How did you meet your AP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son’s travel lacrosse coach. Started with flirty texts last spring and still going strong.

My wife was the same, my son carries a lot of guilt for the ruin of our family. Well done, you have achieved sub human status in an impressive manner!

Do you think they care? Nope. They will blame you for not "paying attention to their needs"

True, selfishness is a defining character flaw than cannot be overcome without a major overhaul. There is a special place in hell for cheaters and AP’s, they truly create hell on earth for their victims.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My STBXWW met hers at the gym, bars and son’s travel team- attractive broken women are everywhere you are, just start talking and mention your parents divorced young due to your dad cheating on your mom. Tell her he lies all the time and you can’t stand him. If she has a similar story, you found a possible AP. Good luck ruining your family!

I mean you know the standard excuse right? Let me remind you and everyone. You didn't pay attention to her needs. It's the same reason they give over and over and over and over.

I wish it was true so we could at least become better spouses, instead most of us become worse partners from choosing poorly. The only person who is never loved unconditionally is a husband and father. Now that I am broken, I will never marry a second time. In my case, the heartbreak has changed me fundamentally and I wouldn’t want anyone to be duped into believing I am capable of love again.

The victim mentality is so easy to believe after infidelity- life happens to you, people are out to destroy you, no one can be trusted, you are unlovable and worst of all you are not capable of seeing people for who they are truly. I can temporarily shake it, but beneath the surface I no longer believe in myself. I love my kids, but if I had a time machine my wedding day would be the one I would erase without question.

I just recently went through divorce and sending love to you. You will find happiness in other ways. I am happy my ex wife is no longer in the picture. I wish her nothing but the best despite the fact that she was a serial cheater and narcissist. Unfortunately you cannot read into people's thoughts. Sometimes we just choose poorly. Some people genuinely reflect back and admit that they chose poorly. I admit I did. Others would rather not know and turn the other way while their spouse act in a way that's everything but a living spouse. It is what it is. On a positive note, if you have kids they are a source of pride and drive. I love my twin daughters to death. Because of them it's impossible for me to hate my ex wife and/or not support my kids financially and emotionally. Although we have 50/50, in practice I see them 60% of the time. I don't want to think about what will happen when they go to college. I'll be okay, but I will surely miss them.

[Anonymous]

I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

[Anonymous]

I met 2 on the old DCUM forum and several from Fetlife among other places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son’s travel lacrosse coach. Started with flirty texts last spring and still going strong.

My wife was the same, my son carries a lot of guilt for the ruin of our family. Well done, you have achieved sub human status in an impressive manner!

Do you think they care? Nope. They will blame you for not "paying attention to their needs"

True, selfishness is a defining character flaw than cannot be overcome without a major overhaul. There is a special place in hell for cheaters and AP’s, they truly create hell on earth for their victims.

Get some perspective, chump.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son’s travel lacrosse coach. Started with flirty texts last spring and still going strong.

My wife was the same, my son carries a lot of guilt for the ruin of our family. Well done, you have achieved sub human status in an impressive manner!

Do you think they care? Nope. They will blame you for not "paying attention to their needs"

True, selfishness is a defining character flaw than cannot be overcome without a major overhaul. There is a special place in hell for cheaters and AP’s, they truly create hell on earth for their victims.

Get some perspective, chump.

What would perspective look like in the eyes of someone who deserves zero respect?

I am a chump, but only because I wasn’t given the chance to not be one. You CHOSE to have low character and become unworthy of empathy, so I am thinking you are the real chump. You weren’t even good enough for a public relationship, too embarrassing for anything outside of a hidden escape from real life.

[Anonymous]

On the BART train at Embarcadero during a 5 hour layover at SFO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

I bet her husband wishes this scumbag was good enough to take the liar off his hands, but he was never good enough to win.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

I bet her husband wishes this scumbag was good enough to take the liar off his hands, but he was never good enough to win.

Oh I won. She wasn't married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

Lost her to cancer at an early age.

[Anonymous]

At work

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ex H met his at a conference hotel bar on a business trip (the bartender). It lasted 3 years and ended in divorce, kids hating him, loss of most his friends, his family disappointed, loss of his job, and an alcohol problem.

He is a loser. How can he let an affair ruined his life like that? Okay he lost his wife not the end of the world. But becoming an alcoholic and losing his job? Sorry your ex had bigger mental health issues.

Rule#1: keep a job (preferably a high paying job)
Rule#2: Don't let losing an ex affect your personal life. They are not the only people in the world.

People with healthy bonds to other people indeed feel like losing their spouse is a very big deal. You build a life with that person and trust them more than anyone.

For men it's tougher because first they relied on their mother and then later on their wife. So when the wife is gone it's a big deal.

Not if the man is capable of relying on himself.

Ha ha ha right

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

I bet her husband wishes this scumbag was good enough to take the liar off his hands, but he was never good enough to win.

Oh I won. She wasn't married.

She lost and so did your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had about 15 APs over a 4 year period although some were just one-time sex. Especially those who lived in other states including a hook-up and my HS reunion. I met about half on AshleyMadison and the rest on conventional dating sites or a forum for cheaters that was very active back then but is gone now. Half of them were married and the rest were either single or had some kind of boyfriend. None of them lasted more than a year until the last one and I was with her 9 years.

Wow, 9 years what happened?

Lost her to cancer at an early age.

Karma