Weirdest Comments After Remodel

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I remodeled my bathroom with black and white tile and the ONLY comment my in laws made was "You could have used Bath Fitters and it would have been a lot cheaper." Like their hideous plastic bathroom!

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Anonymous wrote:Gaffe(s). French word. They like their « e » at the end of many words.

Ignore, OP. They’re just making small talk and want to imply your house was nice to begin with so they don’t come off as saying the original was terrible and the renos are saving the house. You’re taking offense when none is meant.

To be fair, I’ve seen tons of additions on single family homes. Only one has looked good. The others either look okay or slightly off to downright bad.

Usually, if someone needs the space it’s understandable why they accept the aesthetic downgrade. People are confused in OP’s situation because they clearly do not need the space (kid leaving for college) and yet they chose to downgrade aesthetically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I just completed a large addition on a SFH in close in Alexandria. We've owned the house for 15 years, it was 85% paid off, we have one kid entering a state school in 10 days, our retirement is extremely healthy, live frugally, had deferred maintenance that made no sense to do on a tiny house (windows were 60 years old, roof 22, exterior needed paint, , etc etc. It all made sense

But, I've had at least three people make really odd comments like "Ohhh, did you really need to do that?", "I mean you were doing fine, why spend all that?" etc

I'm taking it as jealousy or simple social gaffs but how would you respond to such stupid people?

You seem really upset that they weren't fawning all over your addition. Didn't you do it for you?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

WHY? Obviously the number of people living in the home is shrinking, but the size is expanding. That's odd. It's my business if you are foisting discussion of it on me, you made it my business.

The question was why people don't have enough social graces to not make rude comments about personal decisions that have nothing to do with them, and here you are doing just that. OP didn't ask what you thought about her decision to do the addition.

Have you never been on the Internet before? OP doesn't get to control us. We can comment on whatever we like.

That was not OP's question, anyway. She asked how to respond. You didn't answer the question either! oh no!

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Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

WHY? Obviously the number of people living in the home is shrinking, but the size is expanding. That's odd. It's my business if you are foisting discussion of it on me, you made it my business.

The question was why people don't have enough social graces to not make rude comments about personal decisions that have nothing to do with them, and here you are doing just that. OP didn't ask what you thought about her decision to do the addition.

Have you never been on the Internet before? OP doesn't get to control us. We can comment on whatever we like.

That was not OP's question, anyway. She asked how to respond. You didn't answer the question either! oh no!

I have, but have you? You can say whatever rude, stupid thing you want, and I'm free to question it and make fun of you. Isn't the internet great?

And yes, I did answer her question. Just not when responding to you.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

WHY? Obviously the number of people living in the home is shrinking, but the size is expanding. That's odd. It's my business if you are foisting discussion of it on me, you made it my business.

The question was why people don't have enough social graces to not make rude comments about personal decisions that have nothing to do with them, and here you are doing just that. OP didn't ask what you thought about her decision to do the addition.

Have you never been on the Internet before? OP doesn't get to control us. We can comment on whatever we like.

That was not OP's question, anyway. She asked how to respond. You didn't answer the question either! oh no!

I have, but have you? You can say whatever rude, stupid thing you want, and I'm free to question it and make fun of you. Isn't the internet great?

And yes, I did answer her question. Just not when responding to you.

Well then, go back to your thread police work, I'd hate to distract you from hall monitoring the Internet. Doesn't Twitter need you?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

WHY? Obviously the number of people living in the home is shrinking, but the size is expanding. That's odd. It's my business if you are foisting discussion of it on me, you made it my business.

The question was why people don't have enough social graces to not make rude comments about personal decisions that have nothing to do with them, and here you are doing just that. OP didn't ask what you thought about her decision to do the addition.

Have you never been on the Internet before? OP doesn't get to control us. We can comment on whatever we like.

That was not OP's question, anyway. She asked how to respond. You didn't answer the question either! oh no!

I have, but have you? You can say whatever rude, stupid thing you want, and I'm free to question it and make fun of you. Isn't the internet great?

And yes, I did answer her question. Just not when responding to you.

Well then, go back to your thread police work, I'd hate to distract you from hall monitoring the Internet. Doesn't Twitter need you?

Awwww, doubling down on your stupidity. You're exactly who OP was talking about.

[Anonymous]

I can assure you that many people are wondering why you did this now as new empty nesters. Clearly a few rudely said it aloud. I would just shrug and say it's something we wanted to do. I've had a couple friends do this. Their houses look great.

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It's funny how illiterate many of you are when it comes to Real Estate. If they moved they lose a lot in the transaction and get screwed on the interest rate. Any buyer is going to do exactly what OP did.

Reminds me of the comments I got when my youngest went to Cornell over Virginia Tech.

"Why wouldn't you send your kid to a state school? Undergrad doesnt even really matter!"

This coming from folks whose kids went to VCU...

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe that thought your house looked very nice before!

Probably this and your timing is kind of odd so they are curious. Most people don’t wait until their kids move out to add on to their house.

I think it’s this. Honestly I would wonder why anyone would bother with an addition right when they’re about to become empty nesters. But I wouldn’t say anything because it’s going to come off rude no matter what, unless we were really, really close.

And yet, every 'empty nester' I know here in DC has their kids moving back in after college for at least a couple years. So- having your first born off to college is hardly becoming an empty nester. I have a college sophomore and a HS freshman. My freshman won't be done with college for 8 years and then probably back home for a year or two after. That's a decade. 2035 is a long way off.

Lots of jealousy in here.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe that thought your house looked very nice before!

Probably this and your timing is kind of odd so they are curious. Most people don’t wait until their kids move out to add on to their house.

I think it’s this. Honestly I would wonder why anyone would bother with an addition right when they’re about to become empty nesters. But I wouldn’t say anything because it’s going to come off rude no matter what, unless we were really, really close.

And yet, every 'empty nester' I know here in DC has their kids moving back in after college for at least a couple years. So- having your first born off to college is hardly becoming an empty nester. I have a college sophomore and a HS freshman. My freshman won't be done with college for 8 years and then probably back home for a year or two after. That's a decade. 2035 is a long way off.

Lots of jealousy in here.

I really don't think it's jealousy, just odd timing to a lot of folks even though yes, the kid may move back.

[Anonymous]

PP here who had awkward comments after our reno/addition. We also did it later in life - one kid in MS and one in HS. I would have loved to renovate earlier but unfortunately, we weren't in a financial position to do so. The oldest is now in college and believe me, DC is around the house plenty. We're thrilled we have more space and a more comfortable home at this stage of life.

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Anonymous wrote:PP here who had awkward comments after our reno/addition. We also did it later in life - one kid in MS and one in HS. I would have loved to renovate earlier but unfortunately, we weren't in a financial position to do so. The oldest is now in college and believe me, DC is around the house plenty. We're thrilled we have more space and a more comfortable home at this stage of life.

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That's the best part. Was OP supposed to continue living in a small, cramped, dated home needing repairs...... because it wasn't full of kids? Like, do you have any idea how many huge SFHs in Mclean and Arlington are occupied by childless 50 and 60 year olds?

Jealously is so obvious when it shows up.

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Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people in this area feel very unsure about the future right now OP. Think the comments are probably coming from this point of view.

This exactly. Maybe dial down the details when sharing the renovation.

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Anonymous wrote:PP here who had awkward comments after our reno/addition. We also did it later in life - one kid in MS and one in HS. I would have loved to renovate earlier but unfortunately, we weren't in a financial position to do so. The oldest is now in college and believe me, DC is around the house plenty. We're thrilled we have more space and a more comfortable home at this stage of life.

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That's the best part. Was OP supposed to continue living in a small, cramped, dated home needing repairs...... because it wasn't full of kids? Like, do you have any idea how many huge SFHs in Mclean and Arlington are occupied by childless 50 and 60 year olds?

Jealously is so obvious when it shows up.

It's envy, actually, not jealousy.