess these couple has lots of extended family that can stock their freezer for them.

[Anonymous]

What is this, 1950?
In the age of on demand ordering for anything, the meal train thing is cloying. I can't begin to tell you how much meal train food was uneaten and tossed when my MIL passed away. I tried to consume and freeze what I could, but my ILs just don't do pot-luck style homemade fare from others.
Which is to say, they probably don't want your food.
If any of your really want to help this family out, offer free babysitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If an unmarried woman in your office was pregnant, would they step up and provide a meal or other assistance?

If yes, then I'd participate.

If no, then it means they use their political beliefs to opt out of helping others, which means you are free to do the same.

That was very immoral of society to do that.
According to OP these people are married and just had twins.
You do not sound like a nice person

I’m Catholic and know people like the OP’s coworker. They probably do have a lot of people supporting them and are perfectly capable of caring for their family and don’t need OP’s help.
But they would almost certainly want to help an unmarried woman who accidentally got pregnant. I guess the question would be, would they still support someone who decided to become a single mom by choice. Or someone who went through IVF and then had a reduction? Are you obligated to support someone who purposefully decides to live their life in a way that you feel is immoral?

How is having a baby immoral?

They used to be called "bastards" and "unwed mothers." Teens went to Florence Crittendon Homes.

[Anonymous]

Meal trains are like potluck. I don't want to eat from a co-worker's kitchen. Stop this stupid trend.

[Anonymous]

Because none of this happened. Trolls.

[Anonymous]

Assume this is a troll.

If people can afford to buy their own meals and hire help, I would not contribute. If I was a special friend at work of the person, I might cook something. Honestly, I have food allergies and don't trust anything from someone else's kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact you are judging their politics and size of their family not to contribute, makes you the A.

NP, the fact that they want to deny me and my sisters access to birth control means they can f*ck right off. For now and forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Their politics are irrelevant to me. I would contribute if that is something I usually did for coworkers for births and illnesses. Children are a blessing.

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