DD has a crush on her boyfriend's cousin and is asking me for advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This also seems like a good opportunity to ask her to self-reflect on why she thinks she likes the cousin. If she can’t come up with at least 3 mature reasons, ask if she might be attracted to the feeling of being wanted by the cousin. Her comment on “pull”ing him if she wanted to suggests exactly that.

We want what we can’t have: an important lesson most teens learn the hard way.

and teens want to prove to their peers that they can get it. (Pull it?)