DC didn’t do SAT prep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With the ex saying things like only the top schools are worth attending and if you don’t get in it isn’t worth going to college at all, but also dismissing and discounting the value of SAT prep, is there a possibility that he’s trying to sabotage the whole thing so he doesn’t have to pay for college? Does he want your son to go into the trades or military or something totally different?

I agree, it sounds like sabotage (maybe unintentional).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#3 is most certainly correct

my kid admitted to VT with lower SATs and certainly lower GPA (more Bs than what she is describing)

[Anonymous]

You are blaming your ex for everything and a lot of it is misplaced. Your kid got a good SAT score. It’s not what you wanted but it’s good.

You lost me when you blamed dad for the Bs freshman year. My kid had a REALLY bad freshman year and all As since. He has a 3.56UW because of that. It’s because of HIS actions. Not because of me or DH. He is not even taking the SATs and going TO. And he will be okay with college admissions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does your husband get to decide things?

Ex husband. OP wanted him to pay for it.

Is that wrong, that I would expect him to pay half? He makes more than I do.

It’s not wrong. But if you expect him to make all the same decisions that you do, I assume you wouldn’t have divorced him.

It seems like you’re willing to have your kid suffer the consequences just to ensure that both you and your X don’t agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can find free prep classes online OP. I think you are being dramatic and want to blame ex DH for DCs “failure”. By the way 1320 is a perfectly normal score.

Yes, my son with a 4.0 gpa has been prepping for a month or two and just got a 1330 on his practice test. That translates to getting 9-10 reading/writing incorrect and 7-9 math incorrect. It's not an easy test. We all ought to ease off our kids a bit here and quit expecting 1500+.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are blaming your ex for everything and a lot of it is misplaced. Your kid got a good SAT score. It’s not what you wanted but it’s good.

You lost me when you blamed dad for the Bs freshman year. My kid had a REALLY bad freshman year and all As since. He has a 3.56UW because of that. It’s because of HIS actions. Not because of me or DH. He is not even taking the SATs and going TO. And he will be okay with college admissions.

She didn’t blame the Bs on dad, she blamed them on the rocky situation. It’s extremely common for kids’ grades to slip when their parents are getting divorced. It’s a lot for a kid to handle, no matter how well the parents are managing things. This is also exactly what the “additional info” section is for - a sentence or two that parents were getting divorced during freshman year and that impacted focus is fine, especially with excellent grades since then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

I'm not the PP, but if you make 120K a year you can afford this on your own. Is it fair, because your exH should be chipping in? No. But I presume that's why he's your ex. So you can either prioritize your kid's SAT prep (and there's no guarantee he'll get a 1500+ even with the prep), or just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

I'm not the PP, but if you make 120K a year you can afford this on your own. Is it fair, because your exH should be chipping in? No. But I presume that's why he's your ex. So you can either prioritize your kid's SAT prep (and there's no guarantee he'll get a 1500+ even with the prep), or just let it go.

+1. Agree with this, but FYI, there are cheaper alternatives to SAT prep online. Has your kid tried the Khan Academy free SAT prep?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1320 is a good score. Fyi 1350 is the 90% per centie.

I think many students and parents have lost the plot because with test-optional people stopped submitted anything under 1450-1500 for top schools.

The SAT does NOT matter as much in comparison to GPA. Also, as more top colleges transition to test-required, they are encouraging students to submit scores in the 90%ile and not just the 98%ile.

For example, last month at Tufts the AO said during an info session to parents/students that while they are remaining test-optional, they are strongly encouraging kids to submit any SAT scores over 1300 and any ACT over 28. They said the scores they are reporting for 25th%ile and 50th%ile are overly inflated because kids are holding back on submitting high scores and what's being reported is unfortunately intimidating and over-inflated due to being test optional.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

I'm not the PP, but if you make 120K a year you can afford this on your own. Is it fair, because your exH should be chipping in? No. But I presume that's why he's your ex. So you can either prioritize your kid's SAT prep (and there's no guarantee he'll get a 1500+ even with the prep), or just let it go.

Why is it unfair if both parents agree kid has free options for self studying?

[Anonymous]

You have a good income. Why can’t you pay for prep?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

I'm not the PP, but if you make 120K a year you can afford this on your own. Is it fair, because your exH should be chipping in? No. But I presume that's why he's your ex. So you can either prioritize your kid's SAT prep (and there's no guarantee he'll get a 1500+ even with the prep), or just let it go.

Why is it unfair if both parents agree kid has free options for self studying?

He has a good sat score, to increase it he needs help. Either get help, do it yourself or be ok with the score.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

I'm not the PP, but if you make 120K a year you can afford this on your own. Is it fair, because your exH should be chipping in? No. But I presume that's why he's your ex. So you can either prioritize your kid's SAT prep (and there's no guarantee he'll get a 1500+ even with the prep), or just let it go.

+1. Agree with this, but FYI, there are cheaper alternatives to SAT prep online. Has your kid tried the Khan Academy free SAT prep?

Khan doesn’t offer what it used to, not since the digital SAT came in. I wish people would stop assuming it’s that easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your son’s SAT score is better than fine.

2. If you can’t even afford to spring for an SAT prep course then you ain’t paying for your kid to go to a private college.

3. Your kid ain’t getting into UVA, W&M and probably Tech regardless.

4. So JMU it is. And it’s a great school.

5. Stop blaming your ex for your kid’s laziness.

1. See PP’s post about TO and how it has led to SAT inflation and intimidation due to kids with lesser scores not submitting.

2. OP can afford it but does not want to set a precedent with ex H.

Where are you getting this from?? She said:

“without his dad on board I couldn’t swing it on my own financially.”

OP here. I could have phrased it better. Technically yes I can pay 1 or 2 k for prep but there are factors for not wanting to do it on my own. Happy?

I'm not the PP, but if you make 120K a year you can afford this on your own. Is it fair, because your exH should be chipping in? No. But I presume that's why he's your ex. So you can either prioritize your kid's SAT prep (and there's no guarantee he'll get a 1500+ even with the prep), or just let it go.

+1. Agree with this, but FYI, there are cheaper alternatives to SAT prep online. Has your kid tried the Khan Academy free SAT prep?

Khan doesn’t offer what it used to, not since the digital SAT came in. I wish people would stop assuming it’s that easy.

I’m not aware of how Khan SAT prep has changed but it is an option, and obviously would have been better than what OP’s kid did, which was to go in cold and unprepared for the SAT. I’ve seen 600$ online test preps too. It doesn’t have to be that expensive