If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:You’ve only just started dating. Why would you even want to get serious? I mean be with her while it rocks your boat but don’t commingle assets.
I hope you have kids already? Cause she isn’t gonna give you any so one less reason to think about what happens in 10 years. Also don’t live together and the question is moot. I don’t understand why someone thinks 10 years ahead if no kids or finances are involved.
I am a 49yo woman fwiw.

Because there are many benefits of committed relationship. Weird you as woman don’t get it
I’m a 47 yo woman and I do want to live with a committed partner, not on my own. On the end of the day, companion, someone’s back home is what matters long term.
Maybe OP doesn’t want to run around looking for a GF in his 50s, when he’s an empty nester.

I met a lot of single men in their late 50s desperate to remarry . They were the men who didn’t rush to commit in their 40s, and some regretted not holding on to women they loved

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I’m 61 and my BF is 53. We’ve been together 8 yrs. I have a higher sex drive than he does.

[Anonymous]

42 and 49 are basically the same age. It's not like you are 42 and she's 60 for crying out loud. You'll probably have more ED issues before she's lost her libido" TBH.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Reading all the comments with interest. Apart from mismatched aging, I don't have concerns. We have a strong, open, supportive emotional connection, we find each other interesting to talk to, we laugh together, we have common interests, our kids are similar ages, we both want long-term companionship, etc. I don't want these thoughts about aging to corrupt an otherwise beautiful relationship, but on the other hand, I don't want to stay in this now and increase our commitment if it's foreseeably doomed. If we broke up, I'm sure I could "do" younger, but there's a lot of risk there --- no guarantee I would find all the other pieces with someone else and no guarantee that younger woman would age well at all.

“Doomed”?!

Let her go. She deserves so much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 42 year old man, dating a woman who's 49. It's getting serious. I'm really into her. She takes care of herself, is in good shape, looks great, and has a high libido. (I think all the same applies to me). But I keep thinking about what will happen in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years. Will she suddenly age quickly, lose her libido, etc., while I'm still fit and active for an extended period? I know eventually I'll be old and have a lower libido, too, and then we'll probably be back in sync, but there will presumably be a lag -- potentially for many years. Have people been through this? How'd it work out?

Don't worry. Odds are in her favour. Forget about looks. From a physical and health standpoint women simply do better as they age. We men do not age well. We never managed stress properly in our 40s, we e eat like crap, we drink too much beer and sadly our libido tank much sooner.

I think she should worry about you instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband dumped me when I turned 50 – for someone 35. I was 5 years older. Worked out well for him.

He is an idiot. But his gf was even more stupid than him.

[Anonymous]

Menopause can really alter a woman’s body and her sex drive and enjoyment.

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This is not that big of an age gap.

You can break up for a million reasons. As long as you don’t want kids, you are fine.

It would be a bigger concern if it was a 15 or 20 year age gap like an Ashton Kutcher or Jason Mamoa type situation.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men age more slowly than women overall, about 15 years behind them, so her at 50 will be about the same as you at 65 years old, give or take depending on your genetics and health.

So take that into account. If you have a great relationship, just have some realistic expectations about how her body will change in her 50s and 60s.

Prove your stats, please.

Why is that men die 5 years earlier than women on average?

Because women do the emotional and mental labor. Men are happier when they are married. Women are happier when they are not married. Bc many of us have to take care of an emotionally immature man who relies on his wife to manage things he deems unimportant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men age more slowly than women overall, about 15 years behind them, so her at 50 will be about the same as you at 65 years old, give or take depending on your genetics and health.

So take that into account. If you have a great relationship, just have some realistic expectations about how her body will change in her 50s and 60s.

Prove your stats, please.

Why is that men die 5 years earlier than women on average?

Because women do the emotional and mental labor. Men are happier when they are married. Women are happier when they are not married. Bc many of us have to take care of an emotionally immature man who relies on his wife to manage things he deems unimportant.

Men age much worse than women, and pick up more chronic conditions with the age. That’s just the stats: obesity is higher for men than for women after age 45.
Therefore, men die earlier.

If not for men being socially conditioned to date younger, based on these simple facts men should marry older women to be at the same stages of life

Libido is not everything: and men overwhelmingly have ED after 45.

It’s the overal life energy level, wellness etc that matters, too.

[Anonymous]

I think what you've described in a partner and relationship points to someone who would be happier with shorter relationships. You sound like someone who would value the intense beginning part of a relationship and the excitement of a new sexual partner.

Be good to your kids now though so when you become old and I'll they can take you to doctor's appointments and all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 42 year old man, dating a woman who's 49. It's getting serious. I'm really into her. She takes care of herself, is in good shape, looks great, and has a high libido. (I think all the same applies to me). But I keep thinking about what will happen in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years. Will she suddenly age quickly, lose her libido, etc., while I'm still fit and active for an extended period? I know eventually I'll be old and have a lower libido, too, and then we'll probably be back in sync, but there will presumably be a lag -- potentially for many years. Have people been through this? How'd it work out?

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