Can we wrap a mini-vacation around this funeral or is it insensitive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do it but don't talk about it during the funeral or to those who might be sensitive

+1

[Anonymous]

Absolutely do it! Lots of people wouldn’t even attend the funeral because of the time and money associated; if you can attend the funeral and spend a couple extra days with your kids (who are in college and will be adults with their own lives soon), you should take advantage of that.

[Anonymous]

Great uncle? Get serious. It's not like a 5 year old died. Totally fine to do a vacation with the funeral. Old people die and these services should not be full of shock and extreme displays of grief.

[Anonymous]

I actually don't think it's insensitive to say "we flew in for Joe's funeral, but will be taking a few days to sightsee before heading home."

I have done the same numerous times. It doesn't mean anything about how close I was to the person. My kids are little though. I think everyone understands that I need to take them to the zoo or the aquarium on a vacation around my grandma's funeral. Yikes- we even went to a playground between the graveside service and the repast so they could get energy out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do all the vacationing after the funeral matters. Unless the arrival was truly dictated by flight prices.

This. Better psychologically for all of you. You could also skip the event entirely if not close to the immediate family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do it but don't talk about it during the funeral or to those who might be sensitive

This completely. Especially about the part before the ceremony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do it but don't talk about it during the funeral or to those who might be sensitive

+1 agree with this, don't have to volunteer this info to the closest family members. Or post on social media.

[Anonymous]

Things you say out loud:

1) You are choosing this service instead of the later service because you all adored Uncle Rico and wanted to be there for him and the family, and this timing allows you to do that much better than the September date.

2) Because you’re coming from the East Coast, with kids, you built in a few days to help everyone get over their jet lag at the beginning, and catch their breath at the end.

Things you keep to yourself:

If a visit to Disneyland/Alcatraz/the San Diego zoo/a Mariners game helps you overcome your jet lag or prepare for your return flight, that’s nobody’s business but your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do it but don't talk about it during the funeral or to those who might be sensitive

+1 agree with this, don't have to volunteer this info to the closest family members. Or post on social media.

But why vacation if you can’t post it on social media, or bring it up in conversation with everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually don't think it's insensitive to say "we flew in for Joe's funeral, but will be taking a few days to sightsee before heading home."

I have done the same numerous times. It doesn't mean anything about how close I was to the person. My kids are little though. I think everyone understands that I need to take them to the zoo or the aquarium on a vacation around my grandma's funeral. Yikes- we even went to a playground between the graveside service and the repast so they could get energy out.

Yeah, you shouldn't talk about sightseeing when talking about attending a funeral. You're in the wrong on this one.

[Anonymous]

Gosh if I’m the great uncle I’m looking down applauding you for making the most of the time you have on this Earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually don't think it's insensitive to say "we flew in for Joe's funeral, but will be taking a few days to sightsee before heading home."

I have done the same numerous times. It doesn't mean anything about how close I was to the person. My kids are little though. I think everyone understands that I need to take them to the zoo or the aquarium on a vacation around my grandma's funeral. Yikes- we even went to a playground between the graveside service and the repast so they could get energy out.

Yeah, you shouldn't talk about sightseeing when talking about attending a funeral. You're in the wrong on this one.

I believe in reincarnation and that we have many many lives so it would be exhausting to get so terribly offended each time a relative completes the rebirth and death cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do it but don't talk about it during the funeral or to those who might be sensitive

+1 agree with this, don't have to volunteer this info to the closest family members. Or post on social media.

But why vacation if you can’t post it on social media, or bring it up in conversation with everyone?

I hope you’re kidding, but who knows these days?

[Anonymous]

I think its fine and wouldn't bring it up excessively but also wouldn't try to hide it by any means.

[Anonymous]

The world is on fire. Go mourn popop or whomever.

Then, go vacayyyyyyyyyy.