If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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09/01/2025 11:12

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Reading all the comments with interest. Apart from mismatched aging, I don't have concerns. We have a strong, open, supportive emotional connection, we find each other interesting to talk to, we laugh together, we have common interests, our kids are similar ages, we both want long-term companionship, etc. I don't want these thoughts about aging to corrupt an otherwise beautiful relationship, but on the other hand, I don't want to stay in this now and increase our commitment if it's foreseeably doomed. If we broke up, I'm sure I could "do" younger, but there's a lot of risk there --- no guarantee I would find all the other pieces with someone else and no guarantee that younger woman would age well at all.

OP, now you're starting to sound ridiculous and I question why your first marriage failed.

Why would you describe any relationship as "foreseeably doomed?" That is an odd comment and one you should think about. Do you not believe that you and your partner actually play a role in the success or demise of a relationship? The outcome is not already written in stone somewhere, for you to discover. You create your outcome; perhaps you don't yet understand that?

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09/01/2025 11:16

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Demi Moore is very attractive and aged extremely well. Ashton K. ended up leaving her for a younger woman. That was inevitable.

Choose wisely.

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09/01/2025 11:32

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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OP sounds immature. His GF can do better.

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09/01/2025 11:35

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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It's going to depend on whether your love is stronger than your libido, OP. Some women breeze through menopause, and some have a really, really hard time and it can take years to feel alright again. No one can predict who will face what. You might have problems too.

Take it one day at a time, OP. I commend you for at least thinking about your future together.

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09/01/2025 15:42

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:It's going to depend on whether your love is stronger than your libido, OP. Some women breeze through menopause, and some have a really, really hard time and it can take years to feel alright again. No one can predict who will face what. You might have problems too.

Take it one day at a time, OP. I commend you for at least thinking about your future together.

She’s already in perimenopause if she was challenged by this process that would have already showed

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09/01/2025 16:21

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Reading all the comments with interest. Apart from mismatched aging, I don't have concerns. We have a strong, open, supportive emotional connection, we find each other interesting to talk to, we laugh together, we have common interests, our kids are similar ages, we both want long-term companionship, etc. I don't want these thoughts about aging to corrupt an otherwise beautiful relationship, but on the other hand, I don't want to stay in this now and increase our commitment if it's foreseeably doomed. If we broke up, I'm sure I could "do" younger, but there's a lot of risk there --- no guarantee I would find all the other pieces with someone else and no guarantee that younger woman would age well at all.

So your concern isn’t necessarily about this woman, it’s about being with ANY woman who wouldn’t age well, according to your expectations. I am curious to know how you look and act and how much of a catch you are. Why are you divorced? Did your ex not age according to your satisfaction?

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09/01/2025 16:32

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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I am friends with a couple where she is 61 and he is 44. They have been married for over ten years now. They are both great persons and they are a great couple.

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09/01/2025 16:51

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:If a woman is fit at age 49, she is likely to stay fit for the rest of her life.

I am age 64, my boyfriend is 67, we have regular sex. I do take HRT.

I don’t think that that age gap you mentioned as very big.

Not necessarily true. I was super fit until a major injury at 52 made it impossible to run, bike, lift weights or do yoga. Then hormonal fluctuations made it all worse despite HRT. I currently 25 pounds heavier and nothing is working to shed the weight. Libido is still fine, and I still feel good about sex, but I'm not the catch I was just a few years ago. If looks are the most important thing to you, then you'll probably end up dumping her not matter what. Spare her the pain.

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09/01/2025 19:05

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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you seem very calculating. such a turn off.

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09/01/2025 19:19

Subject: Re:If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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In the grand scheme of things, and in the context of relationships where many other things matter (like the situations and life events that happen to both of you), this doesn't matter and won't affect the overall quality of your relationship.

And you will age too, most likely in ways that you don't expect.

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09/01/2025 19:20

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:I am friends with a couple where she is 61 and he is 44. They have been married for over ten years now. They are both great persons and they are a great couple.

Yuck I hope he enjoys the vaginal prolapse years

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09/01/2025 19:22

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Reading all the comments with interest. Apart from mismatched aging, I don't have concerns. We have a strong, open, supportive emotional connection, we find each other interesting to talk to, we laugh together, we have common interests, our kids are similar ages, we both want long-term companionship, etc. I don't want these thoughts about aging to corrupt an otherwise beautiful relationship, but on the other hand, I don't want to stay in this now and increase our commitment if it's foreseeably doomed. If we broke up, I'm sure I could "do" younger, but there's a lot of risk there --- no guarantee I would find all the other pieces with someone else and no guarantee that younger woman would age well at all.

Hold tight to her. What you're describing does not come along very often, it really doesn't. You're lucky! Hold on and don't look back.

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09/01/2025 21:58

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Men age more slowly than women overall, about 15 years behind them, so her at 50 will be about the same as you at 65 years old, give or take depending on your genetics and health.

So take that into account. If you have a great relationship, just have some realistic expectations about how her body will change in her 50s and 60s.

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09/01/2025 21:58

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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Anonymous wrote:Men age more slowly than women overall, about 15 years behind them, so her at 50 will be about the same as you at 65 years old, give or take depending on your genetics and health.

So take that into account. If you have a great relationship, just have some realistic expectations about how her body will change in her 50s and 60s.

Prove your stats, please.

Why is that men die 5 years earlier than women on average?

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09/01/2025 22:06

Subject: If the woman's 5-10 years older than the man, how did it work when she hit her 50s and 60s?

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You’ve only just started dating. Why would you even want to get serious? I mean be with her while it rocks your boat but don’t commingle assets.
I hope you have kids already? Cause she isn’t gonna give you any so one less reason to think about what happens in 10 years. Also don’t live together and the question is moot. I don’t understand why someone thinks 10 years ahead if no kids or finances are involved.
I am a 49yo woman fwiw.