Weirdest Comments After Remodel

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s jealousy. They think it looks like a massive ugly tumor on your house. That’s not an excuse for them to be unkind, but that’s 100% the reason. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Why not just tell them what you told us?

[Anonymous]

It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I just completed a large addition on a SFH in close in Alexandria. We've owned the house for 15 years, it was 85% paid off, we have one kid entering a state school in 10 days, our retirement is extremely healthy, live frugally, had deferred maintenance that made no sense to do on a tiny house (windows were 60 years old, roof 22, exterior needed paint, , etc etc. It all made sense

But, I've had at least three people make really odd comments like "Ohhh, did you really need to do that?", "I mean you were doing fine, why spend all that?" etc

I'm taking it as jealousy or simple social gaffs but how would you respond to such stupid people?

Hmmm - odd.

Were the people making the comments BIPOCs or whites? Are you BIPOC ?

[Anonymous]

You made a large addition to the house.
Is it ugly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are just speaking their truth. Sorry you can't handle it.

No, your perception of "truth" wrapped in extreme rudeness in not speaking the truth. Especially about something that's none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need a large addition of the kids are going off to college?

JFC why do you care? Is it your money they are spending?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

[Anonymous]

You are micro-analyzing other people's reactions. That's why

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

Why are you policing other people’s speech? Are you a communist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

Why are you policing other people’s speech? Are you a communist?

Why are you policing what other people do with their homes and their own money? Are you a dumb MAGAt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s jealousy. They think it looks like a massive ugly tumor on your house. That’s not an excuse for them to be unkind, but that’s 100% the reason. Ignore.

This. They think your house looked better before and are sad about the too big/too modern update. They are also probably confused as to why you'd expand the footprint as your family is shrinking, especially if the addition is hideous or has negative impacts in the neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

WHY? Obviously the number of people living in the home is shrinking, but the size is expanding. That's odd. It's my business if you are foisting discussion of it on me, you made it my business.

[Anonymous]

My neighbors had a beautiful white brick house that was absolutely gorgeous.

They decided to upgrade and got brand new beige siding. Beige. They loved it and would gush about how beautiful it was. To me, it looked like the before picture, but obviously I would never say that to them.

Maybe your friends think your house was cute before and now looks a little garish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s super weird to expand your house as your kid goes off to college.

Why? And what business is it of yours?

WHY? Obviously the number of people living in the home is shrinking, but the size is expanding. That's odd. It's my business if you are foisting discussion of it on me, you made it my business.

The question was why people don't have enough social graces to not make rude comments about personal decisions that have nothing to do with them, and here you are doing just that. OP didn't ask what you thought about her decision to do the addition.