Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.

Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!

One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?

So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.

You do know kids drink at college, right?

Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.

Some do. Some don't.

[Anonymous]

Ha never crossed my mind and I’m fairly flexible/liberal about older teens drinking with the right safety precautions. If nothing else it seems like kind of a weird boundary thing, like everybody drinks freshman year of college but having your parents supply it seems both unnecessary and strangely over involved. Go be a freshman like everyone else and find the parties. I did buy beer for college sophomore dd who was social chair of an extracurricular club when they were hosting an event and it was just easier for me to pick it up when we were visiting than for her to get upper classmen to go to the store.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.

Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!

One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?

So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.

You do know kids drink at college, right?

Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.

Some do. Some don't.

Tell yourself what you need to if it helps you sleep better at night, but the more you shelter your kid, the wilder they're going to go at college when they escape from your overbearing grip.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No all the freshman have fake ID's why would they need me to buy alcohol?

I was going to say the same thing.

What's interesting is that people are outraged simply because the US has a 21 drinking age.

You may decline, but I don't think anyone would be reacting as much if the question was "did you buy your student alcohol when you dropped them off at Oxford?" At the least, the reactions may be more along the lines that they can use their own money for that.

Well, duh. The reaction is because it is illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha never crossed my mind and I’m fairly flexible/liberal about older teens drinking with the right safety precautions. If nothing else it seems like kind of a weird boundary thing, like everybody drinks freshman year of college but having your parents supply it seems both unnecessary and strangely over involved. Go be a freshman like everyone else and find the parties. I did buy beer for college sophomore dd who was social chair of an extracurricular club when they were hosting an event and it was just easier for me to pick it up when we were visiting than for her to get upper classmen to go to the store.

cue the pearl clutching

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

That’s all well and good, but every college I’ve ever heard of does not allow students under 21 to drink. So buying your on-campus underage kid alcohol is going to get them in trouble. Parental permission does not override school rules.

did you go to college?

Did you pay a lot of attention to the rules about drinking? Also, it's not the colleges that ban drinking under 21, it' the law.

But it doesn't matter. Whether or not you buy a bottle for your kid, they're probably going to try to booze.

I was specifically addressing the PP’s apparent point that it is legal for someone underage to drink on private property with parents permission. That’s not going to fly as an excuse in college.

Yes, I did go to college. No, I didn’t drink. I barely drink now. Yes, friends drank. If my kid wants to drink, they’ll figure it out, pay for it themselves, and take the consequences if they are caught. I’m not facilitating it, and I’m not going to make some bs argument that it’s legal because I said they could do it.

[Anonymous]

No judgement as I understand the rationale but no I did not and would not.
My advice is don't drink anything you didn't open yourself and keep with you, i.e. pretty much means beer. Always have a designated sober girl for every party and never leave anyone behind or let them off by themselves.
This is a genuine concern I just don't think you supplying the booze is the answer.
By the way vast majority of colleges do checks on dorm rooms and will confiscate booze from students under 21 and also subject them to the disciplinary process.
Definitely check the rules at your school before bringing alcohol into your kid's room

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

That’s all well and good, but every college I’ve ever heard of does not allow students under 21 to drink. So buying your on-campus underage kid alcohol is going to get them in trouble. Parental permission does not override school rules.

did you go to college?

Did you pay a lot of attention to the rules about drinking? Also, it's not the colleges that ban drinking under 21, it' the law.

But it doesn't matter. Whether or not you buy a bottle for your kid, they're probably going to try to booze.

I was specifically addressing the PP’s apparent point that it is legal for someone underage to drink on private property with parents permission. That’s not going to fly as an excuse in college.

Yes, I did go to college. No, I didn’t drink. I barely drink now. Yes, friends drank. If my kid wants to drink, they’ll figure it out, pay for it themselves, and take the consequences if they are caught. I’m not facilitating it, and I’m not going to make some bs argument that it’s legal because I said they could do it.

so, you're on Team Let the Frat Guy Mentor Your 18 Year Old Daughter And Mix Her Drinks For Her.

Yikes.

[Anonymous]

^and yes, it’s the law, but colleges also explicitly state in their own rules what is allowed and not allowed on their campus. So parental permission might be allowed UNDER THE LAW in some very specific instances, but that still doesn’t override the school’s alcohol rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.

Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!

One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?

How much did you leave your kid with? Or are you going to keep delivering booze throughout the year?

A bottle of Cabo Wabo tequila. She texted her thanks and we told her that we would field requests before we visited, and we did. She never got in trouble.

And you are she would have gotten into trouble without you delivering alcohol? That her parent’s alcohol kept her safe?

Interesting logic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not all humans drink alcohol.

But all college freshmen sure do!

What decade are you posting from?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

That’s all well and good, but every college I’ve ever heard of does not allow students under 21 to drink. So buying your on-campus underage kid alcohol is going to get them in trouble. Parental permission does not override school rules.

did you go to college?

Did you pay a lot of attention to the rules about drinking? Also, it's not the colleges that ban drinking under 21, it' the law.

But it doesn't matter. Whether or not you buy a bottle for your kid, they're probably going to try to booze.

I was specifically addressing the PP’s apparent point that it is legal for someone underage to drink on private property with parents permission. That’s not going to fly as an excuse in college.

Yes, I did go to college. No, I didn’t drink. I barely drink now. Yes, friends drank. If my kid wants to drink, they’ll figure it out, pay for it themselves, and take the consequences if they are caught. I’m not facilitating it, and I’m not going to make some bs argument that it’s legal because I said they could do it.

so, you're on Team Let the Frat Guy Mentor Your 18 Year Old Daughter And Mix Her Drinks For Her.

Yikes.

No, I’m on team be a parent and teach your kid decision making skills and consequences before they go to college. You should try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not all humans drink alcohol.

But all college freshmen sure do!

What decade are you posting from?

"My DD tells me she would NEVER drink alcohol, and I believe her because she's very special and definitely not like every other teenager."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In some states it makes sense to do this, especially if they are attending a private college.

From WebMd https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/alcohol-laws

t’s not always illegal for people under 21 to drink. In 45 states, laws allow underage drinking in certain situations.

In 29 states, someone under 21 may drink with their parents’ permission if it’s in a private residence or on private property.
Five states allow someone under 21 to drink on private property without their parents’ consent.
Eight states allow underage people to drink with a parent’s consent in public restaurants or bars.
In 26 states, people under 21 may drink alcohol as part of religious services, such as a ceremony in your church.
In 16 states, underage people can drink alcohol if prescribed by a doctor for medical reasons.
In 11 states, you can drink under 21 if it’s for educational reasons, like you’re in cooking school.
In 10 states, there are specific laws prohibiting the hosting of underage drinking parties
Five states allow underage people to drink as part of government work, such as undercover police investigations.

That’s all well and good, but every college I’ve ever heard of does not allow students under 21 to drink. So buying your on-campus underage kid alcohol is going to get them in trouble. Parental permission does not override school rules.

did you go to college?

Did you pay a lot of attention to the rules about drinking? Also, it's not the colleges that ban drinking under 21, it' the law.

But it doesn't matter. Whether or not you buy a bottle for your kid, they're probably going to try to booze.

I was specifically addressing the PP’s apparent point that it is legal for someone underage to drink on private property with parents permission. That’s not going to fly as an excuse in college.

Yes, I did go to college. No, I didn’t drink. I barely drink now. Yes, friends drank. If my kid wants to drink, they’ll figure it out, pay for it themselves, and take the consequences if they are caught. I’m not facilitating it, and I’m not going to make some bs argument that it’s legal because I said they could do it.

so, you're on Team Let the Frat Guy Mentor Your 18 Year Old Daughter And Mix Her Drinks For Her.

Yikes.

No, I’m on team be a parent and teach your kid decision making skills and consequences before they go to college. You should try it sometime.

Nope, you just turned your daughter over to toxic rape culture adn are sitting at home snickering about how she has to learn "the consequences" herself. That's messed up.

Are you the person who suggested giving yoru daughter an STD before she left for college? this thread has some real sickos.

[Anonymous]

We got DS and his roommate 2 Kegs for their first week.