Feeling frustrated about wife’s lack of interest in building a social circle

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Anonymous wrote:Is she working FT? I’m exhausted from working and doing all of the organizing/planning for our family.

UMC white women used to socialize in the neighborhood and even be able to send our kids outside to play alone. Now we work.

There aren’t enough hours in the day with young kids and work, and something has to give. What has to give is fun.

Me too. I try to make time for close friends a few times a week. And I use my nanny for playdates. She's good, and I think other moms, even SAHM, are happy to have a break when we host and she's the one watching the kids.

[Anonymous]

What kind of husband calls his wife’s friends “girls?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This OP is clearly a verbose woman posting about her couch potato husband.

Ha I thought this too!

OP I get the frustration. When you have kids, there is a level of "suck it up" rather than just catering to your own preferences all the time. And yes they benefit from playdates, families becoming friends with same age kids, engaging in the school and neighborhood community, etc. For people saying it's "friendships of convenience" or whatever, so what? It's serving a purpose for that time.

I also think it's great when Dads initiate stuff though obviously it is less common. For us, DH is not really any initiator with new people. He takes awhile to warm up. But once things are chugging along, and for people he likes, he's open to socializing and even starts to plan stuff and actively enjoys it.

Do you think your DW would be feel differently "over the hump" of the initial stuff, if you can help her visualize that?

To echo another PP I'm not loving that she calls other moms "weird." Most of us are just trying to get thru the day in this busy phase and don't need judgment.

OP here. I think the bolded is accurate. DW has trouble "getting going" with social groups, but I think once she got up and running so to speak, she'd feel better.